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I suppose I’m going to catch a lot of flack for this but I’ve never been one to stifle my opinion due to controversy so here it goes…

First Comes Love…

I definitely think Evelyn Lozada played a larger part in the train wreck that has become the demise of she and Chad Johnson’s “marriage” then what’s been portrayed in the media. What is it with Hollywood  couples and the drama that always seems to ensue in their cars?!?! Chris Brown and Rihanna, Tiny and T.I., Mister Cee and his male/female friend *clears throat* (no pun intended), and now Chad and Evelyn. High priced, luxury vehicles are quickly becoming the go to scene to get your name in all the blogs and on everybody’s lips… I digress though, back to the Chad and Evelyn fiasco…

Everyone has an opinion on the authenticity of their marriage and all the foolery that followed less than 41 days afterward. The latest celebrity to publicly weigh in has been retired NFL defensive tackle Warren Sapp. He was quoted as having made the following statements to a reporter of the Miami New Times in an interview posted on 8/23/12.

Do you think the Dolphins are worse off without Chad “Ochocinco” Johnson?

I was rooting for him. When Chad had that first press conference on Hard Knocks, I thought to myself, “This isn’t good.” The coaches came to him and let him know he can’t do this, he represents the organization, etc. I have a sense of humor, but they should have come to him and said, ” I saw the press conference. If you do it again, you’re gone.” He didn’t know if this was his first strike, second strike, what it was. They were setting him up. There were so many potholes; he didn’t know where to step.

You think they used the Evelyn Lozada fight to kick him off the team?

Come on. Tell me the first and last name of a brother who headbutted someone.

Chad Johnson, I suppose.

No, before that. When is the last time one of your home boys called you and told you, “Let me tell you about this fight at the club last night where this guy and his girlfriend were walking by and he turned around and head butted the girl.” Never. He’s taking the rap for it. We don’t do that. She did it. That’s a woman that is going to depend on her beauty for the rest of her life to open any door she wants to walk through, and she is going to do what to her forehead? I’m done. [Chad] is a bunch of fun and I am sorry this had to happen to him.

Then Comes Marriage…

Now, I’ve learned that the old saying “never judge a book by its cover” is usually true. Watching Evelyn Lozada on VH1′s hit Basketball Wives has definitely proven that everything that looks like sugar ain’t sweet, sometimes it’s just plain ole’ sh*t. I’m not sure if some folks missed it but I saw those episodes and Evelyn’s behavior took foolery, ratchetness, and just plain old childish behavior to new heights. So much so, that I would find myself embarrassed, cringing, clutching my pearls, and getting mad at the television largely in part due to her actions. Fast forward to Warren Sapp’s comments and I’m inclined to believe that there may be some truth to his statements.

Now, we know that Chad was arrested and convicted in 2000 for assaulting his ex-college girlfriend so there’s a history of behavior like this but we also know that Evelyn is volatile, reactionary, and angry and has a recent history of violence too? So what are we to believe?!?! I don’t think it’s an issue of black men not head butting women more so than it’s an issue of the girl who cried wolf.  All the details surrounding the events of that night may very well be true but we’ve seen Evelyn act in such an erratic, violent way on so many occasions that it makes it hard to believe that she is a damsel in distress.

Then Comes Jail…

Now I don’t think that any woman EVER deserves to be hit  BUT I believe the very same rule should apply for men too. Evelyn could very well be the victim here but her history of violence makes me take pause and although a lot may view it as a shame, it doesn’t change the fact that it’s true. Ultimately, only the two of them knows what happened in that car that night. Like a lot of men before him, Chad allowed the packaging to distract him from who he was really dealing with and it is costing him his career as well as his reputation.

Evelyn may very well be a victim of circumstance but I think a lot of us are using the term “victim” loosely as we’ve grown to know her as the woman who will clock you without a second thought. I guess the greater lesson here is that if you move too fast and ignore all the signs, you’re liable to crash and burn. Either way, I hope that Chad learns that it’s best to look before you leap in regards to the next woman he meets and Evelyn learns to think before you throw a bottle on the next season of Basketball Wives.