There are many theories that will Pop up in the weeks to come about this subject of Alleged Domestic Abuse by Chad Johnson against Evelyn Lozada … I don’t want to fuel the flame too much, but I do want to help you… the people… to understand how important it is to Remain Objective about things you don’t have intricate knowledge about.
I don’t condone any Man laying his hands, or head, on a woman; however, we all know there are times when emotions take over, and Rage becomes an uncontrollable action. I don’t think that happened here. It could be a Simple Publicity Stunt… or it could be something else entirely. The point is… We Don’t Know! I know this all makes for good nonsensical gossip but like Public Enemy used to say… Don’t Believe The Hype!
We all know HER persona… She is a Rah Rah Chick from the jump! And They BOTH are Attention Whores. It wouldn’t surprise me if this began as some publicity stunt… and then the joke was on Chad. Evelyn may have orchestrated this to get out of the marriage… Why… This is my theory. (I may as well introduce one just to show how ridiculous these “Theories” can get)
Let’s talk about the statement Kissy quoted from Evelyn, in her Latest Blog Post on this situation, when the statement was directed at BBW Jennifer Williams, as it pertained to Jennifer not being “About That Life“. I will first say I didn’t/don’t keep up with the show “Basketball Wives” and have seen maybe, five to seven episodes, the entire time it was on the air. But if Evelyn indeed said that… it is an Eye Opener into her thought processes.
Evelyn jumped at the chance to be “Wooed” by Ocho! I do seem to recall her letting him smash on the 1st night! And that’s not a knock on her, but it does show how much of a Player she is! She knows how to get them hooked! I suspect she does have that Good, Good, as she has left a few B-Ballers stuttering. Ochocinco, being the Cake Daddy he is, got caught up… Hook, Line, and Sinker.
But forget that... let’s just consider his status at the time…
6X Pro Bowl Receiver, 3X All Pro Team, 2X AFC Receiving Yards Leader, 2006 NFL Receiving Yards Leader, Star of his NFL team (Cincinnati Bengals at the time), Seeking a Championship, and very much sought after in the league. Couple that with the fact he was All Over the Tube! ESPN Sportscenter for Outrageous Antics, Dancing with The Stars, VH-1 Dating Show “The Ultimate Catch“, Social Media Giant on Twitter, and more!
Now look at her former Fiance, and step-Father to her Child, Antoine Walker… 2006 NBA Champion with the Miami Heat, 3-Time All-Star, 1997 NBA All Rookie Squad… this was in his hey day! So all this to say…
To Evelyn, “Being About that Life” was being in pursuit of the Hottest thing out. I mean she had a Hit Reality TV Show on the air… Even if I didn’t watch it much at all… Millions of Fans did! She has a Successful Shoe… and Burgeoning Apparel Boutique Business which she upgraded to only being eCommerce. So it makes practical sense that she would want to remain in the Limelight, if for No Other Reason than to remain a Major F’N Factor! Didn’t she diss a Humble Ordinary Working Guy on the show? I recall her Trainer or somebody trying to get at her.
Knowing this… She is not about to settle for a dude whose career is on a Downward Slope! Now this is an Overstatement because Chad is a Hustler Too! He still had deals with Gatorade and Reebok so he wasn’t at all washed up… but I doubt his career will survive this. And I believe she knows it! Maybe she wasn’t looking for Love… Maybe she is looking for security for the Life she has become accustomed to.
In my theory… She fears being on the B-List! His fledgling career could somehow affect her and her businesses. She is a Reality Star after all. Her Popularity and viability in the Marketplace, depends mostly on Public Opinion & Perception. I mean she doesn’t really want to go back to being just a Business Owner, having to compete for your business. So if most of her Majority Base (Females), perceives her as not “walking the walk” then she could lose revenue! So once her Cruise Ship (Ocho) started to sink… it makes sense she would jump ship!
I Could be Completely Wrong! She could be devastated over this happening… along with her current family tragedy. Maybe she is afraid of being hurt… maybe she wants to be the one in control… who knows? But consider this… since we are exploring theories…
Ain’t that some Shit? LOL! Speaking from Chad’s perspective… “Just when I need this chick the most… she tries to clown me, and send me to the Poor House, while everyone in America empathizes with her!”
Of course I am just spoofing the situation in this writing, and I hope she doesn’t take it to heart if she reads this. It’s written because I sense that A Lot of People will put a spin on “The Real Situation” in the coming weeks. So much so, that I won’t doubt if the story becomes something neither Chad nor Evelyn could have imagined!
I actually like Evelyn… I don’t consider myself a “Fan”, but I admire the Hustle and I think she is a Hot Chick and I wouldn’t mind Smashing… Ha ha… but My Opinionated Truth be Told… Evelyn doesn’t strike me as a Woman that really falls in Love with Men anymore. She always seemed, to me, to be out for hers. Maybe she has Daddy Issues… I don’t know.
But one thing is clear… When she got with Ocho, his career was in High Gear. To go from that… to teams wondering if they even want you on their roster… is not the “Life” she is about! She is a Bonafied Hustler No Doubt! And she will undoubtedly turn this into a triumph for herself. I dig that about her… At least she won’t be moaning and groaning about what happened! Her sales probably went up 20% since all this started!
If K-Michelle had something to sell, I’d bet she’d be raking it in right now too! She is raking up Appearance Fees… Believe It! And she has a Stellar Voice so when her Album drops… She will get the Sales! The sympathy dollars… are dollars nonetheless! But when I speak in this column I have to show empathy for all the BS Chad is about to go through! As you can see MemphHitz can’t even Open his Mouth to defend himself without the situation getting worse for him… He gotta put Toya out there to defend on his behalf! ha ha!
(All this Jazz is Madd Funny to me because it would seem like we have Bigger Issues in the World to concern ourselves with!)
Ocho Will Not go Bankrupt Over This… Let’s face it… Homie has been Ballin’ for years! But this can’t help his Marketing Image. Having made all of this Public, will cripple his Future Income Potential. As evidenced in losing both a NFL 1 Year Contract and another VH1 Reality Show deal all in 48 hours! The sponsorships will follow soon No Doubt! I can’t help but think that She Knows That! That, in and of itself, makes me a tad bit weary about her position in all of this.
Again I could be wrong… but consider this… To get Head-Butted… she had to say something to push him in that regard… I’m just saying! Maybe she was looking to push his buttons so that she could Execute her Exit Strategy! I don’t know… Maybe this is different, but she doesn’t strike me as a Ride or Die Chick. She does seem like a “I’ll ride this muthaphunka til it gets a Flat… then I’ll leave that Junker on the side of the Road… and get a New Car!” type of chick! It will be interesting to see how she lands on her feet after this one.
Evelyn is No Dummy and questionably a Victim! But I don’t think she will allow herself to be victimized, as this situation plays out on Entertainment’s World Stage. Unless it comes with a Paycheck! I wouldn’t be surprised if she had a New Line of T-Shirts Coming out that say…
(That’s Mine Eve… Cut Me In When You Make the Tees)!
Keep in mind that she knows what comes with being “Wifey” to an Athlete. She will probably raise the issue of fidelity with Chad via the media, in the coming reports, since this was supposedly started over an argument about a Condom receipt. This will get the majority of the Female Sentimental Vote for this ordeal.
But consider this ladies… She knows, and you know, Athletes are not going to be faithful in most cases. Too Much Ass comes their way, Daily, for them to honestly adhere to such a thing. Loyalty should be the main focal point, and not the sins of the flesh! When the wife of an Athlete, starts arguing about fidelity in the relationship, She Obviously Wants Out, and needs an excuse to do so! She knew who she married, and it was kool until the Marriage was Properly Consummated! Makes you say Hmmmm…
I won’t make any further implications because ultimately I don’t blame Evelyn… People don’t get over on you… You allow yourself to get got! So the ownership of this situation is solely on the shoulders of Ocho. He should have never let her push him to the point of violence! When it gets that far… You’ve lost! You must have been listening too tuff to Big Snoop Dogg… (I’m going to get in trouble for spinning this one… Ha Ha)
Remember brother… Those are just Songs… Entertainment! You can’t be going around laying your Goon Hand down on these women out here these days! They got Teams of Lawyers ready to chop you up faster than a Cross Cutting Shredder Machine! They plan on your inability to control yourself. Then you find yourself in Court catching a Criminal Case and in Civil Court losing all your Hard Earned Paper! Don’t fall for it brothers!
On a lighter note… I don’t think any woman is a Lost Cause. I would love to Show Evelyn How to Love again! Even if it was only for about 2-3 Weeks. At least when it is over she would have a parting smile and I would have Chick on my team That Is a Major F’n Factor! lol… But she isn’t into giving the Slightly Above Average Hustlers a shot… But if she is… I would be happy to make her acquaintance!
The Moral of this Blog is… Ladies… Quit messing around in Impossible Situations that you find yourself manipulating during the course of the relationship, for mere Capital Gains! Such a thing takes the Fun outta Life, and a Toll on your Mind, Body, & Soul! If you simply want Money… Do what we all have to find a Legitimate way to do…
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Fellas… Stop acting as if you don’t know that a woman will sense your weaknesses, and later test you in that regard! Chad may be in a delicate Head space right now because of concern over his Career! You might look at it and say he has other options… but to him, he has been playing the game at a High Level since he was a kid! And it is a Part of Who He Is… He Loves the Game! His concern is Football right now… He thought his personal life was stable… but that’s because his mind wasn’t at home!
With average cats the common problem is usually the Money, which can inhibit the progress of Fruitful Relationships. All Men know… at the core of it all… Your Woman does not want to struggle with you through you turmoils! Fix that Immediately! Do whatever you have to do, but don’t let her see you Sweat!! One Phrase for that Homies…
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Til Next Week Remember…