Ever since Frank Ocean disclosed his sexual preference through Tumblr , the internet has been buzzing with speculation that Kanye West or Pharrell Williams is the man that Frank was in love with. Despite the fact Frank’s beautiful coming out letter stated that, his former male lover was also 19 when they first met, pundits maintained it was a cover up to protect his ex’s identity. The link between Frank and Kanye was made because he is officially known as one of Kanye’s protege’s, and the link between Frank and Pharell is due to their close working relationship and the fact that Frank views him as an idol. In addition to this, Kanye and Pharrell have for years been dogged by rumours and so called ‘eye witness reports’ that they are in fact men who love men.
All this incessant speculating and rumour spreading aside, there were also some heated debates about whether Frank is gay or bisexual? It turns out that the answer depends on who you ask. Most gay men who were asked about this question felt that a bisexual man is just someone who hasn’t come all the way out yet. This opinion was shared by people who had very close relationships with gay men, or whose own relationships ended when they found out their boyfriend or husband was in love with another man.
In an interview that reporters recently dug up of Kanye West (below), he discusses the issue of gay vs bisexual. At the 2:10 mark he says;
” There’s no such thing as a bisexual guy, if a guy is bisexual, that makes him gay. Don’t try to re-term it or something like that “
He also tries quite hard to explain all the reasons why he is a heterosexual man. (There is also some pretty funny stuff in there about bloggers which gave me a good laugh, but that’s a topic for another post).
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The thing about this discussion is that people who have never had to come home and find out their husband is in love with another man may feel like calling people gay or placing labels on people is wrong.. But the thing is at the end of the day everything is labled. Rather that be the peanut butter jar, sot drinks, even crayon’s are labeled…
To suggest that people should stop labeling things kind of makes a person not that bright.. At the end of the day you want to know who you are dealing with or what you are getting. Or would you prefer that all of the peanut butter jars were equally labeled , leaving it up to you to guess whether you are buying smooth, creamy, chunky, Jif or some off brand ish…
Perhaps Peanut Butter cookies should also just be laid out.. No need to warn people who are allergic to peanuts that the snack may contain actual peanuts.