Seems like the debate never ends about who is responsible for what in a relationship. Is it 50/50, everyone give100% or something in between? I guess it’s different for everyone and whatever works for them to make it successful is good as long as both parties are happy. But in my opinion based on the comments I see and the people I talk to it’s always swayed in the woman’s favor. The man is supposed to pay, PERIOD!! According to a majority of women or “only ugly chicks” gotta “settle” for the 50/50. And while I respect everyone’s opinion, I HAVE to DISAGREE!!
For one a relationship isn’t ALL about money, even though I know that money problems make two people coming together as one even more difficult than it already is. I’ve seen too many dudes sponsor a chick only to have that same chick that’s being “taken care of” leave him as soon as the money runs out. Or I see the woman get all she can out of a man that she cares nothing about only to turn around and cheat on him with another dude that doesn’t have nearly the money but offers her some other things that money can’t buy. I understand a man has to be ambitious and is supposed to lead in the relationship but everyone isn’t at the same place financially all the time.
That doesn’t mean a dude with no ambition but one that is striving to get to a better place financially and has solid goals (not just dreams he’s not working towards). What if you had the chance to date Tyler Perry and stand by him while he was homeless, sleeping in his car but striving for something better? Would it have paid off now? OF COURSE!!
It reminds me of a woman I used to date, she was beautiful (but that’s it!). She used to do some modeling and only dated “ballers” except me of course. Even while we dated her ex would take her to the mall and spend thousands, she’d come home and new stuff would be boxed up delivered on the porch. She would call and ask me my opinion and I’d be like “hey get me something too!”
All she wanted me to do was spend time, because all her men previously saw her as was a possession. I’ve seen it time and time again, man pays for any and everything meanwhile woman still feels empty of everything but material goods. Man treats his woman like a possession similar to the scene in Think Like a Man with Morris Chestnut. He could honestly care less what his woman has to say and she in turn goes back to the man that cared about her for her and didn’t treat her like a possession and honestly cared about her as a person.
I remember during us finally breaking it off my ex model friend got mad because I wouldn’t come see her and told me “I was poor as a church mouse!” and all she asked was for me to spend time with her. I laughed because I had money but I wasn’t spending it on her on purpose, I asked what she brought to the table and she said “I’m pretty!”. I thought she was joking so I asked again and she said “I’m pretty and that’s all I’ll ever need!” I laughed and broke up with her the next day through email just because she said a guy’s never broke it off with her.
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