25 Apr 2012
Posted by Miss Kissy 
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J'netta
I joined Black People Meet hoping to make a connection. One day I logged on and had a message from a man reading, “We look good together. Call me. 704*** ****.” With the mess I had dealt with before hand, I was ready to call him and tell him where to get off. In his pics, he was not drop dead gorgeous but had a sex appeal and confidence that came across. I called and the conversation was good. We didn’t talk about sex or hooking up or anything like that.
We talked about being parents and our businesses and what we were hoping to happen when we joined the site. About our third conversation, he started telling me that he had me saved in his phone as wifey. He felt that we could be and do great things together. Then he told me he played in the NBA for the Milwaukee Bucks. I let him know that I was not phased by the admission or that he may have been famous. I was more into who he is now and how we move from this point.
So I decided that I would drive to NC to see him. He told me that he wanted to go back with me to GA. He wanted me to meet his family and the people and businesses who sponsor his basketball camps. I said ok. Of course, I was nervous but not giddy. I was hoping that all he said was true about us working together to help children and making this a big company/venture. I came prepared with my presentation and some of the work that I do. When I got out of my car, I was soooo disappointed. Miles Clarke is a joke. He is strung out on drugs and looks like he is homeless. He had an odor and needed a bath. His teeth are messed up. He actually bet me 500 dollars that I would tell him he looked good. I felt bad for him.
I gave him a ride back to Augusta, GA. We stayed the night at the Partridge Inn. No sex. He tried to cuddle but I pushed him away. He was offended and told me not to let my pride mess me up and miss out on a great opportunity. Then he flashed his championship ring from NCCU when he was named MVP. He proceeded to tell me don’t forget I’m the mvp champion. I just looked at him with pity. Then I told him that I was tired of men who hated the life they lived and wanted improvement. Don’t ask for a woman of a certain caliber then try to make her like every other woman you slept with.
When we got to the hotel, he did shower for like an hour. He just stayed in there forever. The next morning he got up and put on the same stinky clothes he had on previously. His excuse was that he wanted to wash my car before he put on his shirt and tie to go meet with his sponsors. LIE!! He kept them on. All I can say is with all that happened and the way he fidgeted and scratched and couldn’t sit still. He never actually sat still and held a decent conversation the whole time we were together. He even met with his first sponsor smelly and nasty. I couldn’t let him use me to have these people hand over cash to him like the first guy did.
Before we could even get to the second sponsor I cussed him out and kicked him out my car. He tried to disrespect me for the last time and I lost it. He called me stupid because I told him that old black and white newspaper articles dated from 2 yrs ago should not be what he shows to the sponsors who help him every year. He should look presentable, have color photos and testimonials or video of the children the money has helped. He called me stupid and low level and I didn’t know what I was talking about. He’s been doing this for 17 yrs and these people know him. He didn’t have to do it like that. I said if they know you then why do you have a copy of an article written on you and your basketball career. They already know that. They need to see where their money is going.
He said my ideas were crap and I pulled over and asked him where I needed to drop him off. Then he popped of some other mess and just said get out of my car and call a cab. I’m done! He said I was ghetto and cut throat. He couldn’t believe I was talking to him like that and gonna put him out my car. I said, “There’s a $1000 worth of tires on this car that I paid for. Not just the rims…the tires. It’s paid for on my own dime not from a sponsor or having a man do it for me. I can go shopping right now and fill my truck if I want to based on my own merits. My bills are paid. As a matter of fact, I drove to pick you up and never asked for a dime. I even offered to feed your broke down ass. So before you will sit in here and disrespect me, you will get the hell out!” He just sat and looked at me like he couldn’t believe I told The Miles Clarke to step. Whatever! He asked me nicely to drop him off at his sisters house and I did that. I hope that dude never dials my number again.
FYI…If you want a real woman in your life, don’t treat her like you treated the others. Make sure you are ready for what you ask for. Some women aren’t phased by celebrity and titles. We just really want the man and who he is today. Don’t let what you used to be and how women treated you before mess you up. And for anyone sponsoring children through any foundation overseen by Miles Clarke, find another way to do it. I saw first hand that this dude is using cash given to him directly to live off of. He has nothing and his drug habit has taken away what probably was a great man. Thanks
Jnetta Heyward
Note from Kissy- I did a Google search on him. Michael’s NBA career was so long ago that the only photos that come up of him are in black and white… Nuff Said.. Also J Netta you should also never be the one to do the traveling out of your city to see a man on the first date if you have to foot the bill.. If a man really wants to see you and is worth anything he will book you a flight or book one to come see you.. Other then that, this was hilarious!
24 Comments
HOW MANY WOMEN SPEND MONEY OUT OF THEIR OWN POCKET TO GO OUT OF TOWN AND SEE MEN?
Not in this life, he wanna see me he better find away 2 pay & make it happen
Iktr cheryl.. Thts unbelievable! If he really wanted to see you he would make it happen!#thirsty
Not me but I'll bring my own money just incase u never know what will happen but if a person want to see me we after to meet in a public location don't trust no one.
Well thank god she stood her ground & she safe she could of been meeting a killer & never new it , women these days .
It just makes sense…..I mean if your single and looking for a good man. Y not pay to come see me? It's funny how women want, want, and want. In most cases they only give when the relationship is solidified. Think though……how does it get to that point in the first place. It's nice to be courted too ladies.
She sounds like a head case! " she" decided to go and see him after 3 phone conversations in another state! Smh .Stayed in a hotel room with a stranger off the Internet! Who introduces u to their parents the first time u meet! Sounds like they deserve each other! Crazy n crazy!
@JAY BEE Men don't get catered to financially they are catered to in other ways. A mans position is to be a provider. By not paying for a plane ticket to see a man a woman is avoiding ending up with a men who does not want to take his natural place as a provider.
@Kissy I don't see the importance of money in the messed equation but that should be your last concern when meeting a virtual stranger.
Everyone you meet is a stranger @steven , nothing was wrong with where she met him at.
In this kind of circumstances she shoulda been vigilent from beginning to end. We're in 2012 so to me video conference has become essential for fast introduction and certitude of his/her current apparances. So many people easily get fooled by profile pic and still doin regardless. Its good to trust ur instincts but u always gonna come up with a plan B when in doubts.
Exactly @ Steven all these killers & rapist out here she decides to travel to another state , not I Smh . What's so crazy a lot of killers didn't caught yet I would never took that chance @ all.
I actually take my time getting to know someone before I go wasting it spending time with them. Driving out of state to meet a strayer he'll nah!! Sounds like a desperate move to me. SLOW DOWN! My time is more valuable then my money, once is spent it's gone forever. I can always make more money.
Oh ok I thought this was an opinionated question….I hear what your saying. This is 2012. Lines have been re-drawn and re-established when it comes to relationships and finding a partner. I'm financially straight. If a woman can't pay for her own ticket to peruse something she's interested in. How can she call herself such. Not trying to be insulting at all but why should men be the only adults when going after what they think they want?
Its only natural that a man does wateva it is necessary to meet a date that he founds attractive and sweet at HIS expanses. The chick will be flattered and it'll be to the man's advantage….why? Cuz the lady doesnt care on how much money or wateva degree dat u have in hand. Its ur action or sacrifices u took to meet her, how well dressed u are to impress her and ur feelings u have for her
I can't do it…..got too many clients that get first class tickets to see their man or friend all ovèr the world. Queens don't have to pay to see a man.
@jay bee it aint about who makes the 1st move to meet the other person they have an eye on and expect the other person to pay his/her expanses UNLESS the other person has no problem to pay ur expanses understanding that it will be beneficial in return. (Streghtening relationship) I simply say dat a chick should also do her part as well financially (in a way dat she can handle herself). It takes 2 to play the game, teamwork for a good relationship, u kno?
I'm sorry but I live in NYC of oh about 8mil, I'm not doing the long distance thing for a stranger I don't know. I'm done with these dating sites I'm going back to the old way, see something, say something. Thats how mamma and daddy did it lol. Plus its too crazy out here these days ladies don't do it.
OMGoodness some women are so desperate. so sad.. Meet in public location, tell many people who and where you are meeting up and with who. IF he want to see me PAY UP wire money for airline tickets HE would make things happen, why make it convenient for him. Separate hotel rooms with money he sent prior. I don't meet men like this such a desperate move on her part.
All I can say is WOOOOOOWWWWWWWWW I am reading this with my mouth open like you have to be joking…I have to give her props for even staying I WOULD HAVE BEEN GONE. I hear so many stories from women about men not having there stuff together it is sad to say. I am on my son so much about that. I tell him get your education and get your life together the girls will always be there but they will respect you better when you have your life together. Yes and true I do believe the man should come see a woman first or at least meet half way if it is really far….WOW that is all I can say…..
For the record, I stepped way out of my comfort zone on this. Trust me. I was doing something different and giving it a chance. I have my own money and it wasn't about me being thirsty or seeking fame or fortune. I was really serious about getting together and helping children through a joint venture. I don't have to lie about me or who I am or be afraid to say this was a big mistake. If I wanted anything more out of it than that, I wouldn't have exposed him for his fake organizations. We had already made plans to meet up on that Saturday. Since I was able to have a few days come open, I offered. The meeting would have happened either way. Trust, if I wanted him like that, I would have played along and allowed him to say and do whatever he wanted. His ego is hurt and I could give a flip. I told Kissy not to post anonymously because I had nothing to hide and knew some of you would have some negative things to say. I gave him a chance and he failed….#moving on!
Before you start calling her desperate, thirsty or whatever…know that this was her decision…her choice…what isn’t right for you isn’t wrong for someone else. She could possibly be a woman that would rather come into a man’s space before she allows him into hers. Not all women need a man to pay their way so in the end he doesn’t feel like you owe him. If we don’t have a relationship, he can keep his money. Some people kill me with calling others ‘thirsy, desperate or whatever’ and don’t consider that they have an even messier situation of their own…SMH at name calling, judgmental people that has a low life sitting in their house creating bills and taking up space…the low life could be male or female. Trash isn’t gender specific!!!
Stupid bytch… braggin bout all that money she spendt on tires when she need to invest in a head doctor cause she is either, crazy, derange or desperate.. she needs to evalute and check her own self…. she is a dumb as.
She set herself up for that one! It's hard to even feel sorry for her. You could tell he was full of shit form the start. Common sense would tell you this man was not a pro athelete. What NBA player asks a random chick he met online to get involved in his business….NONE! How many NBA players are online looking for dates…NONE! Those type of men don't have to seek women, women seek them. I'll tell ya what kind of women fall for this type of shit….SILLY ASS WOMEN! I'll give her the benefit of the doubt for falling for the game over the phone, but once you saw this fool in person you should have known his ass was a CRACK HEAD trying to run a hustle! If it smells like a crack head, looks like a crack head, acts like a crack head and scratches like crack head, IT'S A CRACK HEAD! and then you took him to the hotel…smh…why the hell would you do that?