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Let’s not lie to ourselves and say that it’s not important. You’ve dreamed of the day every since you were a little girl. So why have you allowed so many men to waste your time and life? If he doesn’t plan on marrying you, then you have to let him go. Life is all about being happy.

Some men will rob you for your hopes, dreams and aspirations. Won’t leave you with nothing but ya bra and panties on. Self esteem all gone.  Time goes by so fast and before you know it you look up and you’re approaching 40, single and never been married.. This is why you don’t have time to “date”  a man that doesn’t understand life is about relationships.  You are seeking a man who wants to make you his mate in God’s eyes, in a court a law in front of all of your family and friends.. He will show the world he is serious about his love for you.  If not, let him play on someone else’s time. Be single until a good man comes along. No one should have to tell you that you is kind, you is smart and you is important.. You deserve to be married too.

It’s one thing if a man doesn’t quite have it together yet and he wants to wait a few years until he is financially in a better position to become a provider for you. That’s understandable. But if their finances and every other aspect of their life is together he should be more then willing to officially make you apart of it. Do you really want to wait eight years for him to decide that he wants to marry you? No you don’t.  Truth be told men know what they want to do with a woman a few minutes after he lays eyes on her.

The best time for a woman to catch a good man is while she is young and attractive. This is when a woman has the most options. Don’t let him drain you for your youth and look up and you have nothing but time and memories, meanwhile he suddenly decided to marry the next woman who came along.

The Wedding Dance

“Studies” show a lot of black women have never been married and will never be married. Why?  More then likely these statistics are due in large to  black women being complacent and being down azz bishes. You want to love a man that’s not loving you back 100%. It sucks to be alone. It really does, but you have to love yourself enough to say yes, I deserve to get married. I deserve to be with a man who really loves me..

If you date a man whose believes about what you should have in life don’t align with yours, mainly feeling like you are worthy of the the highest honor he could bestow upon you then in essence you are allowing him to waste your time.  During this time period he is merely  waiting for the right woman to come along.  You’re simply a seat holder until the real celebrity comes along..  Even if he says he will never get married. When Miss Right shows up he will do just that.

Miss Lady has to keep it moving. You lose out on blessings and your chance to meet the right one by already being involved in a relationship that isn’t going anywhere.

People will say you are what you attract but that only goes so far. Even dogs attract a few cats and some fleas. Lions attack bears. You are going to meet some good and some bad. And who you fall prey to is based upon your overall instincts and what you deem attractive.  So don’t let people fool you with that line.  But one thing is for certain – Timing is everything.. If he’s not ready it’s not meant to be.