Just because a couple has been married for 15 years doesn’t mean their relationship is successful.. How can this be true?
In the world right now, owners of lost souls have found themselves temporarily entrapped in bullsh@T marriages.. Some due to societal pressures. Others were in love with the idea which brought the desire of having “the big ceremony”. Some wishfully hoped their mate would one day grow to love them. A miniscule few even married for money and appearance. People have their reasons for doing what they do.
However, a successful marriage is one where both parties are happy. Marriage is actually a contract agreement. That is why the courts give women half when it’s over with.. Love is usually involved in the beginning of a relationship, but the IN LOVE naturally tends to fade, which causes the agonizing end.
Some people get married for love and when loves fades they walk away. Others marry for love and raise a family together and then when the kids become adults they separate.
Very few actually stay together till death do us part. This is due in part to the fact that most people are not equally soul mates.. People choose to marry a particular mate off the notion they would make a great parent, or because their finances are great.. People marry for love and then the bad finances ruin the marriage.. People love until they get cheated people. People love until a mate will no longer cave into their demands. One mate may be doing something that makes them happy but it hurts the other.
Often times a mate won’t do what they truly want to do out of respect for the others feelings.. The relationship then becomes more about suppression than happiness. However their mate is clueless that they are unhappy. In their eyes everything is perfect and the relationship is going well. Little do they know a storm is slowly brewing..
Couples who do manage the feat of culminating a marriage of 50 years have A LOT OF shared commonalities. They did not marry just because one, two or three pieces of the puzzle fit.. They didn’t marry because they wanted the person but didn’t need that person.. The love birds who stay together for thus long wanted, needed and fulfill each other in every way which is why they decided to combine their life long journey.
If you are married ask yourself. Are you in a contract marriage or a soul mate marriage? A good majority are simply in a contract marriage full of negotiations that go good or bad. Some men marry women and have kids with them, but they can’t imagine spending their time with that nice, boring woman after retirement.. They really have nothing in common now that the kids are gone..
Marriage is soooo deep. Just like relationships. But people don’t truly think about what they want. People don’t live in truth. Then the truth sets them free at some point, unfortunately it’s at the cost of another person’s heart. The thing is you can’t find the perfect person for you it you are living a lie.
Unconditional love is a spiritual love on a level that some may never reach. In order for both parties to envelop this type of love for one another the people inside the relationship have to live in their own truths.. Their truth may not be the general publics truth..
What makes one relationship successful may not apply to the next. But if both people are happy that is successful.