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INDEPENDENT WOMEN ARE SINGLE AND LONELY??  Everyone writes about the super successful independent woman.  But no one ever writes about the independent woman who would prefer to be self sufficient.

There is a group of independent women who work very hard and set career goals and conquer them.. These women are often times, single and very lonely.  Not because they are not likable, not because they refuse to take a woman’s place or be submissive but simply because they have failed to meet a man who will allow them to submit and let him take the place as a man in her life.

The problem? - How many women stay single because they meet a constant supply of men who want to take up all of her time and give them nothing but time, penis and attention in return?

The dating game can be very tricky for men but often times even trickier for an independent woman.

The most interesting group of women are the struggling independent women.. These women are the type who don’t mind working at all. They seem to be very bright in business and often times own their own business. Which generates good income but just not enough income that would enable them to live a comfortable lifestyle..  Their life is always full of financial stress. 

These women seem to attract men who actually admire their independence.  That would seem like a good thing, but in actuality it’s not.

Here is why. One lady for example.. She has a man who has been bugging her for a while to come fly down to his state and let him spoil her with kisses on the ear and breakfast in bed.. I.E. Give her some dhick.  He says it’s an open invitation for her to take a break.  He wasn’t offering nor did he intend to pay for the plane ticket.  He’s only about the 9th guy to want to “spoil her with attention and affection”. His benefits package is no different from that of the next guys. Not to mention he’s not even the most attractive,  JUST LIKE the other 9 guys..  

Although she would love to take a break and chill with a guy, she can’t.  Time is money. If she isn’t working she isn’t making money, which means some bills are not going to be paid.  So she can’t even get turned on by such a guy. He’s completely a waste of her time.  The hey don’t you want love and affection and to start a family speech goes in one ear and out the other.. She can not consider starting a family  with a man like him who who does seem to put the financial well being of  his family first?  She desires a man who can provide a good future for their spouse and future children. 

Another guy calls a young lady and he always wants to “spoil” her by taking her out to a nice dinner.  A nice dinner would be nice if he paid a a few bills before the dinner is what she is truly thinking, but of course she never says it.. She just declines the date and keeps working. 

Then there is  the highly successful independent woman whom has conquered corporate America. Her relationship experience spans no more than 1 or 2 men.  She’s never been screwed over by a man.. This type of woman wants to meet a nice guy who is on her level or above. She doesn’t mind splitting the bills 50/50.  Unfortunately this type of woman may be a good woman but often times she is looked over by men who are on financial parallel or above.  The men that she would like to date are not too interested in a woman on their level because he feels he won’t be catered to the way a man of his stature should.   He prefers a woman who is somewhat submissive and a bit below his own financial plane.  She can have her own life, but  still has to be able to dedicate a great deal of her time to catering to him.  That is the type of woman that he needs in order to make him happy and make his life easier.  He also feels like she is more prone to be LOYAL.  This is why bimbo’s tend to keep a man.

So the successful, independent woman is left with the pickings of the guys “below her”. She is non too interested in these types because she feels like as a woman she works a lot harder than them. Therefore she is not turned on by a man below her status…. Even if she wanted to be.

There’s another group of independent women who work very hard.  They’ve had a few relationships. The relationships went wrong.. They’ve sat back and thought of what went wrong and why things played out the way they did. These women have dated for nothing more than love.  So although she works very hard and does not mind the daily grind she would prefer to meet a man who can actually lighten her load and provide her with financial security.

Which creates a problem for the basic good men.  Basic good men provide a woman with sex and affection.  These men call themselves good because they feel like they don’t cheat or mistreat women..  So they become confused when they run into an  independent woman and she turns down his offer to fly out to his town for a few days or go on a vacation for a few days. While he is thinking wow, how could this woman turn down spending a few days with me, getting to know me better and letting me kiss her on her neck, give her breakfast in bed and spoil her with attention, she’s meanwhile thinking that he is a total waste of time. She also thinks he’s a dipsh@t for actually thinking no one other then him wants to spoil her with attention.

This woman’s mindset says hey man, if you can’t afford to pay some of my bills to lighten up my workload and relieve some stress off of me my kitty cat won’t even get wet for you.   You see she has already done the I’m a good man, we pay 50/50 routine.. It didn’t work. Now that she is a little older she has defined what a man is, what he does and what she is attracted to. Therefore she now desires a great man who will provide SECURITY.   Besides if she wanted just a good man, she could date any of her male friends in the friend zone that she is not attracted to. Attractive, Independent women attract bunches of good men. Mainly because men see her as someone who is capable of conquering the world with and also helping him lighten his load.

Independent women are not looked at by the average man as someone that they want to spoil and take care of. Frankly the men that Miss Independent attracts admires her work ethic.  But she can’t see herself catering to him. She’s just as successful as he is. She’s just as smart as he is, or smarter.  So other than having a penis what’s going to make him a man in her eyes?

There is a reason why the beautiful women end up with the wealthy men.. Both people meet the others wants. And just like each could have found love with someone else they found love with one another AND got their wants met.

Some men may feel as thought they are a good man just because he doesn’t cheat and provides attention to a woman. But he must  realize that the independent woman that he wants, may not exactly look at him as a good man.  A GREAT man usually seeks out a woman who will make life easier for him my attending to his needs as a man and being a good partner.  A GREAT woman also looks for a man who can financially make her life easier.  She’s more apt to be turned on by him and willing to cater to him..

They say opposites attract because people seek something they are MISSING when looking for a partner. They are attracted to things and substances that they would like to have. By being in a relationship with someone who has their missing qualities excites them..   Same thing with a man who is montonous and does the same thing all the time. he is going to be attracted to a woman who provides excitement, danger and spontaneity.  Which is why people on the same level don’t attract.. The only thing that attracts on the same level are truly the superficial things like hey I’m a good looking person and so are you.. Those are the type of things that attract because people also like things that mirror them. But mirroring is something that you can see. It’s not a character.

I’m sure some guys are realizing right now why the attractive, independent woman who is nice to you and seems to have a lot going for herself keeps turning down most of your date offers or keeps you as a just in case friend.. 

Women are no longer running around saying they don’t need a man. All humans need someone. Instead they understand they actually do need a man. A man has to fit her description of what she considers a man to be. Each women will have her own description. So with that being said, an independent woman who hasn’t quite made it yet needs a mate that can financially lighten her load. Thus she will still be able to work without the stress and in addition have time to cater to her mate.  Self sufficient but not independent is what she would like to be. 

Know what type of woman you are dealing with. Analyze if you actually fit in her life or not. Some women no matter what still want to have a traditional male role in their life. And that’s a man who can provide security and financial stability..

Personally I had a guy tell me this year that I’m too independent for my own good. I still don’t understand what that is supposed to mean. He’s chased me off and on for 6 years. Right after he said that he told me to have his baby and he would take care of me.. I laughed. But still I ponder if there is some truth to what he said before he caused me to laugh.