We fall in love and then we break up.. Other then the core surface value of the break-up after a few years and for some after a months months we tend to forget all the tiny, small details that actually accumulated which lead to the final straw causing a rift in a relationship.. The break-up.
The break-up is often times very paintful, sometimes you feel free like a bird that has regained it’s flying powers.. You run off ready to soar. You get back to dating life and it’s all good for a while, the lucky ones quickly find a new mate, others take time to just enjoy the ride. But the person who was most responsible for the break-up tends to realize that life isn’t that green on the other side.. They start to miss the wonderful things about the relationship. They start to miss the love that they felt illuminating from the person who was once their mate.
Then the phone calls, emails and texting starts.. They want you back again.. It comes as a total shock when they realize their ex doesn’t love them like crazy anymore. That they will no longer tolerate being mistreated.. That the spell of love has been replaced by a brick wall. Sadness hits. They wonder how could this be. That powerful feeling of control over another’s happiness and emotions no longer has a pipeline to you.
A fool will quickly pick back up where they left off but someone who is wise will actually leave well enough alone.. If not totally ignoring the ex’s pursuits they will proceed with caution..
If one chooses to get back into a relationship with an ex more then likely the same problems will start to arise again.. Slowly the person will remember the underlying reasons for the break-up.. Then you break-up and hate each other all over again..
You see back peddling is a waste of time. Most people really don’t change.. At least they don’t change into the person that you would like them to be.. They don’t suddenly grow respect for you as a person. Old habits don’t die hard. In fact everything remains the same..
So next time your ex comes calling just keep it moving. Realize that they have nothing new to say. You’re better off finding you a new boo.