04 Mar 2012
Posted by Miss Kissy 
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When it comes to open relationships most people don’t want to admit to being in one. Others fail to realize that they are actually in one..
Although the average “open relationship” is open on both sides the rest are often times one sided.. From the outside looking in one may call women that participate in such a relationship, stupid, dumb or feel as though they may suffer from low self-esteem. But many like Basketball Wives Evelyn Lozada see love for what it truly is and understand the ins and outs of ones hormones..
So for the sake of love Evelyn is willing to marry Chad Ochocinco and be in an open relationship. Last week on Basketball Wives Evelyn had hopes of getting past the gossip and the rumors of Chad’s possible infidelities. The wedding being just 3 months away Eve is demanding the Chad “tighten up.”
Chad basically told Evelyn that while he’s out on the road, he may want to have sex, and Evelyn told him that if that happens, she would like for him to tell her about it and wrap it up because then she’ll have more respect for him.
“I want you to be 100 with me. I’d rather know. Tell me1 I wanna know. Go to the pharmacy and get condoms. I’mma be sick like a motherf–ker but what can I do but respect you and know that you’re telling me the truth rather than hide it. Because at the end of the day you don’t have to tell me nothing. I don’t want to have to babysit you but I’d rather you be real with me because Lord knows what could happen.”
Then Chad suggested that if he and Evelyn were out together and he saw a female that he was attracted to, they — as a couple — should be able to “bring her home.” Evelyn wrote on her blog that it’s not that she’s just accepting that Chad will cheat but she’s been real about the situation she’s getting herself into by marrying a pro-athlete.
“I am a realist as to the world we live in. When your relationship is high profile and publicized like mine, I don’t put anything past anyone. Who is to say that either one of us will eventually fall into that temptation one day? We don’t know that.”
“My thing is, I want to take my wedding vows and say, we want this to be forever, but you never know.”
“I am not condoning Chad for cheating… There will be temptation, but it takes a strong bond to defeat it. We do love each other and are both focused on making this work… I love Chad, my focus is him and vice-versa and we are going to do this thing and work it out. There is an abundant amount of negativity and it isn’t easy. It has been a challenge, but this is my dude and I love him.”
Watch Evelyn and Chad discuss their relationship below:
The thing is Evelyn is being realistic. But honestly, I don’t think she can handle it. The truth is when signing up for an open relationship with a wealthy man everything may go okay for a few years.. The wife is happy as long as she continues to come first. But over a period of time he starts to spend less time with her and more time with the chicks on the side who were not supposed to be that important. He doesn’t need to have sex with her because his sexual needs are being met by others. At this point a woman must make a decision if she is truly in it for the love or if she wants to get her half, call a divorce and go on her marry way to marry a man who isn’t so fortunate and will agree to remain monogamous.
What’s even more so important about this video is that Chad states that eve does have good puzzy.. Evelyn on top of that is also a very sexy, gorgeous woman. But yet Chad still wants something on the side..
Ladies, Would you be willing to be in an open relationship for the right price?
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41 Comments
OPEN DISCUSSION: Are open relationships a good idea? Would you be willing to be in one?
Women have got to stop going for the okey doke. Evelyn made me gag when I heard her speaking as she was. She sounded so desperate. All of that to have a man. Just damn. It ain't worth it to me. And she knows she can't handle it. But is telling herself anything to get that ring. Just damn. DAMN!
Hell no its just wrong in my view..
That's what it sound like in the last episode!
Is she the one the atheletes always screwed but never married? Don't lower yourself. Find someone other than athelete. #chasing money and being lonely at the same time.
why get married then ? different strokes for different folks i guess.
HELL NO!!!
Why she ttrippn with who he sleeps with if relationship open? Guess long as she lykes the chick he can screw her…hope it works for dem. Anything too keep her man I guess. You know traditional marriages are ancient now…..
HELL NO!!!
not me personally ,cuz i feel like u shouldnt "remix" sacred vows,but when it comes to others i feel like is a pityful way of "getting in where u fit in" ! they cant change or compromise with how someone gets down but they willing to stay down just so they can get a piece of the pie. open-marriage and open -relationship / livin in sin or livin in lust ? which is the lesser of the 2evils? things that make u go hhhhhmmmmm.
not me personally ,cuz i feel like u shouldnt "remix" sacred vows,but when it comes to others i feel like is a pityful way of "getting in where u fit in" ! they cant change or compromise with how someone gets down but they willing to stay down just so they can get a piece of the pie. open-marriage and open -relationship / livin in sin or livin in lust ? which is the lesser of the 2evils? things that make u go hhhhhmmmmm.
not me personally ,cuz i feel like u shouldnt "remix" sacred vows,but when it comes to others i feel like is a pityful way of "getting in where u fit in" ! they cant change or compromise with how someone gets down but they willing to stay down just so they can get a piece of the pie. open-marriage and open -relationship / livin in sin or livin in lust ? which is the lesser of the 2evils? things that make u go hhhhhmmmmm.
To be honest, if she is fine…….HECKS NAW!!!!!!!! now on the other hand, if she is so so, yeah i can do that bcus i wouldnt know if i really want to be with her. I AM JUST BEING HONEST
Personally NO couldn't go near a mucktub after next man!
I am not getting married anymore anyway…….so that comment was for a girlfriend boyfriend relationship
Sounds good and fun and booty & dang a lang all the time, but when you STOP and give it a WHOLE LOT of THOUGHT…NAW!!! In Life you make choices and you live with those choices for ALL of YOUR LIFE! You never want to have REGRETS and all that, well it's frre…it's me!
Guess what…that's bullshit!
" hell to the nah!!" nasty jus nasty!!smh
No way
Im not sharing my husband with anyone what kind of relationship is that? If you got to be with someone else occasionally, why get married? Marriage is a committment!
Couldn't do it. Can't do it. Won't do it. Personally, I don't want to be somebody's number 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, etc, even if they say I'm their number 1, apparently I'm not.You can't please me while pleasing her. You want her, you won't have me. And unfortunately in today's society people find it challenging to be faithful or to just be happy with one person because they constantly won't more and still end up unhappy. True, to each their own, but where's the emotion any more? Where's the bond of having a soulmate?
Or understanding the end result of a relationship $$$$
cashing in baby$$$
Like People Told Me: "Women Settle, Men Don't"
When the term relationship is used between two people it should be closed to third parties. JMT.
I agree with Tetaisha and Ashley – marriage is sacred, u r supposed to become as one; not everybody I want also! Chad is enjoying being with a cougar right now and still wants to do young women as well (just like all men). She's having a little esteem issues due to her age, thinking that she's not going to find another man to love her! Move on or don't get married – just date. STD's are still in existence!!!!!!
No not at all Kissy that one is just not for me.
Open relationships defeats the purpose of getting married…if a person plans to be in an open relationship then don't marry! This is why marriage doesn't mean sh*t anymore these days!
Desperate times call for DESPERATE measures. If the fact that he has FOUR random kids, FOUR baby mamas and no consistent income stream didn't deter her — why would his openly cheating? She's a money grubbing hoodrat and is doing whatever it takes to keep her rent paid. #WhateverWorksButHeAin'tNoPDiddy
NO
In this day and age, tangible items and the "law of the land" has overshadowed the pure meaning of love in relationships, the main reason why the majority of relationships don't last. Though trying to separate religion and state in my argument, you just can't help but lean toward the fact that during the end of times, people will refuse to marry. I'm being honest when I say, I'm not even looking forward to marriage; I will like to, but realistically, I feel my morals and values are just not popular to most with whom I deem myself compatible with. I remember me stating years ago, "Ignorance is the epitaph of the less mindful. Truthfulness is not always accepted, and dishonor leads to emptiness. Seek wisdom, knowledge, and understanding all together- they three together form power."…Society and the vast moral knowledge gaps of many are only feeding into my strength. Globalization of greed is on an incline, which only creates more economic and social misunderstandings….
She thirsty.. Chad been told her he was a work in progress.. Chad going to have a prenup if he do marry her, that's if he do.. now seems like to me he doing everything he can to not want to be getting married… food for thought…
Everything she did with others athlete men.. now its going to be done to her.. Karma a mf. and u never know how its going to come back at ya…. smdh and lol.
evelyn my girl, but she playing wit fire wit dat shit, kus God made 1 woman for adam because he said all it takes is 1 companion to complete you. what's gone happen the first time he steps out without telling her, can she say he cheated? his response will be, why does it matter if I tell u or not, you agreed to it, so deal with it, but she asked for it. if a man feels he has to have more than 1 woman to make him happy, then he's already sayn he's not completely happy with u. evelyn don't degrade yourself to this low. all jen & royce is going to do is rub it n your face, kus u acting like an insecure bitch tryna keep a nigga that don't want to be kept. remember, you have a daughter, are u telling her its best to share a man & let him fool around and possibly end miserable than it is to be happy alone without the stress…don't do it, reconsider. play with matches and end up burned!
oh and anutha thang, ev needs to ask chad, if he down to let anutha man fuck his wife while out on the road to keep her satisfied, and depending on his response, that's the same way she should treat him. betcha his ass a say fuck no…hahaha.
then what is the need to get married then
Hey Tia Rico he looks like he got that two way street going on about his lean anyway… she needs to decide… one way or freeeeeway…
lol
exactly, why get married if you have to share, shit stay single and do u =}.
I wouldn't picture her that type to let her man do that. Very interesting!
Grow up evelyn and put your big girl pannies on your just tired of not makeing it to the alter and now u'll settle for a marriage anyway u can get it. Girlfriend u know if u marry chad u'll hang in there long enough to get spousel support when u divorce him oh wait I forgot about the twins yeh girl u got it all figured out, but wait if u agree to an open marriage then u can't divorce chad for infidelity, but u will get that FAT check for those kids' if u have them. Girl it just goes to show that some women need a man to make them complete no matter what they have to do to be with him! Evelyn u know your temper is to bad to share chad with another female your not even married and your ready to try and whip ass now. Wake up girl get God in your life and pray for him to send u the man he has for u or u'll b sorry:( Maybe your lookin in the wrong dept. for a man start looking for a business man or a 9 to 5 man cause the store your shoppin at now ain't working for UUUUU! It just goes to show that no matter how good u might look or how nice a shape u may have u can still be a miserable female and u know every time u sleep with chad u'll be wondering who's kitty cat are u going behind now meow! Your not the one for chad cause if u were then he would only won't U. Good Luck do'do bird your headed for a nervous break down life's to short to settle for anything…. p.s. u know u'll b droppin those panties on the low low anyway's!
[...] Didn’t Ev do an interview saying she didn’t mind Ocho having other women??? I most certainly hope that Evelyn walks away. She doesn’t need Chad or his couple of quarters, because she now has her own. SMH . If nothing else she’s a bit too pretty to be getting her azz whooped.. Chad’s contract ain’t that fat!. What’s even worse is that you know this isn’t the first time something like this happened between them. It’s just the first time it hit the news. [...]