In response to an article that was sent to me by one of my Facebook readers I was really tickled by the authors notion that it’s the day and age of women having to bring more to the table than what they once did before. Apparently the author has not heard about all of these successful, highly educated women who can’t find a man. Obviously she doesn’t notice the trend of males dating strippers or women that are deemed bottom barrel by societies standards.
“This new desire to be professionally compatible with their wife insinuates men understand how much an educated and driven woman can add to their overall lifestyle and well-being. Well, maybe that is the real trophy.”
Clearly the author has been running into the average every day male who truly does not understand what it actually takes to be compatible and to have a wife who will stand by you long term and actually fulfill your wants, needs and desires.
Many a man has married a degree, a credit report or a social status to later find out that the woman really doesn’t care much for him in the long run.. She has her degree but she can’t cook a hot meal or won’t cook him a hot meal.. Pizza delivery is on the way. Sexually ugh, you had better not ask her to do that.
Compatibility with someone really is not written on paper. Not even that green stuff. To be long term compatible with someone it takes a hell of a lot more than intelligence and a degree.
A lot of males are still choosing to look down on a woman who wants to chill at home, take care of the kids and keep the castle looking nice. But that is exactly what some men need.
I have a cousin who was once married to a teacher. He didn’t want her to teach. He wanted her to stay at home with the baby. He was a very, very successful lawyer at the time. She worked her teacher job and wouldn’t cook the man a hot meal. Not even when my friend and I visited. She wasn’t trying to impress his family or anyone else for that matter.
One year later I visit cousin again and he had dumped his baby mama and had some new chick pregnant. They later got married and had another kid. His wife stays at home with the kids. Cousin is now a super duper successful lawyer. Millionaire status.
A man has to mate with a woman he is mentally and physically attracted to. Too many people these days make attempts to downplay the need for physical attraction.. You can only fake it for so long and after awhile looking at a person who gets on your nerves who you are also not physically attracted to makes it easy to call it quits.
Too many men claim they don’t need this and that sexually from a woman and end up cheating anyway.. Too many people refuse to live and date their truths.
You just might be the man that needs a woman who isn’t super smart, but makes you laugh and does the things a woman is supposed to do.. You might be the man who doesn’t care if a woman can cook, you might just want her to be in the right social circles and in the process of taking over corporate America.
Only you can decide what makes you happy.. You can live someone else’s truth or you can live your own truth. So you see every man has to decide what is truly best for him.. That degree won’t keep you warm at night nor will it cook you a hot meal.. It definitely won’t do any booty popping tricks for you.
I mean seriously do you really want a chick like me who is going to be sonning you every other week cause I’m just as smart or smarter than you?
Thanks Michelle
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Do women have to bring something to the table in this day and age?
more than my money…..she should learn them without my words
Yea cause everybody seem 2 love money pple dnt love pple no more
Of course….most of all common sense….b/c some are lacking that!!!
Yes they do.
Most definitely. Across the board. You cannot request anything that you cannot reciprocate or at least make up for. If he's the breadwinner you be the homemaker.
Yea…cuz no one…wants ah bum…besides..one benefit of being in a relationship..is to have..each otha's back.
Yes I think everyone should if not money than a education etc!!
you're right what you wrote in your response Kissy; I think the author was probably talking to those women out there that still think a man will take care of everything.
the traditional roles…
she need to bring bill money, submissiveness, and some great head
Michelle Bryan Michelle the thing is that a lot of men will actually take care of everything. Women are lead to believe that they have to have this and that. IT's not meant for everyone to be super smart or to have great credit. Everyone is different and there is someone for everyone.. Imagine if we all had the same intelligence level or the same credit score.. Imagine if everyone could make gold.. What then would make a person valuable? The things that they individually bring to the table as a person would…
women have been supplying food on the table since slavery!
I bring a lot to the table but my husband still take care of everything so kissy you are right
It depends on the man. But I was raised to be smart and know how to throw down in the kitchen. I was taught to let a man be a man but if he ever fall short, be woman enough to pick up the slack, without cursing or fussing. See, I believe, a woman can be about her business but also take care home! I was raised by parents and God parents; that the women worked and made great money. The husband worked hard, bought home the same amount or more. My mother and God mother checks went in there accounts to collect interest; while my father and God father checks paid the bills, went to shopping and went in a savings! You can be lady on the streets, a woman in the kitchen and a freak in the bedroom! Why we got to be either or? Why can’t we be all the above! I know I have been! The sad part, most men can’t handle a woman that does it all! It’s always either or!