Being a single man in 2012 can be absolutely crazy, one thing I have to say is most women are just too damn easy!
A real man likes a challenge mentally & physically and it seems as most (not all) women hear the tic toc of their biological clock and they are looking to latch on to the first man that has a job and can complete a sentence. There’s nothing wrong with showing interest but don’t be so thirsty!
If after a date or two you’re throwing the panties, I miss you texts, and everything else at a man you’re putting yourself in a bad position. The man is supposed to lead, give chase. Being happily single you have to have patience because as men we lose interest quickly. So if your looking to define the “relationship” after a few dates or trying to see if you have one after giving up the goods after a cheeseburger plate & a milkshake what do you really expect to happen?
You can’t full court press a man into a relationship. If you slow down and let him pursue you you’ll either find out he wasn’t willing to put the time in aka wasn’t that interested or you move up from Mcdonald’s to Red Lobster and he’s contacting you, pursuing you, interested in getting to know you. If his comments are mainly about your looks and never about your life & interests and you go all in anyway that’s what you deserve but if you give it time to breathe you might find a man that’s willing to put the time in and sees and appreciates the special qualities you possess.
Either way it’s up to you but men know who is easy and who is worth it believe me! Both get treated accordingly…
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That may be true in some situations, BUT women like sex just as much as men. Just because she ‘gave it up’, doesn’t mean she’s easy… Strong, independent, confident women are comfortable with their sexuality. Smh its not 1950 anymore.
That point is irrelevant, especially if a woman is expecting a relationship and the man is not. That is where the problem lies. It would be a non-issue, if it wasn’t.
I find this sexist in its estimation of worth, like a woman's sex is worth more than a man. If men were not taught to be sexual predators and women not taught that this is where their value lies this essay would be moot. It is just another reinforcement of gender roles and patriarchy. And what is a "real man" exactly?
I agree, what makes a man or woman real versus someone else, it’s completely based on an individual’s worldview.
The term "real man" is objectionable at best but to me it means one that knows and values that there's more to a woman than just having sex with her. Men are taught to "conquer" woman and women are able to give it out like tic tac's if that's what they wanna do, but if they want more than that they need to and should have patience and allow the man to pursue them more than they pursue the man. The man is entering the woman not vice versa so it's more personal in my opinion, but that's just my opinion.
Sometimes we women are fooled by a man's "status". A good job, a nice car, good education and we think "he has potential in my future". We tend to open up quicker than a man would with our feelings, our life stories,our emotions and yes..sad to say, the booty too. It takes maturity and the right mind set for some women to understand their worth. Once a woman knows her worth, she knows when to allow time for a relationship to grow and when to walk..no run..from one that is not working. I am in a relationship that started off as friends and grew into love,respect and loyality. I am one of the fortunate ones,but don't get it twisted..I had to find my worth and like you said I had to "slow down and let him pursue" me.
well. men are easy too. whorish is more like it
Thank You!!! Men get on my nerves sometimes with selfish, ignorant double standards about women. The writer can have several f*ckin’ seats!! You are what you attract, if you’re attracting easy women then yo’ ass is probably easy too. His mother was probably easy, hence his existence. BOOM!!!
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