What would u do if all of your life your mother talked about you badly to other family members to her friends to your friends and even to your boyfriends every time you confront her with this she says she didn’t say it how could everyone say the same thing and it be a lie? How could a mother treat her daughter so badly. She sees her daughters faults but not her own.
She is materialistic, a hoarder and a controller. she never taught me how to cook, grocery shop, wash clothes iron and anything else a mother is supposed to teach their child.
I was molested when i was younger and it still bothers me to this day and her answer is when am i going to stop using that as an excuse. I am like until it happens to u u don’t have the right to say that! Its ridiculous and much more much much more. Im at the point now where i just wanna cut her out of my life.
Would i be wrong doing that?
I HATE MY MOM
Dear I Hate my Mom,
They say never burn a bridge but it seems like the bridge with your mom needs to be set on fire never to be walked across again until she is in old age, near dying and regretting all the bad things she did when she was younger.
It’s apparent that your mom is a drama queen and is causing emotional distress in your life. Your mom is an adult and at this point she is simply who she is going to be. I suspect that after all these years you have held out on a decision to close the door on the relationship with your mom in hopes of change that won’t seem to come into fruition.
Indeed it’s time that you give the mother and daughter relationship a break. Give her some time to really think about how she hurts you.
You have tried to talk to her and discuss these serious issues to no avail. Change must be made.
On the other hand. You were molested when you were younger.. Although your mother may not be able to understand how it feels to be a victim of molestation, she may be right when she says why do you continue to use that as an excuse. It indeed is in your past.. I can totally understand why it still affects you but the truth is you are either weak or strong. You survived it, so you are strong. But in no way should you continue to allow your molester or your mother to cause tormoil in your life.
A certain amount of time has passed and you have to understand that allowing your past to interfere with your future is completely detrimental to your well being. Life has to move on because time forces it to. We live in a society where people have a need to be babied and pacified but the truth of the matter is that as an emotionally healthy adult one must encompass a get over it attitude..
People will only feel sorry for someone for so long. Then after a period of time it’s time to stop grieving and live your life again. You talk, you cry it out and then you must move on.
Life is soo short. Please use every minute of it trying to be happy. And if possible seek a professional therapist.
P.S. Instead of holding onto the inappropriate sexual acts that were committed against you hold onto experience. Like 1. if you keep your mother in your life, by now you should know NOT to take your boyfriends around her. If you have a boyfriend that you don’t like then take him around your mother. Reputation is everything. You have to protect it. Why take them around your mother knowing she is only going to destroy it? Be wise.
Chris Brown Dueces would be perfect to end this. But I’d rather Make The Song Cry