Hey Kissy, I’m back again with a more serious question. There’s this guy i’ve been talking to..well more of a friend at the moment..since November 2011. He says he is looking for good friendship, not soley a relationship because he wants to take his time finding the right person.
He is a pretty cool guy and very respectful. He is someone I can see myself with- as a potential mate. The first couple meet-ups we’ve had, he wanted to have sex with me but I rejected the idea because i’m not a whore.
Also, he is somebody I want to be “more than friends” with. When he realized I was serious, he respect my decision and never asked for it again because I never gave in. After rejecting him, I thought he would stop talking to me or stopped asking to spend time with me…but he still do those things, which is impressive.
The sad thing is, YES I DO WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM (not at the moment) because I’m really attracted to him but i just don’t want to mess up what we have just for a night of passion- especially when it could be more. In your opinion, how long should a girl wait before having sex with a guy she’s interested in?
P.S- I am interested in what your Facebook readers will say about this question. Please post. Thank You!!
He’s Turning Me On
Dear He’s Turning Me On,
If I didn’t know any better I would tell you to feel free and screw him whenever you felt like screwing him… But unfortunately that free will behavior is not best suited for the mind of most men. It’s simply not the best route of getting what you want from him.. They have to be tricked into thinking you are sweet as honey and pure as gold.. A lady must act angelic.. You never want him to think you are easy.. So, stall him out for 90 days. Then go ahead and enjoy yourself if he is still there and on his bestus behavior at the time..
But please don’t thinking holding out will keep him around.. He may just hit it and quit it. In that case at least he has bought you lots of gifts while he was waiting… So be prepared to deal with that. If he is really into you by now he is showing how much he cares by the things he does for you.. If he isn’t doing anything except giving you time.. he may be just waiting it out..
P.S. I’m not saying do this. But a lot of women, During this time period seem to find it difficult to hold out.. So they just have sex with someone else.. That way they can keep up with the 90 day stall plan for their true person on interest..
Soooo, how long do YOU think she should wait before engaging in relations with him?
Spoken Reasons on the 90 Day Rule