I’ve been with my guy for 15years and counting… 3kids,1degree, several arguments and a dysfuntional household later… I still dont have a ring. He says he wants to get married “when the time is right”..WTF does that mean?
I’ve tried leaving him in an attempt to “wake him up”…but all that did was affect the kids. I love him but I dont know if want to continue to wait…
What say you, Kissy and Ask-Kissy readers?
15 Yrs And Counting in Seattle
Dear 15 years And Counting in Seattle
This goes with the old adage, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? He has milked the hell out of you already. Girl, do you even have any milk left? You have given him everything that his wife would have given him already. How does he benefit if he marries you right now? I come up blank. You have also given him 15 GOOD YEARS of your life. (The Best Years)
Seeing as to how you have stayed around for 15 years, it’s obvious that you are in love, so I would advise you to pull a Chrissy (Jim Jones girlfriend) and propose to him. If he says no or not right now then you are going to have to either live in happiness with no ring or simply move on and start over fresh with someone new..
Personally I don’t think he finds any value in you… But I don’t know you. My15 Signs of a good black man states that when a man finds a woman that he actually values he does not keep her as a girlfriend for 15 years. He instead marries her..
Let us know what you decide and how it goes.
P.S. I hope your state has common law marriages so that you can get something for your service and dedication if he says no.
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