12 Dec 2011
Posted by Miss Kissy 
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Dear Kissy,
I recently had the most interesting mind stimulating, intriguing encounter with an A1 personality.
First of all i treat others with as much respect as i can. I was raised pretty good. I am currently in a relationship that recently hasn’t been going too well. I understand relationships do go through there peaks and valleys. The main reason has been because of trust issues. Honesty and loyalty are top of my priority list. I have never given her a reason not to trust but she seems to feel like i will cheat or am susceptible to cheating. I make efforts to tell her things that will ease that fear but that is getting quite old. I’m just to the point where i feel like whats the point?!Basically i feel like I’ve shown her over and over that my intentions are serious.
Anyway we have been through a lot we have done the long distance thing where i was away on business for months at a time. I recently left out of town for work to Vegas and yes…….pussy has been thrown left and right….which doesn’t phase me. It happens you know i’m just blessed… But last night this woman actually made me forget about all of that for about an hour and a half. I like this woman. Nothing happen.
This woman was very beautiful, smart, doing quite well for herself. This hasn’t really happen to me before. Rather or not this woman is really interested in me wasn’t the issue. The issue for me was i know this time if me and this woman really wanted to take it that far i would have definitely gone through with it. Is that a sign that i should tell my girlfriend to kick rocks?
Tuscany Sweets
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Dear Tuscany Sweets:
I would first like to tell you that the grass is not always greener on the other side.
What happened in Vegas was that you met a woman who filled a void that you were unaware of up until that point. With your twice mention of mental stimulation with the Vegas chick it is pretty obvious that your current girlfriend does not provide you with that type of stimulation. You now realize that you desire it.
Like you said, your girlfriend was already well aware that you would be open to being stimulated by another woman. So she was right. But why does she feel this way?
Are you displaying unfaithful signs? Quite possibly if you are traveling all of the time and away from her for months at a time she feels like your sexual needs have to be met somehow. Or she could truly have issues of insecurity because she deep down feels like she is not up to par with you and/or may not be providing you with your needs as a man.
It’s obvious the fact that the Vegas lady mentally stimulating you for an hour really had quite an effect on you. Her rare combination of beauty and brains excited you.
You realized that you were missing something in your relationship. And now that you have gotten a taste of it you are ready to go after it.
You have a good chick at home but destiny revealed that you can have a great chick. Sometimes people are good but not good enough. So you have to ask yourself if you want good or good enough? Whichever you choose just remember life is too short to be unhappy.
Kissy
I know How You Feel
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Playn games??? Yep!! To old for bs…….might as well be by yourself period
Regardless of what that “new chick” has to offer, if you truly LOVE your girlfriend like you say then stay with her. You should be on your toes and told the new chick from the door that you are dating someone and she needs to respect your boundaries and keep it business simple. Pay attention to those red flags. If she will snatch you from your girlfriend don’t you think she’ll get another dude the same way she got you? Come on man thinkkkkk.. better realize who you have before she’s gone.. the reason you girl thinks that way is, because of what you just experienced. Women are brilliant man.
GOOD ANSWER @KISSY, BUT HIS GIRL AT HOME SEEN THAT HE IS ACCEPTABLE TO CHEATING, HE SOMEWHAT~~~~~FULL OF S****.
not if the pussy good.
Lamarcus D Darden Such an insightful answer.. O_O
hey im just being honest lol.
hey im just being honest lol.
have you ever been like that /
have you ever been like that /
Everything that glitters aint gold.
Everything that glitters aint gold.
yes it will only get worse…. I had a girl like that.. It got to the point that she didn’t want to wear shades so she can see where my eyes were looking before I had enough
yes it will only get worse…. I had a girl like that.. It got to the point that she didn’t want to wear shades so she can see where my eyes were looking before I had enough
And, He Think The Grass Is Greener On The Other Side…
And, He Think The Grass Is Greener On The Other Side…
Hey remember the 80/20 rule!
Hey remember the 80/20 rule!
thats f**ked up Shawn lol
thats f**ked up Shawn lol
NO! cause all these chic want is U 2 get broke then they leave U, jes lyk the casino’s do but Ur the 1 who leaves…..Keep Ur Lady it’s much cheaper!
Yes!
Hell i live n Vegas, but i dont them do that 2 me;^)
Yea its a turn off to me i cant have a mf examining me. All becuz of assuming the wrong shit. If a man gotta do that to his grl, or a grl do that to her man the relationship will get played out like the triple fat goose coat.lol
Yea its a turn off to me i cant have a mf examining me. All becuz of assuming the wrong shit. If a man gotta do that to his grl, or a grl do that to her man the relationship will get played out like the triple fat goose coat.lol
Kissy I agreed & disagreed w/ ur reply 2 tha Sender.. agree: he did find a “void” he didnt kno of..
disagree: he DOESNT hv a “good chick”! he has a chick w/ trust issues.. & he REALLY tk a revaluation of their relationship, not 4 tha Vegas girl but 4 himself. #1KissyFan
He just needs to communicate and tell her what she needs.
It's always a possibility someone may cheat in the relationship, but you have to be secure enough in a relationship to trust the other person. It's just going to get worse because the person you are dating have issues you can't fix, unless you are a therapist or psychiatrist. Life is too short to be miserable. Maybe you should take some time out for yourself to figure out what you actually deserve in a partner. Eat, Pray and Love!
OMGosh Teresa Clark We are so HERE!! I love that Book Eat Pray Love. I saw the movie too. Good answer by the way.. Life is way too short to be unhappy. Too bad it takes most spending years being unhappy before they learn that.
There seems to be more to this then lead to be. Your already with someone so time is there which means two things (1)he either put that trust issue there by cheating in the past (which by the way my definition of cheating is :anytime your partner goes out of the already state of the relationship weather physical or mentality. Once it has process as thought your only waiting for the chance. Cheating is in the mind)or (2)she’s doing it and blaming him that she is (that mean she has more then trust issues ). My opinion. If he feels like it worth saving then seek help to do so. In some very sense it is cheaper to keep her if keeping her is worth the step to make it what its meant to be. On the other hand if this is stuff do to part pain do either by him or her an road blocks are coming into play such as do this so that I can get this or that. Let it go it’ll never be better an it will get worst. You met a real woman who spark areas that was long forgotten or never touch. Did you learn from the experience or fall into the emotion part? Its very obvious you still care for your other to ask such question. But are living or chasing? Thinking with your head that house the brain or the the one that spit the essential essence of life? Js
Thank You Wyle Outz and Brenton M Graham Those are great answers
Thank You Wyle Outz and Brenton M Graham Those are great answers
I do believe that some women are unnecessarily paranoid which is self-destructive to any relationship. Then there is also that gut instinct, that womens intuition where we feel like something just isn't right, but have no proof – other than the feeling in the pits of our stomach and perhaps what your girlfriend is feeling is that IF put in the "right" situation – you would cheat. You pretty much just admitted that you would have had the woman you met allowed it.
In my opinion, that isn't a sign of a man who's necessarily "loyal". I agree with Kissy that the grass isn't always greener on the other side, I'd also like to add that it's simply greener where you water it. Remember what it was that attracted you to your girlfriend to begin with and try to nurture those things in her.
And one last thing – we all have our shit with us, so you may leave one woman with one set of issues and end up with another who has some other issues. Apply the 80/20 rule and ask yourself if its reallly worth it.
Some women are unnecessarily paranoid. Others have a reason to be.
Cheating is a turn off.
@ Brenton took the words right out my mouth , it’s a reason she is that way.
Not sure wat u may have or haven't been doing lately but simply put its hard to gain someones trust esp if u lost it if u been dealing with this fa a min I say just leave your current girl but I don't think u should just jump right into something else either we aren't perfect and maybe your girl is being insecure but if she refuses to believe you then its already over… I will say this though something ain't right either u gave her a reason to feel like this or maybe she's doing the cheating.
who is that and why most he dump her plz
It has been my experience in life that you should watch out for those who accuse you of doing something when you are not, it is what is called a "Tell", if someone is always accusing you of cheating, then they are more than likely going to be the one to cheat, if they are not already, if they are always accusing you of lying, stealing or whatever it may be, this is what they are saying to you without really telling you, I'm doing or thinking of doing these things. Call it God's way of revealing what is in the Heart, "for out of the hearts abundance, the mouth speaks…"
So pay close attention to what your partner is saying to you, he or she just might be "telling" you what is on their Heart and Mind! Hi, Kissy!
I found this to be mostly true but there are those handful of folks that just suffer from being completely insecure.
True that, true that! Hope Stacy DuBose
Usually when a woman suspects her guy of cheating she has really good reason. And to say pussy has been thrown at you left & right mean that you’ve opened yourself in a position to have it thrown a you. And he just proved her right, sex or not.
KingChris has spoken.
Bc the christmas is around the corner.
Usually when a woman acts like that and you know your being loyal its because she is either cheating her self or close to it and is confined by guilt so she puts it on you to justify her actions!
He doesn’t love her like she loves him. There’s a reason why his girlfriend is looking over her shoulder. She’s smart for knowing a business man like him can catch a chicks eye in a heartbeat, but see a weakness of that chick pulling his guard down. I understand we all have needs, but his need is a want. Gonna give up a good chick over a possible one-nighter? Not a genius move at all.. break up with her, b/c you shouldn’t have to decide whether a good woman is worth fighting for.
Yes he should if he feel like he wants this other woman so bad. I mean its just a matter of time before the truth comes out. #setyourselffreeman
@ Nigel, absolutely my friend, I have had it happen to me on more that one occasion and each time, they would try to make me feel like it was me, when all along it was them! Don’t be fooled by this form of reverse logic, just leave and let them do what it is they are accusing you of and find someone that does not have that problem, life’s too short, to spend time on defend yourself for something that they are considering or already doing! Peace.
..wen Kissy thanks u by NAME.. then im #Official!! #1KissyFan
he should part ways if she can’t trust or if there is no trust then it wont work.
He should leave her rather then cheat!