”Kissy why is it when you get older it’s harder to find a mate, I’m older and would like to find a good guy, but here in Detroit there are no good men left. Is it over for me as far as dating?”
Quite simply Deja, the older you get the less likely you are to deal with BS that is not conducive to your happiness.. No one wants to admit this but dating is very difficult. And the older you get the more difficult it becomes. The less likely you are to simply follow your heart and let it lead you astray. The more likely you are to take notice of things and move with caution. This is a result of knowing what you want and need. Once you determine your wants and needs a lot less people are going to fit the criteria. This dramatically decreases your dating pool.
As you get older you become more set in your ways. A woman also comes to realize what is important to her and what’s not. The longer she functions without a man the more independent she becomes and the more she becomes comfortable with spending time alone.
Usually as a woman gets older stability becomes the number one most important factor in a relationship. If a man appears to be unable to provide a woman with a stable relationship she will pass him over immediately. There is no beating around the bush, hoping, praying and wishing. Either he is or he isn’t.
See “good men” tend to like their women plain. Not too sexy. Clean appearance, low make-up, natural hair. They also want you not to give them the booty too fast.. Good men tend to marry women who display thsmsleves in a certain manner.. Often times they get these women and the women don’t really tend to them the way they should. But that’s
You are a nice looking lady,so that means that you do not have a problem attracting a man that wants to be with you. However you more than likely are not attracted to the majority of men who want to be with you. The majority of good men grabbed a woman right away and got married. They did not sit around trying to be the playboy of the year. Good men are not in abundance after you factor in your wants and likes.. Compatibility becomes harder with age.
I would say switch up the places you frequent and go out more often. Also dating online used to be taboo, but now people are meeting great mates and establishing long lasting relationships on places like match.com.
If that is not the problem,