02 Nov 2011
Posted by Miss Kissy 
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Dear Kissy,My sister is a 24 year old college student who because of her medical bills cannot afford to move out of our parents home. It is rare that she goes out but when she does my mother gets upset that she comes home at 3 or 4 in the morning.
My mother feels it is disrespecting the home. My father feels that it is not a problem and that it is okay for her come home that late. Lately they have been getting into some serious arguments over this. Who do you think is right in this situation?
John
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Dear John,
This situation really is not about who is right or wrong. It’s about following the rules of the house that you live in. The people who pay the household bills make the rules.
Your mothers rules may seem strict to your sister, but so are the majority of rules made my parents. Those rules are the exact reason why one can not wait to move out and get their own place when they become 18.
It’s very unfortunate that your sister has medical problems that leave her with high medical bills. Your parents are financially assisting her by allowing her to stay in their home. You mother may be worried about your sister when she stays out late and this worrying may prevent your mother from sleeping on those nights.
Whatever her reasons are for wanting your sister to come home at a decent time she has laid out the rules and boundaries and they should be respected by her daughter.
Kissy
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NO! I come in late all the time and I live with parents.
If they say so…it is.
Yes it is unfortuantly if u live in THEIR house you must go by their rules!
If you have a key to the home(your parents wanted you to feel welcomed) & you are mature (careful) & responsible (fulfill obligations accordingly)NO-it’s not disrespectful because you have built TRUST with your parents. If you do not have a key (your parents obviously don’t want you to feel welcome to come or go as you please) or you are not mature(careless) nor responsible (seeing no obligation to anything or anyone)-YES it is disrespectful because you’ve yet to prove that you can be trusted in the guidance of your own life-let alone a key to their home to go & come as you please. The ONLY DIFFERENCE IS as a kid-they HAD TO tolerate you & you HAD TO deal with them too. NOW YOU ARE AN ADULT (or of legal age) if you don’t like it GET YOUR OWN & if they don’t have to tolerate you-IT’S THERE HOUSE.
Very disrespectful….bc you are not in your OWN place…..
Yesss!!!! Get your own spot! So you can come and go as you please!!!!!
If they have set rules for you to abide by, it is extremely disrespectful for you to disregard the authority they they put in place for their house! tisk tisk
Everyone with thus economy had been affected one way or another.. If ur living with family, friends or whom ever and you are contributing with rent or bills, then I say no it’s not disrespectful, in that case it’s just a parent still trying to have control over you and the situation. However if ur nit assisting and/or contributing at all, them you need to be respectful.
Yo I be coming back at, sunrise
This Is A Grown Ass 24 Year Old College Graduate… Now, If She’s Paying Rent Her Mom Should Let Her BE. But, If She’s Not Paying Rent Then She Needs To Have A Conversation With Her Mom ~ She GROWN.