After watching a video of a man Devery Broox spanking a child on camera and reading the police report that stated he beat the child often and left scrapes and markings on the child’s legs as a result I feel inclined to write this blog.
Growing up as a child I was whooped by my grandmother and told to go outside and pick my own switch. Most black people can identify with this and were more than likely brought up the same way. When I was about 15 I ran away on the porch and told my grandmother that I was too old and wasn’t taking anymore butt whippings.. I was always a very intelligent, well behaved child. Whippings were not only barbaric and unnecessary in my eyes, but they also did not make me a better person.
I have never agreed with beating a child. You are only able to hit them because they are too little to protect themselves from you. You would not be quick to hit an adult because you know they more than likely will strike you back. Maybe every blue moon you might have to spank a child but in general when blacks beat their kids it is due to a tradition that was passed down from slavery. That tradition needs to end.
The slave master beat and whipped their slaves to keep them in line. Not only were the slaves beat but they were handed a book in order to aide in maintaining their submission. That book is called The Bible. “
Ephesians 6:5-9 New International Version (NIV)
5 ‘Slaves, obey your earthly masters with respect and fear, and with sincerity of heart, just as you would obey Christ. 6 Obey them not only to win their favor when their eye is on you, but as slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from your heart. 7 Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not people, 8 because you know that the Lord will reward each one for whatever good they do, whether they are slave or free.’
9 ‘And masters, treat your slaves in the same way. Do not threaten them, since you know that he who is both their Master and yours is in heaven, and there is no favoritism with him.’
A lot of slaves literally gave in to slavery feeling as though God would take favor upon them AFTER their death.In addition to being enslaved they were lead to believe that almost being beat to death and being treated inhumane was morally righteous.
Exodus 21:20-21 ‘Anyone who beats their male or female slave with a rod must be punished if the slave dies as a direct result, 21 but they are not to be punished if the slave recovers after a day or two, since the slave is their property.’
Slave owners fully utilized the Bible to control the slaves. But Dear black people: Let’s all be thankful that there were a few free thinking slaves during those times. Despite the disciplinary actions the underground railroad was started and slowly the opressed began to fight back. You see, you really can’t beat people into mental submission. Some are strong and even while imprisoned you can’t take away their spirit..
As I was saying: When the slaves were freed they went on to discipline their kids in the same way they were kept in line. Mentally they had been brainwashed and believed this type of discipline would not only work but was acceptable.
Therefore this horrible, lousy tradition keeps being passed down from generation to generation.
The new generation does it because that is how their parents disciplined them. Notice the slave masters never beat their kids and they turned out just fine. Notice how many of your white counterparts never got beat and they turned out just fine..
To say that it’s ok because your parents beat you and it worked means that you do not know your history. Nor can you truly call yourself a educated person.
Some kids you beat them once and they will never misbehave again. Others it doesn’t matter how many times you beat them.
You have some babies that crawl around and you tell them not to go in the cabinets and mess with things and they just don’t. Those kids generally grow up to be good kids without any discipline.
Whipping a child does not guarantee they will stop misbehaving. My brother who got the most beatings, it never stopped him from misbehaving no matter what.
Secondly, I had to ask how many college educated people beat their kids. A great deal of research is not necessary to in order to prove that those numbers are low.
Whooping/whipping kids is also a direct dilation between lack of education and poverty. A great majority of poor people lack the necessary skills needed to effectively communicate their point to people. Yet they do not realize their inefficiencies in this area.
If you have to beat your child, your child may be a bad kid and there is no help or you just might suffer from very bad communication skills.
Disciplinary action of a child starts when they are toddlers. This is when you talk to them and teach them right from wrong and teach them to respect you. This is when most kids attach to their parents and don’t want to disappoint them.. Fear of disappointing a loving parent will stop many kids from misbehaving..
It’s common sense that you do not wait until they are teenagers to start trying to rectify or discipline them and establish respect for you. By then it is too late. I guess you would wait 30 seconds before a bomb is about to explode before you start to try to disable it too right.. Yeah sounds dumb.. Well that’s how dumb it is to let them scream and shoot things all over the super market and spoil them rotten and laugh at them misbehaving as a toddler and then suddenly want them to behave when they are 14.
Next time you decide you need to beat your kids ask yourself how much money do you currently have in the bank.. Probably not that much. Get educated. Learn effective communication skills. I mean seriously, if you can’t get a child who you reared to respect you who can you get to respect you? How are you supposed to get adults in the workplace to respect you?
Lastly, yes some non blacks beat their child too, and yes they are more than likely poor too. Sometimes people need only to think, look around them, recognize their circumstances and strive to do better.
I don’t know if people were not taught black history in school or what, but it’s really not that hard to see the direct correlation between whippings and slavery.
I’m sorry black people but it’s time to wake up. Wake up and get educated. At least sit down and really think about why you are choosing to discipline your kids in this violent manner.
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i don’t understand it either. it tells me that there is no love there. i will not beat my kids under any circumstance. if you are loving, involved and communicative, that’s all you need.
Bullshit. There’s cultures all across the world that had nothing at all to do with American slavery that believe in disciplining an out of line child. Spanking and beating are two different things. Folks who come up with this Afro-centric tinged BS are the same type who if we were to invent a game of hopping on one foot, they would create an email to send out online stating that the hopping on 1 foot represented the slaves who had to escape by hopping after getting their one foot chopped off. Folks would jump on board and have all sorts of cases that they pulled of a slave hopping around. smh.
I agree Tywon. When spanking your child there are no whips involved. The way these children are out of control today they need a belt.
There Is A Difference Between Spanking & Abuse…
Wrong. Someone needs to stop putting out BS and calling it history. If your kids can not follow the rules of your house what do you think they’re going to do out on the streets. Some groups have a vested interest in our kids being hoodlums. And its not the right. (study socialism.)
Spare the rod..Spoil the child. Children need discipline. It’s the way you do it. Children need structure.. a Spanking and whipping is not a beating. When you start to punch, slap, curse, and pinch your children that is abuse. Some people take it to the extreme which causes other issue. I got my butt spanked all the time and I’m not violent. I could say that it helped me a lot. A lot of children who neglect to get spankings are the ones that are always in to trouble and doing the crazy stuff. Ppl always want to make excuses thinking there child is the best child ever and then when they turn their back they are tormenting other children or cursing at other children I see it ALL the time.. or better yet like I saw a vid on Facbook dry humping and bumping and grinding on each other like grown folks. They need their butt whipped!! They will more than likely drop out of school, sell drugs or be on drugs, have children out of wedlock, or be a nucisance to some one in the neighborhood.
Beating and spanking are two different things so I will continue to spank my child. And if that means you think I have a learning disability then so be it.
@Tywon I concur with your post. What this should say is: “Black folk stop letting your kids run your household, this is directly connected to punk ass parenting, and taking the easy road”. Spanking isn’t always needed, I give my kids a look and they pull it together but I am all for parents getting in they kid ass.
@Louie you can be loving, communicative, and involved all you want but it’s a fact that some kids need a foot in they ass. What works in one household doesn’t for the other. There’s more than one way to raise your kids, and being a push over or their friend isn’t one of them.
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If BLACKS are the only people that spank their children i can understand asian european latino indians etc spank please its funny how every move black people make roots to slavery please
Okay but what are you going to do when they become 16 and don’t listen, are you still going to swing or will you stop because they might punch the hell out of you? This is no different that a man beating on a woman. Doesn’t matter how old the woman is.. Teenager or adult. Beating people is wrong.
May as well just pull up a chain if you are going to use a belt.
My cousin used to get smacked on her hand with a comb she never got beat and she has a Master’s Degree and is doing well.
Beating and spanking are different abuse n discipline are different
I dont think spanking your kids is wrong its called discipline! If you dont take a stand and discipline your kids then your not raising them in my opinion. Part of being a parent is letting the CHILD kno there will be consequences for bad behavior. Sometimes punishment is NOT enough. You aint gotta beat your child but whippin that behind aint got nothing to do with slavery ! I got spanked as a child and turned out just fine. Whoever said spankings were tied in to slavery is CRAZY! The way this world is now a days u better put some fear in your kids heart if not be prepared to have a out of control BRAT who thinks they can do wateva they want & wen they grow up in get in the REAL world they will get a rude awakening. My mom always told me if u dont follow my rules u gon have to follow the white mans rules REGARDLESS! Im all for spanking now ABUSE is another topic and is totally wrong
I didn’t get spanking or beatings.I got my ass whipped by watevr she could get her hands on.I turned out to b a responsible young man
Kissy thats abuse, of that’s wrong but you shouldn’t say spanking is abuse because its not and.if you allow a child to put their hands on you then you have failed as a parent.
Learning Disability because your not going to allow your children to disrespect you and your household? If you believe that study then you have the issue not a parent thats being the.parent
@Tywon Harzeez ~ Thank You Brotha For Some TRUTH Today…
You want your child to respect you not fear you and spanking brings out respect, abuse brings fear. If you want to talk something then talk about verbal abuse it causes more damage than a hit.
I dont believe in abuse but I do believe in spare the rod spoil the child. Some of these kids now days need some heat on they ass.
@AsK-Kissy.com ~ I Got An Ole Fashion ASS WHOOPING & I Have A PH.D in Negrology.
There is a time and a place for everything. As a child they need guidelines so some manner of correction is needed. In public child acts a fool those that know how to correct a child just looks at them problem over those that don’t child goes crazy. Now the ones that how done right when the get in the teens they k now they respect. Those that don’t get theirs azz beat. Why? Lack of respect one cannot do what they have not been taught. Again time and place for everything. Yes beating a child is so wrong but correcting a child is so needed.js
@Tracy E Fulford ~ Thank You & If I Had Child(ren) I Would Beat They Ass So They Know What A Good Ole Fashion Feel Like…
That’s an easy one Kissy. When they turn 16 and choose not to listen I turn from parent to landlord. Since you’re grown now but still living in my house but decided to disrespect me, you now can go find a job, pay rent for your room, cable, extra for the food, and if you can’t pay all this will be added up until you’re 18 when you can get the hell out. Be damned I let my kids rule me, there’s different ways to learn, the easy or the hard. If my kid decides they want to bite the hand that fed them, I have no issues biting back.
There is a huge difference between beating and spanking. Some people do get carried away and spanking can turn into beating if ur not in a right state of mind
Getting smacked on the hands is more directly rooted with slavery, seeing as the masters most likely never took a slave over their lap and spanked them.. But they did hit them on their hands for stealing, etc. besides… The only people who see this as being concurrent with slavery are people who like to complain about everything..
I wish my granny would of hit me on the palm of my hand instead of beating me.. Shoo.
Ya’ll mean. I can see spanking here and there, but pulling out a belt is crazy.. I would cry if I did that to my child.
@Kissy ~ You Carried This One Too Far… I Have Not Heard Of Any Parent Beating Their Child With A Whip. Let’s Discuss The REAL Abuse of Children & An Ole Fashion Ass Whooping Ain’t Abuse. Question: Did You Get Spanked Growing Up.
a belt is a whip. It’s just a new school whip
@Kissy,you just said your cousin has a master’s and she got hit on the hand with a comb. That’s a spanking sister. Spanking doesn’t just mean butt. I got spankings as a child when I got 16 hell naw I didn’t act like I was going to jump bad with my mom. I guarantee you that my sons are from the ages of 23-16 and are taller than I am. They will tell you quickly they will never raise their hand toward me. If any child put their hands on their parent put them 6ft under. The ol saying “I brung you in this world and I’ll take you out”
@Kissy Thanks For Answering The Question ~ Your Granny Did RIGHT You See You On The Straight & Narrow Path… Kudos To Granny.
WEll I say some ya’ll need your azz whooped azz an adult.. But you would call that violence. And some are trying to act like they only lightweight spank their kids knowing they beat the hell out of em.. You don’t have to admit it.. Just be informed on where you got it from. Be an informed child abuser.
@Rechard exactly. Switches, brooms, belts, anything. I was a bad kid. These parents these days are soft. That’s why they are all on Doctor Phil crying for help. You spoiled your child for 15 years, now when they turn 16 they smoking weed, drinking, fighting, having sex in your house, you allow them to do these things because you believe if you let them do it at home they will respect you more!!! Idiotic, lost parenting at its best. If your child desrespects you, ends up in jail, ends up pregnant, anything, while living in your house “it’s your fault and you’ve failed as a parent”. Point blank!
n if u dont understand in the smallest virtually untouched villages in africa discipline their children then maybe it’s u that has that mentality. we were not only brought to european countries to work but also to raise their children because we did it so well. learn more about ur culture boo. im always gettin complimented n i whooped mines n they aint in no gangs, haven’t gotten somebody or gotten pregnant. and are excellent in school.
@Kissy ~ Thank You Cuz They Didn’t Get That Ole Fashion Ass Whooping When They Were YOUNG… And, I Only Got Two In My Life But I Can Write A Sentence On How It Felt.
You know that saying kissy. This hurts me more than it hurts you
But would you have learned and listen or would you have continued to try and see how much you can get away with. Those kids that has not been disciplined are shooting their parents in their sleep, falling out in stores and causing a scene. Sorry I don’t agree I’ve takened beatings that would have been deemed abuse with a switch. I never been to jail, robbed or stole from anyone or anything I did not earn. I know right from wrong, I respect others. And I expect the same from other around me. Thanks Grand & Great Grand mothers.
Ive gotten a few in my life, and im Mexican lol… I believe Hispanics are more prone to whooping their kids… And we didnt learn that from anyone but our oen ancestors…
Its call disaplen do u notice the kids that never got beatin and all the parents do is talk to them stop it joe the kids still do again curse at there parents and grow up wild and disrespectful I agree throw the beatin if its needed….
The older the child gets the discipline changes. I got spankings up until I was about 11 or 12 and that is because after getting so many (I was a busy body with a lot of mouth) I was like okay enough is enough so I just started to think before I opened my mouth because I knew the consequence and I thought to my self I’m tired of getting whippings. Little did I know my mom and dad changed the tactic. If we go in trouble no t.v., no radio, no nothing, sit in your room and think about it. My mother even took my car away from me at 17 for doing something wrong. So if your kids are smart then they will do what is right. If they have a learning problem they will need to be punished or put on restriction. I agree with Darwin. Pay some rent or better yet get out! Only two adults under the roof and that is mommy and daddy and children need to realize that. I’ve gotten spankings with belts, switches, popped with a fly swatter, a paint stick (the thinner ones). Now when I have children the belt and switch would suffice but I don’t think my parent abused me for using it. Furthermore to think that black are the only ones spanking their kids is incorrect. I went to an all private school where it was mostly whites and they “paddled” those who were acting up (with parents permission). It was one of those things where they believed in sparing the rod will spoil the child and I’m talking about those paddles like the Greek paddles and these were Whites spanking whoever and whomever who needed it. So to say it’s only us would be incorrect. We need to not forget slavery but we need to stop holding on too it living our lives based off of the past.
Extension cords, belt, switches, I had them all I would change a thing. My choices are more carefully thought out because I got whoopins. I know that if I do something there is going to be a consequence. Sometimes on that is extreme and painful. It teaches you cause and effect that sometimes words cant explain. Wait until your child dosent come home on time and its dark and you are worried and they stroll in the house like nothing is wrong…..your opinion may change!
Your child should be a representation of who you are. When they leave your house they represent you and your house. It doesn’t matter where they go or who they are with; school, church, play ground, around the block, at a friends house, at a birthday party. No Adult in their right mind like a child that is misbehaved, rude, obnoxious, ill mannered, disrespectful, grown, mannish, hot tail, and all of that and more. And can’t no one tell me that a good old fashion spanking or whipping won’t correct all of that. My mother who is a school teacher comes home and complains all the time about bad misbehaved disrespectful children and how they have done things that their parents should be ashamed of. Children in the bathroom kissing and having sexual relations and/ or coming to school sloppy drunk. If you fail to discipline your children you have failed as a parent. Then you want to blame the teachers or whomever because they are failing classes or have been locked up for doing something stupid.
im 33 married n we hav6 kids n i do beat ass if needed i dont abuse my kids but they do great in sch,respect adults and i knw ther r sum things tht they def wont do if im ther or not even if their friends will cuz they already know….. Im eldest is14 n taller than me but he will never in his lifetime look@me crazy or raise his hand n thts down to my2yr old babygirl…
WoW. I didn’t expect any one to agree with me when I wrote this. I really wrote this cause I had the urge to write.
But from reading these responses I’m starting to understand that personally I’m just a different person. I don’t respect people out of fear. I respect people who deserve to be respected. As a youth I did not do things that were wrong because I morally thought those things were not right at the time. No one should have to beat you in order to make you act right.. I guess ya’ll were just some bad azz kids… I guess it all goes down to the mentality…
BUT, I don’t see how anyone can not see how it’s directly related to slavery…
Thanks for participating in the discussion.. It was interesting.
In the famous words of Chris Rock ” Ain’t Nobody Above A Ass Whooping”
Derric, when i was a teen that is exactly how I felt. I hated the azz whoopings and it caused a lot of anger in me….. Maybe we are just a different breed.
DERRIC, is speaking from a TEENAGER point of view. Adults might want to take his viewpoint in.
Thanks, there’s nothing worse than that feeling. Makes you feel almost premative. Shows that you feel like you can’t have a intelligent discussion with me about my behaviour and actions.
Everyone is different. We all test the limits and we to see how far we can push it. Children will try you and your patience. Like someone mentioned above children will fall out in the store and cause a scene. That is not taught that is nature!! They are toddlers when they do that stuff and you don’t think that good pop on the hand is not in order. Children will and can curse you out. All of us are not born good quality citizens we have to be taught and trained and most of the people think it’s the teachers job and it is not. It’s your job and if you tell your child no and they roll their eyes, cuss at you and/or stomp off cus they are mad and you fail to correct they are going to think that is okay to do it. If you got spankings as a child you were not a perfect child because you had to do something inappropriate to get one. I wasn’t bad like most kids but I had a mouth and I get that from my mother and her mother said the same thing about her. So when I did something bad a spanking was justified.
The world is bigger than America, I know for some America is their world but sheesh.
Some kids need a good ol fashion slave beating and Im a believer in firm discipline although my father didnt believe in whooping and he was more of a punishment man… It worked cause I turned out damn near perfect lol
@AsK-Kissy.com ~ Slavery Was A Total Difference Mindset ~ ABUSE Mentally & Physically… I Guess That’s Why I’m Enraged About Seeing The Photo & Compairing It With Parents Disciplining ~ 2 Separate Disciplines That’s Like Some People Compare Civil Rights With Gay Rights Two Different Struggles…
Wow you really struck a nerve with this one! Lol
Beating is done out of anger. My parents would not discipline us when they were angry at us (me and my brother). They would wait and call us for the lecture and question and answer session until we could articulate why we were in the wrong and then they would ceremoniously discipline us physically (i.e. spank that ass) in a calm and non-injurious manner.
I think beating a child when angry is abuse and leads to big trouble later on when they are old enough to whoop YOUR ass. It’s also a sign of lack of self control, which is not a good trait to teach your children.
And yes, beating with no regard to possible injury is a practice derived from slavery. It was done on plantations because black folk knew it was better done by the parent then by the overseer.
This is HEALTHY CON-VER-SATION in my Cedric the Entertainer Voice. LOL.
I never spank my daughter with something I use my hand and she don’t get them often she’s condition to a firm voice and the mean eyes..
Ugh duh Willie lynch wasn’t playing he trained black people like u would a dog
i dont see how spanking children is directly related to slavery……..Kings have whooped their kids before…Catholic schools used to encourage the rod cause of what the bible stated…spare the rod spoil the child…….You cant generalize spankings to just slavery……its Universal……
I know someone who has out of control children she should have did some behind whopping if you ask me cause they do whatever they want to do….
Kissy i disagree with you on that.. there is nothing wrong with not spoiling the rod. because slavery was an inferior mindset of a person. displine to a child is setting them up for a mindset on not doing un
moral deeds that makes them inferior. and ignorance .
At the age of 16 u can still get a foot in ya behind i wish my child would THINK about hitting me back ha yea right!
but if you just go HAM on ur children u gotta problem and it needs to be adressed
Spare the rod spoil the child!!!! Children need disipline!!!!
Umm wat do poverty have to do with whippin your kids? Thats ignorant in itself to even say!
Beatings to deter bad behavior is like using the death penalty to deter murder, it doesn’t work. Then we wonder why kids are violent & don’t want or know how to effectively communicate.
I got lectured for 3hrs by my dad. My mom was the ass whooper. Thanks Mom for the 4 ass whoopings I received. @Derrick,talk about how many time your parents repeated themselves to you. It took my mom one time to say something. I repeat myself on the 4th time then it was on. I stop spanking them at 9 or 10. I’m here in WI. The kids that tore up the mall & State Fair needs one of those ol fashion ass whoopings.
U know what, forget all that? Do u have kids? If not then shut the hell up! All u damn kid less people wanna talk bout don’t smack ya kids this that and the other. But then wen kids are disrespectful and other things u would say they need correction. I smack my kids wen they need it n I’d dare any of u to say something bout it! Str8
WoW.. THat’s deep TODD. that really pulls my point across…
WoW.. THat’s deep TODD. that really pulls my point across…
It didn’t take them many times at all no more than two times. I was an ass hole kid too. They took away privileges and things that matter. Stopped hitting me because they were smart enough to realize it just made me angrier and made me lash out and act a mess even more. They were smart. They are smart. A beating doesn’t go anywhere.
It didn’t take them many times at all no more than two times. I was an ass hole kid too. They took away privileges and things that matter. Stopped hitting me because they were smart enough to realize it just made me angrier and made me lash out and act a mess even more. They were smart. They are smart. A beating doesn’t go anywhere.
I wouldnt go as far as sayin Kiss is ignorant or foolish because of her opinion…or that she hasnt done a lil research on this because she makes valid points…..just sayin….yall have a great day!
I wouldnt go as far as sayin Kiss is ignorant or foolish because of her opinion…or that she hasnt done a lil research on this because she makes valid points…..just sayin….yall have a great day!
I talk to my son & daughter & they are well behaved & articulate kids… I may raise my voice at times but that’s it. I used to spank my daughter but it didn’t work.
I talk to my son & daughter & they are well behaved & articulate kids… I may raise my voice at times but that’s it. I used to spank my daughter but it didn’t work.
@kissy thx!
@kissy thx!
Sure, the link to slavery may be the genesis of ” go get a switch”, but discipline(whooping) after the “speech” goes well. The thing about discipline its supposed to be a tool shape children into productive adults. Beatin for beatin sake only teaches children how to take a beating from (police or from an abusive domestic partner). Respect and fear do go hand and hand. Thats why a two parent structure is vital….but for single parents the division of parent/child not friend/friend is important. Whoopin does play a big part in maintain this division
Gotta have that combination of ass whooping and love.
Kids arent violent because of whoopings..lol….kids are violent because of…Call of Duty, God of War, Wakka Flakka Flame,Bad Girls Club,etc…etc… entertainment is the extreme source of violence in childrens lives these days…not whoopings….less kids get beat nowadays cause all of a sudden its wrong…but kids get worse and worse every generation!…js
i tell you what……if you got some badass little buggers runnin around, and u dont want to beat em because of how it would make you feel, send them around my way….ill give em some act rite, send em back to ya and i promise youll see a change for the better….
Video games, sports , & entertainment shouldn’t be raising kids parents should. Kids are violent because of bad parenting.
Video games, sports , & entertainment shouldn’t be raising kids parents should. Kids are violent because of bad parenting.
I hate seeing a child getting beat, got plenty of them when I was a child so it deterred me from continuing the behavior. And I agree with D’Antonio I didn’t hit my daughter and never allowed her to be hit, didn’t want her to think she is anyone’s punch bag.
I hate seeing a child getting beat, got plenty of them when I was a child so it deterred me from continuing the behavior. And I agree with D’Antonio I didn’t hit my daughter and never allowed her to be hit, didn’t want her to think she is anyone’s punch bag.
@James yea they’ll be on America’s Most Wanted… LOL
@James yea they’ll be on America’s Most Wanted… LOL
Spare the rod and spoil the child. I’m good and my kids will be good.
Spare the rod and spoil the child. I’m good and my kids will be good.
some parents do the best they can but u cant keep your children locked up…they have to be exsposed sooner or later……this world is a violent place…….
some parents do the best they can but u cant keep your children locked up…they have to be exsposed sooner or later……this world is a violent place…….
lmao…its funny you say that…..most of the most horrific crimes are done by people who didnt get that ass whooped….and its dont to the person or people that shouldve been whoopin ass…how many black Menedes brothers have you heard off?
lmao…its funny you say that…..most of the most horrific crimes are done by people who didnt get that ass whooped….and its dont to the person or people that shouldve been whoopin ass…how many black Menedes brothers have you heard off?
So expose them to violence to teach them the worlds violent? I’m just trying to understand your point of view…
So expose them to violence to teach them the worlds violent? I’m just trying to understand your point of view…
AMEN JEANNIE!!!
@Todd i was just joking about sending yall badass kids 2 me….i dont want those damn hoodlims around my daughter!!!!!
I agree James most parents do try hard to raise their kids but when you go to work or when they are at school outside at a friends house you have no idea what they are doing behind your back. You cant be around your child 24 by 7
Thank You James.. I’ve instituted a new rule of not cursing my fans out. But any intelligent person can tell that I do my research. I don’t just blurt stuff out…. I don’t ever mind anyone disagreeing with me… When people call me the idiot or call me ignorant for intelligently getting my point across I just laugh at them… Some are responding to my response to get them to respond and some are responding in ignorance and don’t realize their ignorance… But it’s all LOVE <3
I hear ya James! Lol, they can’t visit her in jail anyway!!!
C/O: Devin!!!
DERRIC I assume your parents are college educated??
DERRIC I assume your parents are college educated??
I actually disagree. It seems that everything nowadays that goes on in the black community is as a result of “slavery”. Not necessarily. I’m black-of African descent, so even though my ancestors were not slaves, there are still many black people in Africa who practice corporal punishment aka what is called a “whooping” in America.
This disciplinary action is crude and should not be encouraged anywhere, whether you have a history of slavery or not.
As much as I deeply relate to the African American experience, sometimes linking every intricate detail to a side effect of slavery may be more detrimental than beneficial to future generations to come.
It just so happens that the whippings and beating in slavery were to put slaves down, whooping a child is to “discipline” them, and the days of doing that should be long gone, because there are other ways, that may have been pioneered by other races or cultures but are more effective.
@Todd…i would take that personally…but were on facebook…but i wasnt takin a shot at ur children bro….my baby is just that a baby..not even 1 yet..way too young for jail….
@Todd…i would take that personally…but were on facebook…but i wasnt takin a shot at ur children bro….my baby is just that a baby..not even 1 yet..way too young for jail….
@James I would take u or anyone else calling my kids badass personally but again this is Facebook so it’s all good.. I can have an intelligent discussion whether we agree or not
water under the bridge homie…..let flow!…….
I beating and punishment I got as a kid neither made me become violent or a criminal. Or, and my kids they beautiful adults no criminals here.
but i wasnt singlin your children out….im more or less speaking about these badass little miscreants runnin around in Winston Salem NC….no home training atall!!! the need their little asses whooped and itll be better if the parents get 2 em and try 2 teach em a lesson b4 some body else whoops they ass like the police or some other little badass……
i really wish ppl wud stop makin excuses for not beatin a rude child………………..spare the rod an spoil the child…………r u sayin this scripture is from massa days too
@James it’s all good, there’s alotta bad kids everywhere my only question is where’s the parents & how are they leading them if at all.
That`s the main reason our kid`s are killing and dying like it`s going out of style, they ain`t got no structure in they life,they don`t see no future ,so they don`t give a damn if you don`t live to see the future, nobody will get that ass no more, child abuse my ass there is a difference. “you learn for every action you get a reaction”………ENOUGHT SAID !!!!
GREAT CONVERSATION!
Alotta kids are lost they have no guidance, love, or structure so beating them isn’t gonna solve the problem. But thats just my opinion..
I totally agree with the article. 100% I wasn’t beat as a child. I was taught that every action has a consequence, whether good or bad. Effective communication is key.
You keep speaking of beatings spaking and beatings are not the the same,i am a grown man why do i thank god for every spanking i ever got,cause it made me the man i am today,if a child can do anything they want without action your gonna have,well an unrulable childthat does whatever they want, disipline is not a beating, the bible even agrees with not spoiling the child…….OUT !!!!
The problem is that people don’t do it correctly. You have to clearly articulate to the child why they are being punished. A lot of people just senselessly beat their kids with hardly any or absolutely no reason. Not all kids need it. The personalities that do need it, if you don’t give it to em when they need it, they can become pretty ruthless people. Pain is an anchoring tool. It greatly increases your long term memory of the moment and why it happened. Also they aren’t violent from proper physical punishment being implemented. It’s our T.V. which promotes sociopathic behavior. There is an important time that a child finishes developing their basic personality traits. It ends by 7 to 9 years old. If you haven’t disciplined them correctly up to this time period ending it can be horrible for the child. If you use the T.V. as a Babysitter you will have serious problems as well.
Media propaganda ministers have been spreading this kind of child abuse lie for a long time now. They are blurring the line between proper physical correction and abuse. It all is being depicted as the same thing. This is a direct attempt to cause anarchy by altering childhood development. Division is what the Top 1% of the world wants. Then they have a chance to come in and “correct” things which makes their actions appear to be Altruistic. Then once they have the average persons trust they proceed to rearrange our system in whatever way they desire. Remember the saying Divide and Conquer? What better way to weaken the bond of the masses but to teach parents how to incorrectly raise their children. The media is controlling our every decision in life folks and no one seems to notice! People think they’ve developed these opinions on their own but they haven’t. Most of what we think has been carefully manufactured and sent out into the papers, magazines, and T.V. Look at history and you will see! Also don’t look at history that is recommended in highschools and colleges. The curriculm in our education system has been highly altered and censored since 1902 when David Rockefeller took control by starting the GEB (Get started you have a lot of sifting and digging to do it’s no easy task) The same Psychiatrists that help design deceptive T.V. commercials and programs also have chosen exactly what to teach the “HERD”. The best way to take over the minds of a mass population has always been to universally brainwash the kids from the point of infancy! Wake up!
I agree William i thank GOD my momma choose to spank me i was never beat but i did have the fear in me not to act a fool
Spankings & beatings are in no way the same thing. There is a way to discipline your child w/out causing bodily harm. I have seen some kids that needed a good ole ass whooping while their parent(s) are acting like they dont see or hear their child destroying property. The worst is watching a child slap kick or spit on their parent & their response is im going to get you when we get home or wait til i tell your daddy. WTH!
@ Kissy. I don’t know if you looked up those verses from the Bible yourself or if it was someone elses article or source that already made those comparisons. I just wanted to say that you have to be very careful, especially in the Old Testament, how you interpret verses that are out of context. I know. Satan has led me down all kinds of strange directions getting me into the habit of using the Bible like a wigi board. Just picking it up randomly flipping to a verse and trying to make meaning out of it by itself. Some books of the bible that works but the old testament is not easily taken out of context. Topical studies ,instead of verse by verse chapter by chapter studies, can lead you down many twisted roads of misinterpretation.
The spanking I got I was 14.i thought my mother crazy! But it damn sure straightened me out. There is a difference between correction and abuse.
This is probably true but when they act up I feel better aftewards..
Yeah Kissy My Mom Is Going Back To School Right Now At OSU To Get Her Masters I Believe And My Dad Actually Never Graduated From High School Even…. But He’s Proven To Be A Very Intelligent Man. Made Some Bad Decisions As A Kid. My Entire Family Is Well Educated. My Sister Is At Dartmouth And I’ll Be Attending The University Of Michigan. My Brother Attended Oregon State.
I do not agree with you totally on this issue. Beatings are wrong. Sometime a tap on but to remind a child is needed.
I do not agree with you totally on this issue. Beatings are wrong. Sometime a tap on but to remind a child is needed.
Well I have read your article on black wipping their child and ability to link it to poverty you are very correct and it make a lot of sense for those who care to listen. But I think you need to take this message to african bcos what is happening in african devastating. May God bless you.
Well I have read your article on black wipping their child and ability to link it to poverty you are very correct and it make a lot of sense for those who care to listen. But I think you need to take this message to african bcos what is happening in african devastating. May God bless you.
sorry man I do not agree with this its total Assinine relating this to how wealthy or educated you are plus beatings and spankings are so different.
sorry man I do not agree with this its total Assinine relating this to how wealthy or educated you are plus beatings and spankings are so different.
White people spank too, and who beats a 15 year old? I stopped getting spankings when I was 10.
White people spank too, and who beats a 15 year old? I stopped getting spankings when I was 10.
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