After watching a video of a man Devery Broox spanking a child on camera and reading the police report that stated he beat the child often and left scrapes and markings on the child’s legs as a result I feel inclined to write this blog.
Growing up as a child I was whooped by my grandmother and told to go outside and pick my own switch. Most black people can identify with this and were more than likely brought up the same way. When I was about 15 I ran away on the porch and told my grandmother that I was too old and wasn’t taking anymore butt whippings.. I was always a very intelligent, well behaved child. Whippings were not only barbaric and unnecessary in my eyes, but they also did not make me a better person.
I have never agreed with beating a child. You are only able to hit them because they are too little to protect themselves from you. You would not be quick to hit an adult because you know they more than likely will strike you back. Maybe every blue moon you might have to spank a child but in general when blacks beat their kids it is due to a tradition that was passed down from slavery. That tradition needs to end.
The slave master beat and whipped their slaves to keep them in line. Not only were the slaves beat but they were handed a book in order to aide in maintaining their submission. That book is called The Bible. “
Ephesians 6:5-9 New International Version (NIV)
5 ‘Slaves, obey your earthly masters with respect and fear, and with sincerity of heart, just as you would obey Christ. 6 Obey them not only to win their favor when their eye is on you, but as slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from your heart. 7 Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not people, 8 because you know that the Lord will reward each one for whatever good they do, whether they are slave or free.’
9 ‘And masters, treat your slaves in the same way. Do not threaten them, since you know that he who is both their Master and yours is in heaven, and there is no favoritism with him.’
A lot of slaves literally gave in to slavery feeling as though God would take favor upon them AFTER their death.
In addition to being enslaved they were lead to believe that almost being beat to death and being treated inhumane was morally righteous.
Exodus 21:20-21 ‘Anyone who beats their male or female slave with a rod must be punished if the slave dies as a direct result, 21 but they are not to be punished if the slave recovers after a day or two, since the slave is their property.’
Slave owners fully utilized the Bible to control the slaves. But Dear black people: Let’s all be thankful that there were a few free thinking slaves during those times. Despite the disciplinary actions the underground railroad was started and slowly the opressed began to fight back. You see, you really can’t beat people into mental submission. Some are strong and even while imprisoned you can’t take away their spirit..
As I was saying: When the slaves were freed they went on to discipline their kids in the same way they were kept in line. Mentally they had been brainwashed and believed this type of discipline would not only work but was acceptable.
Therefore this horrible, lousy tradition keeps being passed down from generation to generation.
The new generation does it because that is how their parents disciplined them. Notice the slave masters never beat their kids and they turned out just fine. Notice how many of your white counterparts never got beat and they turned out just fine..
To say that it’s ok because your parents beat you and it worked means that you do not know your history. Nor can you truly call yourself a educated person.
You have some babies that crawl around and you tell them not to go in the cabinets and mess with things and they just don’t. Those kids generally grow up to be good kids without any discipline.
Whipping a child does not guarantee they will stop misbehaving. My brother who got the most beatings, it never stopped him from misbehaving no matter what.
Secondly, I had to ask how many college educated people beat their kids. A great deal of research is not necessary to in order to prove that those numbers are low.
Whooping/whipping kids is also a direct dilation between lack of education and poverty. A great majority of poor people lack the necessary skills needed to effectively communicate their point to people. Yet they do not realize their inefficiencies in this area.
If you have to beat your child, your child may be a bad kid and there is no help or you just might suffer from very bad communication skills.
Disciplinary action of a child starts when they are toddlers. This is when you talk to them and teach them right from wrong and teach them to respect you. This is when most kids attach to their parents and don’t want to disappoint them.. Fear of disappointing a loving parent will stop many kids from misbehaving..
It’s common sense that you do not wait until they are teenagers to start trying to rectify or discipline them and establish respect for you. By then it is too late. I guess you would wait 30 seconds before a bomb is about to explode before you start to try to disable it too right.. Yeah sounds dumb.. Well that’s how dumb it is to let them scream and shoot things all over the super market and spoil them rotten and laugh at them misbehaving as a toddler and then suddenly want them to behave when they are 14.
Next time you decide you need to beat your kids ask yourself how much money do you currently have in the bank.. Probably not that much. Get educated. Learn effective communication skills. I mean seriously, if you can’t get a child who you reared to respect you who can you get to respect you? How are you supposed to get adults in the workplace to respect you?
Lastly, yes some non blacks beat their child too, and yes they are more than likely poor too. Sometimes people need only to think, look around them, recognize their circumstances and strive to do better.
I don’t know if people were not taught black history in school or what, but it’s really not that hard to see the direct correlation between whippings and slavery.
I’m sorry black people but it’s time to wake up. Wake up and get educated. At least sit down and really think about why you are choosing to discipline your kids in this violent manner.