11 Aug 2011
Posted by Miss Kissy 
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How many times have you heard the statement “Nice Guys Finish Last?” Too many. If you had a nickel for every time you heard someone say it, you would be rich.
I thought that I should clear the air on this statement.. Nice guys don’t finish last. Nice, boring guys finish last.
Guys who complain that they finish last with the ladies are usually share certain traits:
1. Predictable: Often times they are simply quite boring and predictable. Nothing exciting about them. They do what they are told, you can pretty much tell the time by them and predict their actions.. He asks her out on a date. He brings flowers. They go eat dinner then watch a movie. He waits until the end of the night to kiss her. He calls her every night. Women find these traits boring
What to Do?: Shake it Up a little. Be sponaneous and suprise her. Women are so bored that they look forward to meeting a spontaneous guy full of surprises. Bring Candy or something cute instead of flowers every time. Instead of watching dinner after a movie have another surprise for her. Like a special dessert shop or a special place. Don’t call her every day. Miss a few days. Let her wonder what you are doing. Don’t wait till the end of the night to kiss her. Kiss her when you feel like it.
2. Doesn’t Stand His Ground – When you arrive late and she says ”You knew how important this was for me, it’s my phucking birthday! Why didn’t you make the reservations, you phucking idiot!? Are you just phucking lazy, or are you really that fucking stupid!?” He says “Oh baby, I’m sorry! I really do care, it just slipped my mind… oh man, I promise I really WILL make it up to you.. oh man, I’m so stupid.” instead of, “Hey, the last thing that’s okay is for you to talk to me like that. When you calm down and can act like an adult we can go and celebrate like you deserve. Until then I’m out of here.”
What to do? A man must have boundaries and enforce them. No woman can be attracted to a guy she doesn’t respect. If you let her walk all over you simply because you’re desperate for her to like you, the you’ve already lost her. Being nice won’t buy her respect, but standing up for yourself will.
3. Lack of Confidence: The nice guy often feels like he is not good enough. He sits at home thinking he is not rich enough, or attractive enough to get the women he really wants. This prevents him from approaching women because he assumes that she will reject him. Meanwhile he sits there angrily watching the “bad Boy” with confidence talk to her and take up her time.
The Lesson? Women have long lists of qualifications for what they want in a man. But how often do they end up with that man? Almost never. You need to understand this if you ever wish to get your dream girl - her preferences don’t matter. If women only dated pretty boys or rich men most women would be single. You have to think to yourself that somebody is screwing her and that somebody is more than likely not rich. It’s not how you LOOK that matters, it’s how you make her FEEL that matters. Even if you are not 100% confident, don’t let her know.
4. Small Drab Wardrobe: Nice Guys are usually not the Most stylish. They love to be their natural selves and be who they are in addition to have a boring personality.. They feel like clothes are no big thing and they don’t matter. They actually do matter a lot.. They never seem to notice that the guy with the gucci loafers, the jewelry and the nice ride never seems to have a hard time getting a woman’s affection.
Why, What To Do? Nice guys think that guy that flashy guys attract bad women.. The nice guy wants a good quality woman who likes him for him. He identifies a woman that does not like the nice things in life as a quality woman. This is not true. Always dress to impress. Your clothes don’t have to be expensive but try to keep up with the times. Including your hair cut. Your appearance should say “I love myself.”
5. PASSIVE – Nice guys are not aggressive. They sit around waiting on a woman to make decisions and moves. Women like men who are able to make decisions and lead them.. They like aggressive in charge men.. It makes her wet. When you’re busy asking her, “Where do you want to go? ”What should we do?” What should we eat? ” she’s thinking, “I don’t care! Why can’t you just be a man and make a decision for us?”
What to do: Stop trying to handle her like a delicate wash cycle. Learn to be a leader. You make plans. You tell her what you are going to do. Have it all planned out. Learn to make decisions, learn to surprise her. Please stop asking women for permission and approval. Most women are very happy to be lead on each date like it’s an adventure – instead of being asked to take charge. If you want to kiss her kiss her. Don’t ask for permission. Don’t ask her if you are her type. Exude confidence at all times. If you want to have sex with her go for it. Initiate. She might turn you down or you might turn her on. You never know. But women do not like men who wait on them to make the first move.
Who is this Nice Guy? If he takes a look in the mirror he might realize tht he wouldn’t date himself if he was a woman. There is nothing special about him.. He doesn’t stand out in a crowd. A woman doesn’t look at him and see the words WINNER written all over him. As always women like men who appear to be winning.. If you look in your mirror or wallet and it doesn’t say winning you need to do something about that. Get a winning PERSONALITY.
I can give you this list. I can make it shorter or longer. But you know what. It really doesn’t matter, because you have to go on a case by case basis. Some men are too aggressive or move too soon and it will turn a woman off. Some women have gone pass the stage where they accept a guy being late or forgetting their birthday or dates. Personally a guy made me cry on my birthday and he immediately got cut off. Being super apologetic would of actually saved him. But he pulled the macho role… Some women won’t deal with a man that does not adore her. So you could get all these traits down and meet a woman who likes just the opposite. That is why people tell you to just be yourself. But alas.. self may not be good enough if you have a boring personality..
The best key to dealing with a woman is learning about her ex. If her ex was a asshole and she stayed with him for years. She might be ready for the nice guy and looking for that. She may be less willing to put up with BS because she now appreciates the value of having a nice guy.
Some girls have never had their hearts broken, or have never felt excited by a man. She may be more attracted to the fascinating bad boy who comes along..
Dating is so simple. I like you and you like me, let’s get together.. But timing sometimes changes things. Sometimes people have certain voids in their life that need to be filled. If you can fill that void that may be your way into their life. But if you can’t you may be the right person at the wrong time. This is why I tell people to always look your best. If nothing else it increases your odds.
Lastly no one can read minds. So ask a woman what she is looking for in a man. See if you can get her to describe her dream guy. This may help you in knowing what direction to go in…
125 Comments
I'm sick of being a nice guy.
Because women like bad guys
AMEN! @Franklin.
Not true! LOL! Some of the Nicest Studs out
There are Packing It Thick! DYNAMITE can
Come in any type of package so one can't
Compare a nice guy to a roughneck when it
Comes to that department or any other category. You don't know what a person is
MADE of until you've actually dealt with them.
The Eye Of The Tiger is within all of us Nice
Guy or Bad Guy. To every action, there's a
Reaction. Seduce a nice guy behind closed
Door, I bet he'd Tear That Stuff Up Like No
Other! LOL! Keepin it Real!
I don't like "bad" guys, never dated 1 either! My father and other men in my family are gentlemen and that's what I want!
because women like power, money and influence and you dont acquire those being nice.
You have to be aggressive, narcissistic and an ass-hole.
so women basking in power, money and influence end up with aggressive, narcissistic men going wtf did I get my self into.
Nice guys dont finish last because of their niceness, but certain nice guy finish last because they fear failure and rejection. They don't have enough common sense to be agressive and take the initiative. Here's an advice for men, if a woman rejects you than you didn't lose anything. If you don't approach women then you won't know if she might of liked you or not. The key to handling rejection and failure is to fail and get rejected as much as possible. For the next three week approach at least there women every day, and go over every failure in your head and imagine what you could of do different. Once the fear of rejection is gone, your success rate will go up. I use to always leave the club with a beautiful woman, my friends could never understand my success with women. Only if they looked closer, they would see that i probably talked to every girl in the club before finding that one.
Umm, You guys know that is actually a article… Not just a statement.. Especially you "nice men"
women who pursue power, money and influence are 2x as aggressive and narcissistic than men are and then wonder why is it no one wants to touch them.
Brute force method. hell no. I dont have that much time. women are like cats, cats belong to no one. They do what they want and if you want their affection you had better pay attention or they WILL scratch your ass.
Approach three women a day until your confortable aproaching women because failure only reveals your success. Develop a sense of humor, womwn love to laugh. Be agressive, especially if you want to hit it.
Just spend money on the women. Then they will like you regardless if you are nice, make them laugh.
The women that play hard to get can be won over, if you can make her laugh, it relaxes women.
So true Kissy,so to all the nice guys out there start acting like an asshole and watch your stock rise sorry but very true women like assholes..lol
GIRLS DONT LIKE NICE GUYS! YEAH I SAID IT
Yeah, they want those guys that cause all that drama in their lives.
@Joseph Perez you're absolutely right they like 2be abused dogged out abused and misused hell I say give them wtf they want.
Why do u feel bad Kissy they gotta D up and put on their big boy pants. Am nice but i am fun and not a push over. I can tell by some of the response some kats got hurt but your gonna get hurt. But u gotta learn a move on. Stop chasing the chicks treat u bad. And make your woman feel safe!
THERE'S NO WORRIES, AS LONG AS SHE FINISHES FIRST !!!
Women wonder why they pick men who continue to dogg them. Because they listen to other women who either don't have a man or have a man dogging her at the moment. Don't be fooled by this non-sense of wardrobe, keeping things spontaneous & other gimmicks Kissy listed off. Try gettin to know the man, his soul, his heart, find out what he needs & where you can contribute, It may take some time to find the "One". If he is the one he will do the same in return. PLEASE stop listening to these women who are clueless & want to keep you the same way!
i got played being nice before. Now they call me a "asshole"
Ha.. Funny Edward, Previously I had that the sad part about all of this is that the NICE GUYS won't listen to the article and will quickly dismiss everything it says…. SMH..
Nice doesn't mean pushover. Kissy, you have those two words confused. I'm a good man and far from a pushover. I always felt like some women don't know or will never recognize a good man ever. But after getting ran through, used, and left behind by the bad boy. Then they want the nice guy. Being nice doesn't equal stupidity neither. I have a video for you to watch and will e-mail you it when I get a chance.
i agree with Kissy. No woman dont want no pussy ass nigga.
man. Imma tell you something that nobody else has ever told you. When a woman meets a tall, nicely dressed man, who is rich and treats her well and is also packing and puts it down in the bedroom she is in HEAVEN… Women love nice guys who give them everything and treat them well but keep their assertive positions as a man..
Amen!!!
Ya'll don't listen though. That's why I don't spend too much time writing self help articles anymore. Those who really want help, help themselves..
Any mature real woman who respects herself to the utmost will take a nice guy over what society calls real men (which is the player types).A real man is decisive, confident, a leader, a provider, a protector, a teacher, one who has a vision for provision, and one who doesn't fold up or crashes when thing sgo bad.If a nice guy has those qualities would you take him ? Sometimes nice guys finish best.
Kissy, some of us listen, dont stop. I love hearing a womans point of view
Thank you Kissy thanks for keeping it real!
I love these women-made lists. They always neglect the fact that men cannot win. If he does 'x', he's an asshole. If he doesn't do 'x', he's a pussy. This game is a pointless waste of time, money, energy and self-respect.
Avery a lot of mature women respect themselves and they are single and passing up on all the Nice Guys because the Nice Guys are mostly boring.. So she has to way for a non boring nice guy to come along…
I like when a Nice Guy is Sexy and Confident and live nice and ride nice and Yard is nice…..Then they dont look Desperate!!!!
Yes, and women want fried ice, too.
So Kissy answer me this i'm I off, or wrong in what I said??? Furthermore If a man could meet the perfect woman who cooks, makes good money, has a bangin ass, sexed him right, he might be in heaven too. I understand you don't want no punk, but want a man with class.
Well said Avery!! Not all of us want bad boys…
You just described a pushover. Not a nice guy. I'm none of those things at all. What's the point of listening and you have terms mixed up. smh I recognized women don't appreciate or want a nice guy until they're older.
THE LAST, SHALL BE FIRST !!!!
Kissy maybe, maybe not but its great thing for both parties to lay their cards on the table ,so they don't wast each others time.
Kenneth Dwayne Camell II Amen ma brada !!
THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS ARTICLE. THERE ARE POIGNANT POINTS / TRILL SPILL !!
Nice article Kissy. I thought those were some great points and solid advice to give. It took me a long time to learn a lot of those things. I definitely agree that women don't want to be with a boring guy. My sister points this out to me all the time. One point I say that could have been added to the article is that as a man you should be knowledgeable and have interesting things to talk about. You should be able to impart knowledge and challenge a woman intellectually. I find women tend to like stuff like that. Reading is fundamental gentlemen.
Simple Solution! Nice Guys need a nice Girl. Now the problem with this simple solution! Where are the nice Girls for these nice Guys? We guys see too many single girls! Being single is highly overrated! We are here to balance and complement one another so we can become better Human Beings. That requires sacrifice and a willingness to deny one's self. Another way to put it's called a willingness to give and take. There has to be a balance.
For all the Nice Guys out there continue to be True to who you are and 'know' beyond a shadow of a doubt there is a woman out here to complement you! Good post Kissy!
Thank You Xavier. I would have put that but honestly if you spoil her with gifts she won't care if you are not the brightest…
O God Kissy ~ Thanks For Helping The Nice Guys Out, You Have A Wonderful Heart…
all the dudes who are defensive are "nice guys."
LOL!! Good point Kissy.
I agree wit k)(Im still waiting til the right nice fun guy comes!!!
Bad article.. Bad Kissy!! Never take that off your blog else…
THEY DON'T. IT'S PERCEPTION. I AM GONNA BE NICE UNTIL I DIE. WHOEVER DOESNT APPRECIATE THAT QUALITY IN ME, WASN'T SUPPOSE TO BE IN MY LIFE. I WIN IN ALL THINGS. NICE GUYS NEED TO LOOK FOR NICE GIRLS THAT COMPLIMENT THEM. GUYS GO AFTER WOMEN THAT ARE NOT OBTAINABLE FOR THEM AND GET THEIR FEELINGS HURT. SO THEIR MOTIVES AINT RIGHT EITHER.
Wow, this is like 3 consecutive days of your posts about "nice guys finish last".
Make better choices and win.
I am a nice guy, and I win. Plus I have 8' inches. I will never lose.
Nice Guys don't finish last in my book
Nice guys do NOT finish last. Weak men finish last.
Your appearance should say “I love myself" wooow that sounds so stoopid, different men attract different type of men, there are no guidelines.
@Nadir, different men attract different type of women, I believe.
Wait, is it too late to swap out the term "weak men" for puss buckets?
If that's the case then i have some suggestion 1 learn to ask her open ended questions 2 buy a kat. William dvd, and practice, practice, practice sense of humor 3 to make you wallet grow open a forex practice account, they start you off with 5k practice practice, and than use real money. 4 keep telling yourself that your positive 5 buy a pension enlargement.
So mean to the Fellas. PENIS size too? Unbelieveable!!!
I'm nice and am proud! But definitely big all around so don't no where that's coming from….
Rashaunda that was the old version. The new version is really nice.
I meant 5 buy a penis enlargement
LoL
Nice guys don't finish last in my book. I'll take a nice guy everyday of the week.
Not true! I`ve herd Women Say that about Guy`s W/Money Only diffrence thier Low Self esteem they Pay for Women!
This Is Interesting… The Article Is Suppose To Enlighten Nice Guys. But, The Revised Verison of The Article Has Some Men Referring To Their Penis ~ WHY.
LoL
I don’t think size of a dick has anything to do with being or not being a nice guy. I’m nice guy the other nice guy(not a punk or pushover) and I’m “WELL HUNG”. Dick sizes has nothing to do with it. Any woman or man thinks that, then they are naive and DUMB AS HELL.
What chick doesn't want a nice guy?
One of the definitions for nice means to be a fool. Kissy do you want a fool
For dating whos cares…….
I have my own reasons why I finish last. to sum it up… Ladies CUM first. winkies! ;-9
When I seen women somewhere, I shifted into Beast Mode.
if he's a super-nice guy, woman can easily play them directly out of pocket..12.12.11
What chick doesn’t want a nice guy?
One of the definitions for nice means to be a fool. Kissy do you want a fool
For dating whos cares…….
I have my own reasons why I finish last. to sum it up… Ladies CUM first. winkies! ;-9
When I seen women somewhere, I shifted into Beast Mode.
if he’s a super-nice guy, woman can easily play them directly out of pocket..12.12.11
What chick doesn’t want a nice guy?
One of the definitions for nice means to be a fool. Kissy do you want a fool
For dating whos cares…….
I have my own reasons why I finish last. to sum it up… Ladies CUM first. winkies! ;-9
When I seen women somewhere, I shifted into Beast Mode.
if he’s a super-nice guy, woman can easily play them directly out of pocket..12.12.11
What chick doesn’t want a nice guy?
One of the definitions for nice means to be a fool. Kissy do you want a fool
For dating whos cares…….
I have my own reasons why I finish last. to sum it up… Ladies CUM first. winkies! ;-9
When I seen women somewhere, I shifted into Beast Mode.
if he’s a super-nice guy, woman can easily play them directly out of pocket..12.12.11
What chick doesn’t want a nice guy?
One of the definitions for nice means to be a fool. Kissy do you want a fool
For dating whos cares…….
I have my own reasons why I finish last. to sum it up… Ladies CUM first. winkies! ;-9
When I seen women somewhere, I shifted into Beast Mode.
if he’s a super-nice guy, woman can easily play them directly out of pocket..12.12.11
What chick doesn’t want a nice guy?
One of the definitions for nice means to be a fool. Kissy do you want a fool
For dating whos cares…….
I have my own reasons why I finish last. to sum it up… Ladies CUM first. winkies! ;-9
When I seen women somewhere, I shifted into Beast Mode.
if he’s a super-nice guy, woman can easily play them directly out of pocket..12.12.11
What chick doesn’t want a nice guy?
One of the definitions for nice means to be a fool. Kissy do you want a fool
For dating whos cares…….
I have my own reasons why I finish last. to sum it up… Ladies CUM first. winkies! ;-9
When I seen women somewhere, I shifted into Beast Mode.
if he’s a super-nice guy, woman can easily play them directly out of pocket..12.12.11
What chick doesn’t want a nice guy?
One of the definitions for nice means to be a fool. Kissy do you want a fool
For dating whos cares…….
I have my own reasons why I finish last. to sum it up… Ladies CUM first. winkies! ;-9
When I seen women somewhere, I shifted into Beast Mode.
if he’s a super-nice guy, woman can easily play them directly out of pocket..12.12.11
What chick doesn’t want a nice guy?
One of the definitions for nice means to be a fool. Kissy do you want a fool
For dating whos cares…….
I have my own reasons why I finish last. to sum it up… Ladies CUM first. winkies! ;-9
When I seen women somewhere, I shifted into Beast Mode.
if he’s a super-nice guy, woman can easily play them directly out of pocket..12.12.11