I was reading about a “regular looking” black girl who couldn’t get in a club in NY. I always wondered if they were only doing that in Vegas. In Vegas even if you are a gorgeous black chick who is aestheticly appealing it’s still sometimes hard to get into the club. Even if you are on the guestlist. They will not let a black woman in under the guestlist unless she is deemed hot!! And don’t call yourself overweight and black and think that you’re going to get into a hot Vegas nightclub for free. Chances are that you won’t. You can’t even pay to get in. But you can be an unattractive white woman or a out of shape white woman and you can get in the club.
Why is it that black women have to come on point and look as perfect as possible? Why do we have to be dressed super nice from head to toe? I understand it’s all about image and you want men to leave the club bragging about all the hot chicks they met and the club wants them to come back again. It is a business. But why does that rule only apply to black women?
Why is everyone so hard on black women? Then you have black men who are forever talking bad about a black woman not wearing her real hair. Telling them to wear it natural. Besides some black women having extremely kinky hard to manage hair; Do men really not understand the pressures that are on a black woman to be astheticly appealing to the mass?
I mean black women have a hard time getting into a hot diverse nightclub where their money spends just the same as everyone else. So imagine the difficulties they have trying to do other things. Someone is constantly telling them they are not good enough. So enough with the you don’t like chicks who wear weave talk. As a man unless you are financially responsible for a black woman how can you dislike the fact that she has a weave?
Frankly I have had enough of the talking bad about black women talk. Black women are some of the strongest women that God created. Loyal, strong and often left to learn everything on their own while enduring the harsh realities of life. That’s why when a woman finally finds a good black man she should not only be thankful but be appreciative.
It would be nice to say that everyone has one. But truthfully those wonderful black men who do right by you and play the part of the man in your life to a “T” are hard to come by.. They are actually a rare commodity.
The definition of a Regular Black Girl: A regular black girl is a girl who is not often found attractive by people outside of her own race…. She lacks features that would be deemed as “exotic”. She often times has dark skin or kinky hair. She often times will be pure black and not mixed with any other racial ethnicity. She might often have the “natural” look. Physically one might say there is nothing “special” about her.
My favorite lines of this injustice are : “You are pretty for a dark skinned girl” or “You are pretty for a black girl” and my most favorite. “What are you mixed with? Cause you couldn’t be all black, because you are so pretty.”
A good example of a regular black girl would be Usher’s ex wife Tameka Foster. Never has an R&B’s mate caused such outrage with his fans the way Tameka Foster did when Ushers fans found out that he married her. His fans deemed her a regular black girl. They were upset that he did not choose a mate that was considered “exotic”. They blamed Tameka for Usher’s plummeting album sales while he was with her. The public was completely unaccepting of this regular black girl. His fans were unapologetic about their dislike for her.
Lots of black men are quick to say that they want a ‘exotic” looking woman or if they don’t say it they end up with one.
I am truly saddened by some of the things that go on in society….. Some people choose to hide from things they don’t want to believe exist. I on the other hand choose to talk about these things in hopes of stopping the madness. Black is beautiful in so many ways. We may never be able to completely stop the discrimination that happens outside of our race but we can start with fixing the discrimination that is within it.
Black women from birth are going against all odds. It’s seems like there is no win. But despite all those odds a black woman does often times win! Black men need to love a black woman that’s comfortable in her own skin. No matter what skin or form she chooses to cloak her skin in.
BLACK WOMEN KEEP YA HEAD UP