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DEAR KISSY,

Hey ma how u doin (Wendy Williams voice)? Ok this is the situation I was with my ex for 10 & 1/2 yrs & I found out he cheated on me with this chick in our town.

What made the situation worse worse was the excuse he gave me which was that he was drunk & she took advantage of him, which is bs. Well if that wasn’t bad enough he had sex wit her in our house & our bed so that’s how I caught him because I was finding pieces of her weave all up and through the house & powder in my bed as well as her cheap perfume on my sheets, pillow cases & blankets.
Now all of this went on every time I would come to Houston to visit my family. So I left him and it’s been almost 2 yrs. Well he’s been trying to get back and since I left him telling me it was a mistake and that he loves & misses me and the boys. He says he wants me to take him back.

What messes my head up is that hes still messin around with this skank and tyey even briefly moved in together.  Another  thing that bothered me is that she’s not cute. She is 33 and stays with her mama. She is on welfare,she looks like a man & she is the town whore.  I mean she has nothing going for herself.

So why in the hell do men do that Kissy?  My last question is what should I do about all this because I still love him, l but i can’t & will not take him back ever.  What should I do because I’ve told him this so many times & its not registering wit him Kissy. Please help me lol. Thank you and I love your  website  ma.

SOMEBODY WAS  SLEEPING IN MY BED

DEAR SOMEBODY WAS SLEEPING IN MY BED:

The first thing you need to do is take that love you have for this man and place it into a ziplock bag. Wrap it in gray masking tape, dip it in some krazy glue and toss it into the nearest body of water that you can find.

        Your ex has to be one of the most trifling men I have ever heard of. He has no respect for you or himself.  One of the traits of being a man is willpower, not caving into lustful desires that you know will cause problems.

What you have on your hands is a Ain’t Sh!t Ninja who knows he Ain’t Sh!t so he went and got himself a Ain’t Shit Bish to match his standards…  Now he wants his cake and you too.  If you allow it he would have you both.  

Not much else really needs to be said about the situation.. It’s one thing to tell a person you are done with them. But it’s another to show it.  I would suggest that you stop speaking to him about things unless it has something to do with the boys (if they are his). Completely move on with your life and better yourself. Realize the traits about him that make him such a horrible guy and learn to pick better men in the future.

There is NOTHING good about your ex.  If they had a triflin ninja award he would come in 4th place behind Tiger Woods, Al Gore and Arnold Schwarzenegger … In your bed… Girl you shouldn’t even be speaking to him if you don’t have to.. Success is the best revenge and silence is a killer. He should be on your ignore list if he is not your kids father. Make him feel extra stupid by being successful.. Let him talk to welfare chicks.. At least you can always look at him and laugh… It’s very good that you are not angry and  bitter about the situation. You can do better.. Anybody can do better than him… SMH, Real Talk,, He needs his azz whooped.

Kissy | Queen of Answers