Why is it when a couple is going through financial hardships the first thing the lady wants to do is stop having sex ??? Late at night saying things like “we dont have any time for this”….
If you can watch soaps all day then you can sex your man no matter what the hardship is…. Can you help me w/ this dillemma ???? submitted via email
Mama always told me, There is no romance without finance. If love was all we needed to survive the world would be a much better place. But there probably would not be many inventions…
The hardest thing for a sane woman to do is have a sex drive in the midst of financial hardship. Women simply are not turned on when they are broke or lacking the things they want and need.
It is imperative that men stop believing all this false stuff about it’s what’s on the inside that counts and all this other BS that some one put out into the world to fool people. Love does not pay any bills and a woman wants a man that can provide for her.
Intelligent women pick men based on their ability to survive. If you were in the same situation when you met your woman you need to sit her down and tell her that she knew what she was getting into.
I quoted on twitter last week that if your girl doesn’t want to have sex with you, chances are your money is not right.
Women often do not discuss finances with a mate before getting into a relationship for fear of being labeled a gold digger. So she will get into a relationship with you and then stop wanting to be with you after she realizes there are money problems. This is why it is best to discuss finances and expectations before committing.
So what can you do?
Truthfully your relationship is at the beginning of coming to an end. When a woman stops having sex with her mate that means she feels disgusted by you. Having sex with you while you are not providing for her wants and needs feels like rape to her…
Most all divorces are due to financial issues. The figure is something like 70%. I would suggest that in the next relationship you sit down together and discuss finances before hand. Put yourself on a budget and start putting money into savings. If you are in a relationship together with a common goal of saving money towards retirement this will help you both focus and not need some of the unecessary things that you can do without. Order your credit report and figure out how to fix it.
Also you may want to consider dating a woman with good credit. This way you can use her credit in case of emergency. Men should not take on spouses that they can not afford. If your finances are not good you have to get a mate with good finances. That will create balance. Lastly it would be in your best interest to become financially educated. If you are not educated in finance and how money works you will always have financial problems.
Kissy Denise | Queen of Answers