THe QUESTION:
Ladies if you made enough money to take care of a man would you OR would you still demand for him to be the man and provide for you?
Asked by @glam_couture via Twitter
KISSY’S ANSWER:
I have to admit that I have been the victim of doing this stupid ish more than once. But I was always cursing those males out telling them that I didn’t need them for. s.h.i.t and that they were worthless and that I can do better and blah, blah, blah.
Now that I am a little bit older I would never do such a thing. I realize that a real man, a real GOOD man would never let a woman take care of him and provide for him. That goes against a man’s nature. At this point in my life any man that needs a dollar from me can stay away from me.
Men who let women take care of them are not real men. They are mama’s boys who never grew up.
it may not seem like it but a woman taking care of a man is a form of low self esteem. What women doesn’t want a man that can spoil her?
Ladies what is your take on this? MEN, would you let a woman take care of you?
161 Comments
I got a 11 inches in my pants if u would!
I got a 11 inches in my pants if u would!
I hope they won't lie a lot of women doing it now and they make 12 dollars a hour! #fail
I hope they won’t lie a lot of women doing it now and they make 12 dollars a hour! #fail
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No!
I’m your Huckleberry! Just need 1 meal a day.
In this day and age, both parties are equal…men and women do look out for each other in their own ways, so i’d say yeah if i let her take care of me, but i’d also like to take care of her…50/50 people, it’s common sense…
Tried, always insecure, no confidence and later abusd me/turnd to be brutal
I would but i’d still need my own.And visa versa.
@monie then you found the wrong person, unfortunately..
No thank you! I never have and never will.
No thank you! I never have and never will.
No. Eventually you resent him 4 being a pussy. I don’t & SHOULDN’T play both roles. I will not respect you. You’re not a man. PERIOD.
if u able to provide cause u aint sick disabled or dead..u got to bring money in the house i dont use nothing cheap so it takes money to keep me up..
if u able to provide cause u aint sick disabled or dead..u got to bring money in the house i dont use nothing cheap so it takes money to keep me up..
I prefer to hold my own. Now if a woman makes more than me oh well. I’m still bringing mine to the table.
Very true Aheen COX
No. I know I would not have respect for him.
No I wouldn’t, and I make very good money. The only exception would be if he was my husband and was injured and could not work. I’m not so independent that I wanna wear the pants. I’ll gladly stand by your side and play my position as the woman. Sorry!
No! Never ever! Just for my own sake!
Nooo. what i’ve noticed with such arrangement is that the man will later show appreciation to another woman.
Put me in the path of a woman with the last names of Heinz, Rowling, Winfrey..I’ll change my tune faster than Pandora.
If she was just LOADED then sure but I can’t just sit on my ass and play house. I’ve got to bring something to the table beside spending your money. Men have to find ways to be men, if not you become her bitch!
I would luv a rich lady….to take care of me…hahahaha
good question.but i know that women will rather take from men than to give.because they are selfish.
I do my own thing
“Hell to the No” It ain’t natural and goes against the natural order of things. You can look to the animal kingdom and see that. I can get my paper. If the woman can get her’s than its “mo money, mo money, 4 us”. But life should at some point teach & show U that U don’t want no earthly being to take care of U.
I could bt men got 2big egos. Eventually they’l get frustrated. Only young boys like 2 b taken care of.
If he wants to b treated lik a man then he needs to act lik one, if not then he will get treated lik my son… Lol but only man i will take care of is my husband, if he gets hurt and cant work.
Ladies. I can cook, clean house, iron, take care of the kids and serve u sumthin hot when u get home. I’m not gay. My mother taught me that if I want to be a better man, these are the things I should add to my resume.
I take care of one now my son…the only one who gets to lay up
i wont take from a woman, i will rather give to a woman.
B tha man of course n always matters if I had tha cash cuz then I would not hve to wonder if he’s there for me r money.
I agree God made Adam to provide and Eve to help so if you can’t provide please keep it moving cuz I got!
Glam_Couture says
I agree God made Adam to provide and Eve to help so if you can’t provide please keep it moving cuz I got!
Hey kissy hell no%%%
Hey kissy hell no%%%
Somewhere many men have lost the real meaning of a woman…I am not your provider now if we were in it 1000 and you fall I got u til you get up but these cats stepping with nothing but game and game recognize game boo# epic fail
Glam_Couture says
Somewhere many men have lost the real meaning of a woman…I am not your provider now if we were in it 1000 and you fall I got u til you get up but these cats stepping with nothing but game and game recognize game boo# epic fail
that ? was said before
Yes, yes? Tell ladies hehe
Its makes the relationship hard and about convinence. No one wants a relationship like that. They want to be equalled
Uh No…What Real man would want his woman to take care of him???
Me but I take care of home cook and clean and both of kids
no
prollie not.
No.
hell no kissy i know that are dam there 40 n dont help in the house n be outside saying im fresh from head to toe boy bye smh
men
I would want my man to work
If he was in grad, medical or law school absolutely, but not for his ass to just sit at home and play xbox all day!
If u find one and they re there in vegas give them my number lol lol
Ah, NO
Done it but not on purpose…it made the relationship horrible! He played like he was soo hurt to b the only one working witch hurt me. But all along he was actually very comfy in his position he just made me miserable by acting miserable when he was actually content!
Correction: he played like he was soo hurt by me being the only one working. Smh
Ken it’s the weekend. I have to repost stuff for the people who missed it.
…Yes, but he would have to be a Ruler..(An I’m not talk’n about of a Castles either) LMAO!
No. But I would court/woo him on a whole different level.
I laugh at guys who think they’re cool and have no job and I tell it to their. Face but if they’re helping its ok
They’d love to be taken care of though lol
I couldn’t do it I would feel like I owed her
NAMSTEY ASK-K
Of course they would, please come take care of me ladies Lol just kidding ladies
NO I’m traditional..he can provide for family, I will work to help out
Do ‘traditional’ roles still exist in this post feminist era? If your stable man lost his job wouldn’t it be the right thing to take care of things whilst he gets his stuff together? I absolutely would take care of my man if I could afford to if he was unable to work for a good reason. If he was just lazing around, different story but then I wouldn’t be with someone with no ambition anyway. The same would go for a woman – if she can, she should work full stop!
The word of God says the woman should be the helpmate(for those of you who don't get it, HELP YOUR MATE, NOT TAKE CARE OF YOUR MATE!!!!!) If a man works everyday there is no reason a woman should be taking care of him (paying the bills, buying the groceries, paying for meals in a restuarant, while he does what he wants with HIS money) Not helping to pay anything!!! Then every once in awhile he goes out and buys you something and you on cloud 9, mind you, from the pawn shop, not the regular jewelry store. Now who's the fool in this relationship, Oh and the kicker is we ain't even married cause he just divorced someone else?
nope
hell naw…..
if he was my man an needed time to get on his feet but other than that HELL NAW lol
CAN I GET A HELLLLL..TO THE NO!!!..2 TIME'S PLEASE!!
Only if he was my husband AND he got crunched up terribly in an accident. But if he's able bodied…HEEELLLLLL NAW!!
NO way!!! Who does that???
See that's what's wrong with yal women..so called Christian women if you have a good man that always provided for you then life throw him a curve ball yal wouldn't support him yal some selfish bitches
Lol…..i agree with all of uuuuu
If he really loved me – and has proven it for years – and if I really loved him, I would.
Crunched up!! LOL!!!!!!
ooooh! that's a good one. Honestly…..NO
See and yall wonder why guys dog some of yall ,oh now u don't wanna do a man job lol I'm so dead for this one lol
Yep! Wouldn't be an issue as long as he's good to me and loves me. I've been taken care of my whole life and was miserable. So if he makes mama happy and mama has the funds. No problemo!
I still like, "Cruncehd up"!!! Hahahaha!!!
Change the role…..i would luv for a lady to take care of me..
we support yall(WOMEN) all the time…glad to know where SOME OF YALL HEART IS..SMDH
2be truthful if he was a real real real real real good man then i wud. But where are they@? NO WHERE 2B FOUND!
I'm playing devils advocate…We should be paid to deal with women…with all the insecurities alone.."baby am I fat"…what makes her look so good damn to u I got all that n then some" baby what u thinkin…and of course if u love me like u say u do u should already know.
HELZ TO THE NIZO!
Very good question Kissy! I've always tried to be the one that was down for doing what needed to be done in bad times and it's bit me in the ass every time sooo….. NO I won't take care of a man ever again. a MAN needs to be the primary provider. I've always taken care of me and mine. A man can at least take care of himself to better the situation.
But u can't that man down thats down for u huh
No I'd rather take care of a pet first…
I wouldn't require that he worked but I would require him to be productive. Still pursuing things in life and things like that. I can't be a kept woman in that typical way and I couldn't have a man like that either
Yes, we have to take care of our children and pets first. A real man and a real woman would understand that. NOW THAT'S a perosn worth fighting for!!!
I sit on the fence with this one. While men are natural hunters, and their instinctive action is to take care of his female counterpart, and i do feel if a woman took care of the man, either consciously or unconsciously the man will feel less of a man. (that is a man who truly loves his woman) however, I think I would have no problem taking care of my man, if I knew that he would take care of me. We all have different times in our life when we need love and assistance, and if my man needed that, and i knew he was a truly giving man as well, then why not?
No unless I became rich and he was my husband before and was taking care of business. I would consider so we both can retire and trave/l do things together.
No, no and hell no!
Hell no! Not jumping in a relationship doing it we would have had to been together for a while and he was not stable.
or if he was my husband and got sick or in an accident I would otherwise NO
Well in the past I would say no,but given this new world order and this economic climate I would'nt necessarily say no,but even so I would have to still wear the pants,with a magnum in my pocket..yeah..
I WOULD "HELP" HIM IF HE WAS DOWN AND IT WAS BENEFICAL TO US.
yea i agree! If he was my husband and he is good to me and he was in to become disabled and unable to provide
*if
@edmund really and we shouldn't get paid to deal with ya'll baby have my babies.. baby is dinner ready.. baby hold me down pleaseee..lol
I am looking for a Sugar Daddy as we speak… Damn taking care of anyone thats not my child..
I think it's hilarious that you have all these ladies saying no. I wonder how many of them are okay with a man taking care of them and see no hypocrisy in it all….
If I could I would, no doubt. Work stresses people out. I would love to have a partner that didn't have work as a reason to be stressed. He would be happy and wanna have a lot of sex. Sounds good to me!
NO!!! Then what would he do?? Men need industry or their minds would work at the Devil's Workshop! The man was made to work and provide. I mean, we'd be straight, but he had to work to occupy his mind.
You playing, right?
@Travis I am looking for the list now to sign me up for a sugar daddy! I wont have any problems with someone taking care of me..
I need taken care of!….
My husband IF he was not able to work…ie accident or something. Esp sense he helped build what we have, he helped with the businesses n such. But just on GP if I was not married NOPE! My thing is match me or better…bring it! If you can't handle like my Father did…see ya! Apparently my man can or he wouldn't be here…he not only matched it; he passed it, we built it and it's ALL better&good!
It's not natural for a woman to financially care for a man….So, why even attempt that? And a real man wouldn't want that!!!!
I need a sugar mama…
i'm a nice guy just broke i mean no money but i'm caring non smoker and do work not the best job but work i believe love should have no boundaries but in a world where the man has to be rich or drive a fancy car good women are so hard to find
Yes. But it would come with some guidelines. It wouldn't just be any man it would be THE man, he'd have to prove that it's not all about the money. Shiiiit, theres male gold diggers out there too[k fed].
Yes!!!!!!!!! Of MY MAN!!!!!
very good post kissy and some very very interesting responses…kudos to the wives and ladies that look past the "sugar daddy cliche'" and realize that sometimes "circumstances" do prevail…God bless you!
let me rephrase "sugar mamma cliche"
@Pretty Brown Bone Lilly ~ Gurl You Ain't Cutting No Slack…
Our culture has set a standard where a man is "suppose" to take care of his family. In other countries it is acceptable for a woman to take care of the household. A man is a person like a woman and needs a break at some point, b/c we get stressed out too. Saying no to this post is basically wanting something for nothing in my opinion..
Thats pretty fucked up ladies!
I would take care of one of u. Its called sharing the wealth. Its all expendable and I cant it with me when I go.
Hell yes if I had the money I would just buy the man I wanted, men do it all the time so why women can't do it…..
Naturally we feel that we have to take care of women and our families b/c it makes us feel less than what we truly are, which means we care. If I became very ill I wouldnt expect her to take care of me b/c I would have worked hard enough to have a stack in the bank where neither of us would have to work, but in all seriousness it should be 50/50. My grandma told me before she passed that when you get married you become one, theres two of you so you should do an even amount of work and not just put it on the man.
@Travis Williams ~ A Man Taking Care Of A Woman Is A Man's Responsibility
Yes. I would build him up and help him and still let him be the man. There isnt a thing wrong with helping someone who needs it
Prima a significant others responsibility is taking care of the other… sometimes that's financial. Nice to see the true colors of so many ladies. Thanks for keeping it real
Or by paying the bills. life is hard we need support systems but the world doesnt see it that way
SO i'm broke am i a bad guy
I Would Test His Spirit, Know What His Business Passion Was, Loan Him The Money, When His Dreams Have Been Fulfilled I Would Expect The Loan To Be Paid Without Interest… I Would Be Happy To Pay For All Travel That We Do Together.
should love be about the man money
its 2011
get with it
women work just as hard as man do
i dont care
HELL 2 THE DAMN NOOOO!!..that aint a woman's place..if u wanna call urself the man of the house,,act like it!!!..
@prima donna. Its not a mans responsibility to take care of a woman. Theybare there for the woman to lean on for support and help but its really the woman responsibility to take care of herself. Its fifty fifty in relationships
@prima lol….
If we were already together then yes I would take care of him, like if he lost his job or something. But even if I had lots of $$ I would never get into a relationship with a broke guy just so I could take care of him. I cant help it, but it's BIG turn off to me.
"Helllllll…to tha naw!!!!!!
@Shontae Williams ~ In My Parents House, That's All I Saw Was My Dad Taking Care Of The Household…
Thats what I mean Prima! If the situation calls than do a role reversal. It aint trickin if you got it
@Tony Savoy ~ Not With My Money ~ LOAN's Only
Heeeellll naw! I'd rather luk afta a distant cousin or donate extra $$ to an orphanage b4 a luk afta a man. 99% of tha ungrateful ingrits wil sht on u afta u upgrade 'em! (personal census)
Please make sure they have my address……
Today`s Econ? The Role has already Change`d!
@ Shawn Roffey being broke doesn't make someone a bad guy it just means that you're not stable at the present time. No one should ever begin a relationship when both partners aren't stable and able to bring something to the table. I am a strong and independent woman that has always been able to take care of myself. I've never asked a man to bring the same because particularly in this day and age, the economy has forced many people to start over. As long as the effort and willingness is there, that is the important thing.
@ Shawn Roffey- earlier comment- good women aren't hard to find they're out there working and taking care of themselves. Waiting for a good man to come along that knows what it means to be able to support themselves. A healthy and balanced relationship is the important thing. Financially, emotionally, and sexually
How about we just provide for ourselves and share our love?
No, I would not take care of a man even if I could afford it. I don't believe in that. The only way would be if he were my husband and he got sick, or for some uncontrollable circumstance, he couldn't work – then i'd hold him down until he was able to. Other than that – NO!!
@ Prima Donna you got it all wrong, a woman should take care of herself and what a man do is just extra, when your in a relationship you should take care of each other, cause if I had a man I would do for him all the time, women always have their hands out to get try giving sometimes men need to feel special too………
Even if a man pay all the bills a woman should still have her own..
Heavens no! That’s out of order, a man’s role is to protect and provide!
If men that have women that are have a much higher income and therefore is considered the bread winner of the family and he is (from your point of view ) a "momma's boy who never grew up," what do you call women that will settle for having a man take care of her financially? I thought there was this feminist.
movement some decades ago where women fought to be paid equally as men and have equal rights and not been seen as second class. To me that means it is very possible that a woman that I meet, date, and marry has a larger income than me. How am I then considered to a momma's boy? Why do I have to date down in order to prove I am a man?
Relationships are about taking care of each other…when he ain't got it I got it…when ia
Relationships are about taking care of each other…when he ain't got it I got it…when i ain't got it he got it…folk have obviously lost sight of this concept…if he can't catch me when I fall and I do the same for him it ain't gonna work…if we can't provide for each other it's a waste of time…
I agree Johnson Hilda.
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If men that have women that are have a much higher income and therefore is considered the bread winner of the family and he is (from your point of view ) a “momma’s boy who never grew up,” what do you call women that will settle for having a man take care of her financially? I thought there was this feminist.
movement some decades ago where women fought to be paid equally as men and have equal rights and not been seen as second class. To me that means it is very possible that a woman that I meet, date, and marry has a larger income than me. How am I then considered to a momma’s boy? Why do I have to date down in order to prove I am a man?
Relationships are about taking care of each other…when he ain’t got it I got it…when i ain’t got it he got it…folk have obviously lost sight of this concept…if he can’t catch me when I fall and I do the same for him it ain’t gonna work…if we can’t provide for each other it’s a waste of time…
I agree @[100001354265729:2048:Johnson Hilda].
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