After reading a article it was a relief to know I was not the only black man who felt this way.
I am 28, bachelors degree, works in banking, Real estate investor, muslim, and goal oriented. I said that first not to brag but to prove that I have something to offer and I am not one of those people who want, want, want and want. Dont get me wrong by no way am I rich and I tell my dating partners look right now I am not where I want to be financially but I am striving to get there. I feel that we all want security male and female.
As far as the women I’ve been meeting it seems like they all have sad storys you know oh my baby daddy changed after we had the baby (by the way he is a drug dealer), my baby daddy wont get a job (he did not have a job when you 2 were screwing) , and all my baby daddys lock that (wow so you keep meeting with losers and mating).
Women these days consider the educated black man corny and the man on the streets dodging bullets the man of their dreams. I personally refuse to settle because when you settle for less you get less than what you settled for.
All I want is a woman with a God Fearing, Big Booty, Career oriented ,Goals, Educated preferbly no kids (i want to experience parent hood with a 1st time parent) Definately not multiple kids by multiple men. I mean have some self respect and self value.
A friend of mine told me to get a Girl you need to wear what they wear you know Gucci, Louis Vuitton, marc jacobs shades. I advised him I did not want a designer whore are someone who is materialistic because I feel like swag, clothes and cars dont raise children people raise children. He said nah man the girl wearing that probably has money and she will mess with you because your swag matches her swag. #fail
I told him if I could afford those things I would not do it I rather have a educated woman who shops at walmart. And unlike women who take advise from people they have no business taking advice from I evualated the person telling me this he has a baby momma who is uneducated. I politely declined his opinion due to the fact I want a family and success is the only option.
Enough of the Sad stuff I live in Charlotte, NC. I think the solution is for someone to put a educated speed dating event together, or a educated social event I thought it was me due to I was not getting out but I am running across alot of male/females with the same issue. The club for us in not a issue due to you usually meet a insane person that their is no future just sex. dont get me wrong I will take the sex but talking to that person will be torture due to they have nothing intelligent to say.
Do you fellas feel the same? Why cant Good People meet Good people? I’ve even tried craigslist dating but that is a Fat girl playgorund. I am to cheap to pay for a good dating site, is that my issue?
NASAR, You are not even in the proper places to begin to meet the woman that you are seeking. You are meeting hood rats because you are dating in the hood. Sounds like you are from the hood but you have educated yourself without also properly changing your environment.. I would of named this post “Diary of a Educated Black Man Without a Plan” If you fail to plan, you plan to fail…
But this is not a Dear Kissy, so I will leave my two cents at that and let the fellas comment.