08 Jul 2011
Posted by Miss Kissy 
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Why do men complain so much about women being gold diggers and not good women? The women outnumber men 2 to 1. Men have choices! It’s your fault you continuously choose the wrong women. Take some responsibility and stop being so bitter. Learn to decipher a womans actions instead of her words. There are lots of good women out here.
First things first. Do you even know what’s a good woman for you? Your friend may have a great wife, but she might not be a great wife for you. Women have a habit of going with their heart. Men go with whatever sweet things a woman whispers in his ear. When a woman truly loves a man she shows it in her actions.
You can see her eyes light up when you enter the house. She may curse you out when you hurt her but she may turn around and cook you a nice dinner the same day. You say all women are gold diggers. I say that no matter what traits a woman says she wants in a man she will still, more than likely fall for love. Women don’t really expect you to be perfect or have everything together. Actually most women don’t mind helping you reach greatness.
Unfortunately most have helped the wrong men. So she might come off a bit like a gold digger wanting you to have it all together. This only means that you will have to invest more time in getting her to trust you and allow her feelings to grow stronger for you.
Why do you think so many women have no good men? It’s not always low self esteem. Often times it’s just plain old love. If you are a lawyer and you want a stay at home wife, you can’t date the lady who wants to be a teacher. That’s not going to make you happy. If you are a drug dealer you can’t date the lady that wants to be a DEA officer. More than likely she is going to want you to stop selling drugs.
If you are a abusive, no good man who cheats all the time, you are probably going to end up having problems out of that beautiful, educated lady with high self esteem. It’s only going to be so long before she gets sick and tired of you and stops being a good woman to you. It’s best that you get a woman with low self esteem, if you know you have no intentions of being a good mate.
If you want to be rich and your girlfriend is ok with being average, then she may not be supportive of all your hard work and hours spent away from her working on your career. If you want kids and your woman doesn’t then more than likely this will cause problems in the long run. Some of you men choose women by how phat her booty is, how pretty she is, or how good her credit is. None of those traits make a woman good for you.
Some men even choose women on the count of her NOT being highly attractive. You assume that she will be a better woman to you because she isn’t highly sought after. Some men.. You just have it all wrong. Yes, you have to be attracted to a person, but it’s really what’s on their insides that’s going to help enhance your life. Common interests, common goals. Balance is what it’s all about.
Your biggest problem should not be finding a good woman, but finding a woman that you connect with. A woman that you adore that also adores you back. Women have to be chased and after a while if she is truly into you she will show some signs of liking the chase. If you’ve been chasing a woman for 8 months and she is still not giving you the time of day and making you as an important person in her life, then you have to move on.
Some men, you judge what’s a good woman on how long she takes to have sex with you. Just because she held out for 4 months with you while she was sexing someone else doesn’t make her a good woman. A good woman is a woman that is going to make life easier for you. She is going to give you joy and inspiration. She is not going to talk down to you in a negative manner for no reason. She will treat you as what you could become instead of what you currently are. That is the trait of a good woman.
Ask women how many of them have done that for a man that was pretty much a loser or didn’t appreciate her. I’m sure more than a few will take claim to this. Relationships are all about compatibility and balance. You don’t both have to be on the same level. Just on the same page…. Common goals/goals in common/commonality…
What woman really wants to be the woman sitting at home crying while her rich husband is out cheating with whatever groupie he met? What woman wants to be abused and unable to leave because she has no money. All of that will only take a toll on a woman’s self esteem.
All most women want is a good man. A man that will be good to them. A man they will be able to trust. Someone who will put them first and not just say love but walk in love and be a good loving man. Yeah she might want you to buy her nice things sometimes, but that doesn’t make her a gold digger. You call women gold diggers but ask the playboy why he has so many good women chasing him. He’s probably sexing her right. He’s probably saying all the right things to her. He’s probably always dressed well when he see’s her. He probably comes off as very exciting.
Men need to learn to pick up some of the good traits of bad men. If you are a good man and you are displaying the right characteristics you will always win. Good men don’t finish last. Good, boring men finish last.. Even when you find a good woman she must love and adore you. Rather it’s a man or a woman it is quite difficult to continuously be a good and supportive mate to a person that you are not in love with. Love is the common connection that makes life beautiful. It is what makes a person look out for your best interest. It is the thing that makes your mate want to see you smiling and happy.
How is a woman’s big booty going to make her a good mate for you? How is that going to help you reach your goals? How does her having a good credit score mean she will be a good mate for you? Like is her credit going to make you orgasm every night? Pretty faces don’t matter. Nothing really matters other then what that person is going to do in order to assist you in your happiness.
Ask yourself if you are looking for a loving wife or just looking for a good friend. You can have both but in order to do so you have to understand what’s really important to you. Some people may come to realize that they are really not looking for love. Just a companion…..
If a good mate is what desire, you may have to give up some of those superficial traits that you like. You may realize those desired traits don’t really assist in your overall, longterm happiness.
THERE IS A ABUNDANCE OF GOOD WOMEN. Good People in general are bountiful. What’s not abundantly found is a good person that is also a good life mate for YOU. If you understand this there is no reason to choose horrible mates anymore. Slow down and pay more attention.
If you once again choose a bad woman blame yourself. I personally think men who are complaining need to try a little harder in attaining the woman they desire and let those fears go. Stop being just as materialistic and using material to choose a mate. Choose substance first. More importantly stop thinking that you can’t get her. If she is a good woman it’s going to take work. Don’t be afraid of hard work. Hard work gets rewarded.
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84 Comments
Speak about it!!! Seems some men what a big booty and a small brain. I can’t do anything for him.
Like Bell Biv Devoe said neva trust a big butt and a smile she’s poison… lol
funnyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
Men don’t choose there women we catch em. Its up to the woman after that if they want to deal with us and how far the relationship or what ever you want to call it goes.
What the use of beauty without brain
Women do the same thing Kiss…
I'll admit it. I blame myself for thinking a bad woman can be good woman but I also blame myself for this because I wasn't being a good man either. All it takes is a change of habits, be yourself and continue to find the right one. Thanks, Kissy. I really enjoy reading your blogs.
@ Ahmed you tell me? Im still trying to understand that one. SMH
U CAN’T BLAME IT ON THE MAN WHO LOVE’S A BIG BOOTY!..IT’S IN THE JEAN’S(*;
SO are men to trust a little booty and a frown? That line was always garbage to me.
Can’t lie, mother Africa where it all began. Lol
Real Talk!!
Damn Kissy, why that picture? Alas you are so right every time I go for the body it ends up bad. This time around I’m going for brains let’s see how this works.
i hate to see her leave…but i love to see her walk away.
Kissy it’s easy to paint men as morally corrupt when it really takes two to tangle. Shallow people pick shallow mates. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a woman with a round ass as long as she comes complete with wit, morals, intelligence and lack of sexual inhibition. Most people don’t bother to look beyond the surface of a mate and end up satisfying their superficial needs but not the needs that sustain a relationship. So I will see your round booty picture….
…and raise you a Ferrari Enzo.
http://www.autoinfection.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/07/Ferrari-Enzo-3.jpg
Shallow people get what they deserve.
Kissy! I’m impressed!! I was having a similar convo earlier today. I still plan on emailing you just was caught up.
The same reason why women complain about the trifling women that they pick. we all just want to blame someone for our own mistakes. Men and women are so alike in this way.
LMBO Wow, kissy. this picture really funny and weird. I really need this and thank you so much for putting this up. You’re amazing, girl ^0^
Good point it’s my fault which is why am single and taking my time know more broke woman but it’s my fault thou I have been in relationships for the wrong reasons I admit that. But X is still a smut both of them hehehe I don’t care which way you put it lol.
..and you would be lying if you say that your round butt pic isn’t to men what my Italian sports car pic is to ladies. It’s superficial PERSON bait… and they work equally well.
I agree never trust a big butt and a smile
Miss Kissy i wanted to know the same thing for a long time
When they concentrate on the booty, they dismiss everything else JUST to get some of that booty. THEN they find out that this woman does not cook, this woman does not clean house, this woman does not work, this woman has no brains and then what do they do….they look for the next booty and do the same thing. Women want BIG too ,<)
Yeah there is no need to complain if you Pick the wrong person that is just a reflection of your ENERGY Man OR Woman ~KNOW THYSELF in the World~
I’m going to start trusting big ole breast and a smile.
My ex wife don’t have a big butt and she still no good so what’s the excuse now it don’t matter big or small you still can find a knucklehead
I agree with finding a person based on common goals.
the right one or the left lol smooches
The exact same reason why women complain that there are no good men. Anger that they now face the consequence of their own decisions.
I don’t complain. Lessoned learned, but if the new woman exhibits any traits that remind me specifically about her we’re done. Dueces
The same can definitely be said about women. If I had a dime for everytime I heard a woman say they had a no good man. I’d could buy microsoft, apple, Oprah Winfrey’s Network and still have enough to solve world hunger.
wat a big ass damn
I want to contribute as usual…but #Hammercy at that pic….Dapz Kissy…whew!!!
Because permiscious women are what they are attracted to&relationshipwise they realize thats not what they really want.
Who knows and ready to fight if you say something about da ho.
Good thing’s come’s to those who wait!..bad choice’s happen when u rush into something >>or someone your not familar with!!..u can’t rush what u never had so finding some right for u dose take time!
Same reason y women do the same.
same reason woman complain about bad guys they pick~~
Nice article, nice points. For the most part I would agree. Except for the part about the Playboys, that’s just as superficial as the females you’re talking about. There’s billions of women on the earth and if you want to really find that one person, you have to be patient. Unless you’re just trying to smash of course, and then you can’t complain about what you get. You knew the deal goin’ in so don’t get it confused when the consequences of actions come around. They always do.. Patience is a virtue and that’s something that people lack today.
Bad women sometimes r made by continuos BS they recieve from that man bcuz he is taken her for granted….
the same reason that women complain about the bad men that they pick…lmao….these are too easy
Had to repost. Great read!
It’s human nature to never be satisfied. Somebody is right for somebody they just haven’t found each other….. Did that come out right? lol
I realized it today I will love you forever
Even if you love me never
I love you I really know,
Because it’s so hard to let go.
same damn reason BLACK WOMEN COMPLAIN ABOUT BAD MEN THEY CHOSE!!! And funny how so many women chose the same type over and over then say most black men are bad!!!
Dudes answer the question, this is about us not the ladies and their bad choices. I’m sick of these suckas out here crying.
If the woman was bad when she was picked, as you say Ask-Kissy.com, then that man prolly had to be bad himself. Well I am just saying, because as for me and my woman, weeeeeezz boaf Badd!! Reeeeeaall Baddd. Ask the late Michael from the Jackson 5, Michael sang a song that fits. Eeeeeeeeee hee
Badd meaning BADD…..not Badd meaning Good!!! So "make that change" like Michael Jackson sangs in his song my Big Brotha!!!! #sinceyoulikemichaeljackson
Tru story! Cuz we don’t b actin like that wen we 1st meet em! Lolz it all about casonova, n tryin to impress…hehe
Now u start again with the relationship ‘sweetner’ ASS Kissy. That girl is supa loaded, I’d close my eyes and deal with the short-comings later as long as the brains aren’t locked in there as well!
Both men and women complain about finding a “Good” man or woman. Bottom line is, it’s all about being aware of the RED FLAGS, making wiser choices in the men/women you choose and excepting people for what they REALLY are. There is no changing a hoe into a housewife or a thug into a gentleman, no matter how good the sex is or how supportive and loving you are. Lastly, if you want a good man/woman, SOME might need to take a second look at themselves and their actions and work on a few personal flaws!
omg is that butt real
I THINK MEN COMPLAIN BECAUSE AT THE START OF A NEW RELATIONSHIP THE WOMAN IS DOING ALL OF THE THINGS HE LIKES HER TO DO..WEARING THE SEXY CLOTHES, COOKING, PUTTING HIM ON A PEDESTAL, HANGIN ON TO HIS EVERY WORD..BUT AS TIME ROLLS ON AND THEY GET MORE COMFORTABLE WITH ONE ANOTHER THOSE THINGS GET FAR AND IN BETWEEN…SHE STARTS HANGIN OUT WITH THE GIRLS MORE WHERE SHE NOW CHOOSES TO WEAR THOSE SEXY CLOTHES, STEAK AND LOBSTER TURN INTO FROZEN BURRITOS…
OMG KISSY! I was just talking to someone about something similar on my page….and I had not read this post at the time WOW…I just think it is funny how u said some of the same things I was saying…like it is about your choice….The men need to choose women who are right for them and what they are looking for…I agree with stop choosing these women and then calling them bad…that is not it…it was your bad choise…
Because PEOPLE (not just men) are stupid. Stupid people usually end up together.
People make poor choices in mate because they are either too ignorant or too stubborn to listen to advice. Why else certain family like that fall apart. It’s because they weren’t made for each other.
Be careful how you choose your mate because you may regret it later. Make wise choices when it comes to finding the right one. Better yet, allow God to send you someone real. Don’t depend on man.
Im so tired of hearing my homeboys complain but then they right up under these hoes
I think the answer is in your other post “Men are the new Bitches” If there is something to complain about they will. People pick the wrong mate cuz they lie tothemselves about who their mate is. They fall in love with the “represenatative” then when the real person emerges they refuse to believe what is right infront of them. They r either too feareful or too lazy to leave the wrong person and invest the time and energy it takes to find the right person. Then they complain.
Just because one may not FEEL that their marriage was made in Heaven does not mean that one picked the wrong one. Love isn’t the only thing to consider, but it is the only thing that will bring out everything else. I mean, marriage is a principle committment and alot of men do not live up to principle much less want a committment. If you ask me, for a man that FEELS like these men in this article, ANY woman would have been the wrong woman.
I would never marry anyone I haven’t lived with at least a year. You never really know someone until you lived with them.
I have asks, kissy. Does it have to about men and their taste in women? I mean not all men are alike cuz some of. Women make bad choices as well. In fact, we as a human being in general makes mistakes but the beauty of it is how valuable we can learn from this and avoid going out with the wrong person. Learn from mistakes we make and we become much wiser for our future mate.
Men are visual and your picture proves it!!!!
As i said*its hard to fnd gd pertner
Bt i wll stay with my gf 10 years we wll marry wen we understand better she wll knw wat i dont lke and wll knw wat she dislikes
I marry now, understand later! #Kissy tell that about me# Lol
Yes, its always signs b4 u marry a fool….
I knew u were lying. . .and i said it right then. . .lol!
What did you lie about?
cuz SOME cannot accept responsibility for their erroneous decisions. Its always somebody else fault, never theirs.
Great article
Cuz they do
honestly ladies please , even the best of girls woman have a lil bad in them, its what makes us human..
Back in the 70′s I was station in Wash DC and it was 11 to 1. Boy, couldn’t help myself.
LOVE the article Kissy! <3
Lot of truth spoken…
Same reason women do the same about bad men….. and the worse thing is most of them never learn and make the same mistake over and over….. I think they just like to complain. I think they make meds for that ….and I am talking bout guys and gals…
sexy u ok ?
lol @ that picture.. is that even real!??.. bu good post and question Kissy… those who complain are just the ones who keep dragging their past relationship baggage and get involved in a new one when they aren’t ready yet… or just get involved with the same type.. this goes out to men and women both… thats why you see or hear the “there are no good black men/woman” bunch of bullshit that is taking over alot of people’s minds… there are alot of good men and women, you just have to slow down and take it easy and fix yourself up if you know you do have some negative traits that might have caused these r/ship issues…
more trash is not any better then a little trash lol……the only difference is we see more disappointments
Don’t start again!
Cuz It’s Easy Pickings…
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I disagree with the premise that men have more choices than women. While women may outnumber men, they are far more picky about who they will pair off with. Women all want the same 5 guys. It is those 5 dudes who women constantly complain about being dogs, players and whatnot. Women, and especially young to early middle age Black women, would rather either be alone or one of some player’s 8 babymommas than deal with an decent average dude.