02 Jul 2011
Posted by Miss Kissy 
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The Question:
Ladies does money have a significant impact in a relationship with you?
For instance – ”If a guy makes 18,000 a year – Does he stand a chance with you or is it on to the next one?
Keep it real, stop being politically correct cause men need to hear the truth.
I know some of you will say yes and not get pregnant then call him a broke son of a bish knowing he only made 18 k to begin with.”
Does having “swag” help him at all in this situation?
Submitted Anonymously
Women have actually became so independent that they will take care of a man these days… My grandmother always told me there is no romance without finance… But I will let the ladies on my facebook page answer this.
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65 Comments
No
no way im not materialistic at all.
i hope travel outside but i need 2 thousand j.D can u lend me money then i will give u them like thanks u
“GIRLFRIEND, HE JUST NEED THE RIGHT PERSON HANDLING THAT MONEY!” “i TAKE THAT 18,000.00, AND WORK IT LIKE 18,000,000.00.
I am going to sit back and watch all the responses to this forreal… This should be a good one, lol
XD
Hell no we need men whoz got money in the bank…lol
Hmmm…
I would hope that it was just a starting point. To be almost thirty making that much is really low. But that wouldn’t automatically disqualify him from being dateable. Now if he was completely okay with making that much for the rest of his life, the relationship ends there
What’s wrong with 18,000? That’s HIS net worth not mine…..it doesn’t bother me at all at least he’s working. I’m a frugalista so I can work with that
YOU BETTER KNOW IT SISTER MIMS!”
That’s 1500 a month 1100 after taxes… for the mathematically inclined lol
Money is so important, u’ve no idea!
Since finance plays a major role he would need to have more money than that. I wouldn’t say he’s not dateable, but dating is as far as it goes with those kind.
Its cool but he better hav plans to make more cause some men dont hav million dollar plans….
18,000 A Month sounds good.
donate,
and for study.
but sorry i’m not ladies i’m man.
HELL atleast he working. Its hard to find a man with a job. #lovingmyman
How many of u ladies that $ in so important are single with 2-3 kids. And if u got a man r u truly happy with him or his $$. I am not attacking yall just asking. Money is important BUT dont put so much emphasis on it. That dude with the money cud be ur worst choice for ur heart. I am just saying again not attacking. =-)
I can’t wait to see this.
What are the other factors? How old is he, is he in school? Are you (woman) employed? If so how much do you much? just saying if he is 18 and in college or grad school still earning this and your 30 and earn $14,000…he needs to avoid you!
For all the ladies that don’t mind a man making $18,000.00 I make $18,001.99 lol
@Korey you better say that.
since it’s a ladies Qstn i’l jus watch frm the stands!
No
His money is HIS money! I’m a little more concerned about other things like: does he have kids? Has he been to prison? Does he have any stds and sti’s? How does he treat his momma? Are we equally yoked?
I am divorced mother of 2. I work hard and I don't ask anyone for anything. I don't think being a single mother should ever be brought into play especially when people don't know the circumstances. Being a single mom is not a taboo nor is it shameful. Moving on.
I have tried dating a man who made less than me. The only problem I had with it was he was unambitious. He was okay with only making $22k per year. That did take a tole on our relationship as money became a problem. I don't mind helping anyone who is helping themselves but I will not take away my from own children to take care of a grown man who can easily work 2 jobs to pay his own bills!
I have been riding on this “I’m independent got my own can take care of my own” train for to long. Men today are too laid back and they don’t want to romance women as they did before. I realize we are hurting men’s egos and they take on a whatever attitude. So now I know I have my own and can take care of my own but I want a man that can romance and spoil me so back to the principal ” I can do bad by myself”. My next man will need to be on my level or higher. He can make less than me but he will still need to romance me and impress me here and there to get to the next level or it will be…on to the next one!
…no MONEY no LOVE… dat’s de bottom line 4 all women… http://youtu.be/lPesKyIhGZg …
LOL
U talk about guys changing and treating their women right but guess that only counts when he can get her fur coats sport cars and jewels . Go figure like every woman out there
Well I guess marrying a poor military man might be dumb to some, but we built our life together, and now own two cars, a home, and have two amazing kids. Most normal marriages start out this way. We built a life, and our finances, together…and I have never had a single regret.
Alright Kissy; here's something I witnessed at Louie Vuitton in Scottsdale, AZ while working Security in my black suit on a Sunday morning; shortly after opening the store at 11am, this decent/cute looking woman (Philippina) comes into the store wanting to get the money for a purse that her man/boyfriend bought her just two days prior; this woman was bragging bout how she had just broke up with him and that she was gonna get all she could from this man… I thought she only had the bag for two day and now she wants nothing to do with him other than get his money at whatever expense regardless of how she is; the clicker is; the fool paid cash so she got her $2500.00 without breaking a sweat and to top it off; she came into the store with another fool, which she was trash talking to him… I was like this biscuit made out and was all planned out… She definitely gives women a bad rap regarding her intentional attitude of using & abusing her alleged man…
Kissy….great insight on page 2..that really got me thinking..thankyou..x
my grand mother told me from a very young age that it is just as easy to fall in love with someone who has $$$ as it is to fall in love with someone who doesn’t.
It’s good thing I make more lmao!!!
It’s important to have your own! I dated almost married a broke man and I am not
Alright Kissy; here’s something I witnessed at Louie Vuitton in Scottsdale, AZ while working Security in my black suit on a Sunday morning; shortly after opening the store at 11am, this decent/cute looking woman (Philippina) comes into the store with a purse that her ex purchased for her and she had returned a purse that her man/boyfriend bought her just two days prior… This woman was bragging bout how she had just broke up with him and wanted nothing to do with him and that she was gonna get all she could from this man i.e., MONEY at whatever expense regardless… The clicker is; the fool paid cash, so she got her $2500.00 without hitch, and to top it off; she came into the store with another fool, which she was trash talking to him… I was like this biscuit made out and was all planned out… She definitely gives women a bad rap regarding her intentional attitude of using & abusing her alleged man… FYI: I know there is always two sides the the story of truth, but you had to witness her actions & demeanor; she was in my books a player and took this fool for $2500.00, lord only knows what she could have gotten from him had she stayed a lil bit longer???
I luv being broke…. Good c how some women think..
Materialistic but it’s hard when I want to do certain things and always have to pay for vacations, etc! Poor people should date each others because they can struggle together!!!!! I am not rich but I am well off and I want a man that can carry his own!!!!!
I agree with you Kissy but only for women that make over $18,000 themselves. I find it hard for a woman that makes $18,000 or less and is comfortable with no ambition to complain about a man making that little. $18,000 is unacceptable for me because I make far more than that, hell I made that when I was 18 and in college. A grown man should make more than that unless he is in school. I got an education and work hard everyday why should I date someone who cannot even afford to take me to nice places I like to go to or to live where I want to live.I don’t want to worry about going out and not being able to order anything over $30 for dinner and I refuse to pay for everything all the time.
That is true @ camille.
Kissy….you kept it real!
your opinionated
THANK U KISSY!!!!…im glad a woman finally kept it real…intelligence…understanding…compassion…spirituality…all of those characteristics are just ‘icing on the cake’…money first…a RICH man?…is like a beautiful woman…AND a woman is gonna take more from a wealthy man…just like pretty women get ‘perks’…just for being attractive…look @ some of the entertainers in the world…if they didnt have bread????…they couldnt ‘pay’ to get a woman….BOL!…ijs…#kcee&jojo
Its call strippers…..lol
I couldnt date a broke chic either…..if im getting to the money than she should also….date at your status level…,i dont believe in spoiling someone unless it is returned…..a lot of people are out here looking for someone to take care of them….not a good look…..advice for women if you are looking for a man to take care of you…then you are looking for a man who will treat you like a pair of tits and a vagina. fellas if you are looking for a woman to take care of you, then be prepared to be treated like a little boy…..
Yes. Finances are important in a relationship. But it seems like people don’t come together and build anymore. People have their own and stay selfish. Even though they claim that they’re happy. It’s like some women want the finished product and don’t want a man when he’s working on himself. But quick to leave when he falls on hard times.
Lmao not this again kissssssssyyyy…we all know you dont like broke niccas!!…all I got is love for you kissy baby….NO DOUGH
@Nick you can’t build anything together if he does not have anything to bring to the table. I am all about judging a man by his character but I need someone to hold it down together.
and what is rich to black girls in the hood a nicca with a 15 grand chain , a lease lexus , and 20 grand closet of shoes and clothes but no property , no investments nada….i can see why this dumb bi@#ches end up 40 broke and 4 kids ……enough already you want to be a gold digger fine but your not getting gold your getting gold chips and for the black girls dating white ceos add it up he spends about 5 grand on your azz and dumps you after a couple of months of dating then sexing you..you want to be true rich get your own standing up right cause unlike the white pinups they will get married to a billionaire you will get chump change wake up i love black women but these tired whores are making our queens look bad
Great topic. Money makes the wrld go round. It benefits n many areas. Sorry not a gold digger. How else and wht we cant do for the love of money. Love comes second and money comes first. We have intelligent man and women. It wouldnt add up if u dnt say,” babe lets talk a trip with the family, dinner,amusement parks,etc.. U cant jus allow sittn there tht u n i r broke. Subtract.
These are the same females that be crying over THERES NO GOOD MAN out there….of course theres no good man…you put a price on a nicca love! even a rich nicca is turned off by women of that caliber
an old wise man once told me…’If u chase the paper…the pu**y will chase u.’…ijs…#getmoney
I respect a brother that will tell you his worth upfront. Then its my decision but if the money aint right. Everything else better be TIGHT! We might can make it work….18000.00 Hmmmmm?
A person’s character is much more important. It’s like judging a woman’s worth based on her physical attributes. Yes, take care of yourself, bring something to the table, but love/not love a person based on his/her income? No way. Base it on how well they treat themselves, their family, others…etc.
This is not to excuse idleness and a poor-work ethic – that’s an entirely different ball game.
Love is built strongly on offers,surprises,outings etc.Which call 4 spending.This means poor men wil not stand out as good lovers.
They can’t treat their family well without enough financial wherewith all!!! Please with this love stuff!!! Love can’t keep you from being EVICTED, it can’t FEED YOU, it can’t pay TUITION, it can’t pay your CAR NOTE, it can’t take you out to DINNER..So forth and so on!! KEEP IT REAL!!! yes we should LOVE someone for more than MONEY but that must be FACTOR!!! unless you desire to always WANT and NEVER HAVE!!! ok my last comment on this subject! I get sick of reading these bogus responses about all it takes is LOVE!!!
Money is very important ok
Her figures would have to match the Mack. And don’t be tryna count my money lol
I better sit this one out.. ;~]
lmao. You are funny Janice… Yeah, I think u got your say in already. LOL
I have to ask, should a man care if the woman doesn’t make any money. She could be the finest woman inside and out but should men kick her to the curb because she makes low money?
@Shawn….if he wants a woman to make a certain amount and she doesn’t then he should keep it moving! why settle??
Interesting…so it really is purely all about the money…yes.