People will only feel sorry for a victim for so long. Never be a person who people look at with pity. Take responsibility for making bad decisions in your past. Then forgive yourself and get over it. Only predators like weak people. Winners like winners and steel sharpens steel. There is nothing cool about being a victim of your own circumstances. Your life is not hurricane Katrina. Take control of it.
To cry about your past and want people to talk pity on you means that you have not accepted fault and took responsibility for your choices. If you do not accept responsibility and understand why things happen to you, that means you are unable to change. If you are unable to change your choices and decisions that means you will again be victimized.
There are a lot of people who really bad things have happened to. INcluding myself. But we choose to let those things make us stronger.
I could tell people a whole bunch of things to make them feel sorry for me, but I don’t. I don’t want people looking at me as a victim. We all make mistakes. Mistakes drown weak people and strong people come out stronger in the end.
If you want to be looked at as a victim and pity don’t expect people to take pity on you. Pity if for uncontrollable circumstances… Ray Charles and Stevie Wonder were blind… Look what they did.. They did not wallow in pity.
Everyone has problems. You are not the only person with a problem.
Life is nothing more than solving one problem and moving on to the next problem.. When you get a few good moments of bliss learn to appreciate it.
Written by Kissy Denise | Queen of Answers | Goddess Of Life






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I had to stop that foolishness myself…smh.
People that play the victim role drives me nuts…… Dont understand how anyone would want someone to have pity for them.
Well said. .
Love this had to copy and paste to my status.
I realized it today I will love you forever
Even if you love me never
I love you I really know,
Because it’s so hard to let go.
I had to “share” this on my page! LOVE IT!
my problem makes me who i am…
Question: if they DO have a problem with life then why they take it out on you? It’s their responsibility to maintain what ever problem they have on their own. It’s ok to ask for help once in a while but if they’re going to blame someone, just look in the mirror and you’ll find the answer to your problem. One must recognize ones fault within oneself.
As someone who is probably the oldest person here…I have to say, that you are soooo right about that!!
LOVE THIS! I DON’T DO PITY PARTIES. IT’S ESPECIALLY UNATTRACTIVE WHEN GROWN MEN PLAY THE VICTIM!
@john paul.
as if looking in the mirror is that simple a thing for one to do
LOOKING IN THE MIRROR AND ACKNOWLEDGING THE PROBLEMS IS THE HARDEST THING TO DO BUT WITHOUT IT THERE WILL BE NO CHANGE OR SOLUTION TO THE PROBLEMS.
love u kissy..u say it right!
Trademark: Your life is not hurricane Katrina!