Dear Kissy:

The purpose for this e-mail is because I am in need of your advice. On Saturday I went to my cousin’s party and it was a blast. What made it more special is that a guy from the party caught my attention from the beginning. I am more of a shy person so I did not do anything for him to notice me (I think). I did not walk up to him in introduce myself or nothing… LOL the only thing I did was walked past him several times and made eye contact (I know this is pretty sad). But I have to admit, i did notice him looking at me from times to times but i figure that is normal. Well I found out his name because someone yelled it out at the party. Fast forward, as I was leaving to go home, I was surprised he gave me a hug and kissed me on my cheek. I know to other people it may not sound like a big thing but to me, it was huge because he could have said a simple “goodbye or be safe on the road” or nothing at all for that matter. The next day, I text my cousin to ask her information about this guy. And she told me that he was single, 23, no kids and he is a really great guy. She known him for about 8 years and she kept repeating several times “he is a good guy…TRUST ME”. I just wanted to know if he was single or talking to anyone else because I make my way LOL

To make a long story short, I told her to give him my number because I wanted to get to know more of him. I told her to give it to him and if he was interested he can hit me up. Well I have not received anything from him yet…and I am trying to stay positive. So I was wondering…could it be possible that he is shy and he does not want to make the first move? When my cousin was texting him she said that she can tell he have some interests in me. I am usually not the type of person who likes pursuing a guy but I was thinking since I am the one that gave my number, shouldn’t I be the one to text him first? If so, what should I text him so it does not sound like I been waiting for him?

Or could it be that he is not really interested in me? I was thinking to myself, if he had some interests in me like my cousin claim, then why he is not making the first move to try and contact me? It’s not like I want to be his girlfriend right away, I just want to get to know him and see where things can go from there. PLEASE HELP!! Thank you

Sincerly,

Waiting on His Call

Dear Waiting on His Call:

This is a common question I get from young ladies. Always remember that when a man wants to be with a woman nothing can keep him from being with her. There is no such thing as he is too intimidated. When a man sees a woman he wants he goes after her. There could be a dozen reasons why you have not heard from this man. He hasn’t called because he saved your number in his phone as AGirl45 and the girl after you Girl46 . If the guy took your number and never called, he is either busy (in which case he will call you when he is not busy), he never intended to call you (in which case he never will), or he keeps you ‘just in case’, meaning that if and when nothing better comes along or he is bored he flips through his phonebook and you may be one of the lucky ones whose name starts with a letter in the beginning of the alphabet.

The only reason that should matter to you is that he has not called you. Therefore he is not truly interested in you. Yes, he may have been attracted to you, that does not mean much. So no you don’t need to text him for that reason. i don’t want you blaming me in 20 years cause i told you not to call your dream guy. So, if you must decide that he is your dream guy or maybe he misplaced your number simply call him. Do not text him. If he does not answer leave a message saying it was nice meeting him and that you don’t remember if you gave him your number or not and leave your number on the voicemail incase he wants to give you a call back.

Whenever you meet a man and you don’t hear from him, don’t worry about why. All you should care about or focus on are the men who do like you. When you go out on a date with a nice guy and everything goes well and you don’t hear from him after that. Just understand you were not what he was looking for. Take joy in the fact that he didn’t make an attempt to waste your time.