“@KissyDenise- Here is the reason black men date outside their race… Black men want to marry a woman who has absolutely no problem being submissive & knowing/playing their role(s). Finding a black woman who will do this (without being a headache) is extremely difficult. There can only be 1 King! Black women have a problem allowing men to take the throne/run his Kingdom. Others use their brains & run the Kingdom (through him). He’s ok with that “ http://twitter.com/#!/askcheyb
Black women are not submissive. Nonsense! You just don’t know how to make her that way. Why are so many black men stating that they want a Michelle Obama type of woman yet they themselves are not a Barack Obama? They totally lack the traits of a man who encompasses a woman being submissive to him.
It is said that a black woman who grows up in a home without a father is unwilling to submit to her man. it is true that black women who grew up in homes without a father may not know what submission is and usually don’t have that level of respect for men. When a man who is a loving, protecting leader finds a good woman she will naturally slowly submit to him.
Some women submit to the wrong men. These women will submit to a man who did not display good leadership skills, along with also acting in her best interest. Walking away feeling like submission has messed up her life up and feeling like submission means being a doormat.
A father protects, gives his daughter what she wants and needs while teaching her about life. Fathers raise their daughters to be independent, meanwhile spoiling them and making sure they have everything they need. A good father sends his daughter out into the world with knowledge instilled in her by him. She leaves home with knowledge, purpose and a sense of direction. Quite naturally the daughter has a great amount of respect for her father.
For the most part a majority of black men do not play their correct role in the household or relationships with black women. Therefore their woman is unwilling to submit to him. A lot of black men will only play the role of sex partner and protector.
Black men will often meet a black woman and instruct her to be strong, be independent and don’t ask him for anything. She will do exactly that. But, now that she has been strong, independent and done everything on her own, you want her to bow down and turn her life over to a man. She did not get to where she is today by being submissive in every relationship she encountered. Had she done so she may not be the successful woman that you are now interested in.
The successful single black woman who dates black men is more then likely going to do everything on her own, so of course she is going to lack the respect needed to submit to a man. Submission has to be earned. It should only be given when you have asked for her hand in marriage. Even if a man came along who would assist her by giving her knowledge to better herself and mow the lawn sometime that would be a start.
You can’t expect a black woman to submit to you when you are the type of man that offers her no assistance. Why should she submit to a man that has her changing her own oil? Will you at least help her locate a repair shop when her car breaks down? Did you make sure that she had AAA?
You should not expect a woman to submit to you if you have not found your own direction and purpose in life. Steel sharpens steel You can’t come with a empty pencil expecting to write the laws of the house. Even if lead was in the pencil she would only use the other end to erase what you wrote. A man has to set the tone and be firm and decisive. His instructions should be written in ink. Pages: 1 2
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