So, I was surfing the internet the other day and came across this video. I found it interesting because she was talking about being ok with your sexuality.. I know how difficult that is to do.
Owning Your Own Sexuality
The day before I was talking to a friend and we were discussing how I’m always hard on men but I’m super nice to women. I thought about it and realized that’s because I’m a woman and I understand how sensitive women are. I can curse a man out and he will laugh, smile, write me off and be friends with me the next day. Men take things I say very lightly. But with women, you can say the slightest thing to them and they become so deeply hurt. They can’t take in what they dish out. I’ve always been the type of woman who uplifts other women. People say I’m fake and always trying to give another woman the one up. But I say maybe I choose to see the positive in her. Not that I don’t talk about any woman. If you have micro braids that are half hot pink and half smurf blue, I’m definitely going to talk about you, right after I pull out my iPhone and take a photo of you to post on twitter.
When I’m out with a group of girls, I usually notice most of them women in the group scan the other women around them and often will have something negative to say about the other womens style/look/outfit. Meanwhile my mind is focused on me and if I do happen to scan my surrounding my eyes usually land on the hot chick who seems to have it all together. I love the beauty of a woman.
These same chicks who are scanning and saying negative things are also quick to say something to me about my appearance. It’s either I’m not perfect enough or I’m showing too much. I’ve gone through so many stages of life – from being a tomboy in my adolescent years to maturing into a sexy woman. The more I matured, the more in love I became with being a woman. I love the way we can dress to accentuate our shape. I enjoy the different colors of make-up we brush on. I remember back in Wisconsin, women used to turn their noses up at me when I was in the stores. My cleavage was always peeking. I never understand why women turned their noses up at me. Wisconsin was not the place for me. Moving to Vegas was such a breathe of fresh air for me. It was nice to be surrounded by women who were comfortable with their bodies. It’s acceptable to be sexy in Vegas. No one rolled their eyes at me for being me. Instead people embraced me. People asked to take photos with me.
Well all the accolades came within the first few years of my arrival to Vegas. Then the jealous women started to get in my ear. Then it was hey Kissy, you dress too sexy. Or you dress to nice. You need to dress more casual. I went in and out of stages of trying to tone it down. I called it “trying to look normal”. I wasn’t too happy with trying to look normal and blend in.
One night I went to a club with a friend and for once I threw on a t-shirt, some jeans and some heels. Something really bad happened to me that night. Something was taken from me. More than anything I didn’t understand what had occurred, or why. I was for once dressed casually. I was completely covered up. I would never expect a man to be so taken with me that he couldn’t stop but help himself to me when I was passed out. It was really confusing.
I struggled through this confusion about my identify for a few more years. More girls came along to talk about the way I dressed. Told me more decent men would talk to me if I just covered up. So I followed suit to cover up and yet still every man’s description of me seemed to be “sexy”. Even women would come up to me and tell me that I was sexy.
This is when I stopped and accepted it. I’m sexy. It doesn’t matter what I have on. I’m sexy. Even in a plastic garbage bag I’m still sexy. There is something about me that breathes and exudes sex. No point of me fighting it anymore. It is what it is. And I own that shit.
So it’s funny now when women don’t understand me. They think I’m odd or crazy cause I take half naked pics. They think I’m odd when I say what I want to say and do what I want to do. But you know what. It feels good being me. Cause for once, I know who I am and I love being me.
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oh yes it is!
it’s a damn great thing!!!! Freaking A!!
YES IT IS!!!!!!
I Simply LOVE Being Female & All That Goes With That Title, Including My Sexuality & Sharing That With My Partner. But, I Can’t Wear That Teddy No More… LOL
We cant help it! We just are….with or without makeup! Now thats Meeee!
LOL. You are too funny PRIMA.
Im with Prima Donna! Women need to help and nurture each other in their own individual sexuality! Start with our mothers, daughters, sisters, aunts and neices AND….by verbally complimenting other women you dont know….ALL of the beautiful ones…break your walls down! Your beautiful Kissy.
<~~~IS GETING DRUNK HUNNY WOOOOO!!!!!!!!!
Thank you Sally
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Great article about a womans sexuality makes you think, thanks
Yep….
Its ok to be sexy, your body is a gift from god and its meant to be cared for and admired.
Yes it is kissy,but for some,”THEY NEED TO BRING SEXY BACK”"LOL
oh momma u make me str8
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It’s late Kissy, go to sleep sexy!
Who’s that Kissy?
The photo is Tiara
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Thank you for your testimony!
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Nice..
I luv to be sexy when i get a chance and feel sexy theres no better feeling
I been there also. Im on on my off day. Lol .
If you dont make a big deal of it , other people wouldnt either. They would see it for what it is and move on.
As long as people know the difference between sexy and sleazy…
@louis,you are too funny…..lol……But on the real kissy i think with all the stresses that life is bringing us all,wheather it be your job,home,extended family life,or friends…When you allow yourself to get swallowed all up in the mix with other peoples stuff,One can forget what it is to be SEXY!!!! THEIR INTEREST HAS GOTTEN LOST ABOUT WHAT IT IS TO PASS BY YOUR OWN MIRROR,AND SAY,”DANG I LOOK HOT”AND REALLY FEEL IT,NOT JUST A BUNCH OF TALK!!!! WHEN YOU SEE YOUR OWN SEXINESS,IT WILL MAKE YOU OVERFLOW WHEN IT COMES TO SHOWING N SHARING YOUR SEXINESS WITH SOMEONE ELSE!!!! SO PEOPLE IF YOU FEEL IT,BRING THAT BAD BOY/GIRL ON OUT,NO DOUBT…
This story is deep, and i feel you to the fullest!!!!!! It’s amazing what we go through,n still be able to bounce back…I admire you kissy too the upmost,keep on pushing n doing your thing,my sister…….Whoop Whoop!!!!!!!
WOW, JUST READ ENTIRE STORY.. I RELATE TO THAT GURL… SHE IS GORGEOUS.. AND U ARE AN ANGEL FROM HEAVEN SISTER.. KEEP DOING WHAT MAKES U HAPPY AND GLOW INSIDE.. MUAH KISS .. ROYAL KING LOUIS MODERN DAY KING AND PROPHET. MUAH KISS
I JUST REACHED OUT TO TIARA ON YOUTUBE… WE HAVE SPECIAL BOND.. OMG.. LOVE U KISSY
LOL Louis, you always make me laugh. Thank You.
Thank you SHARON
sexy is like a fancy car nice to ride but do you want to keep up with the maintenance lol
“For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.”
- Audrey Hepburn
It’s perfectly acceptable to be sexy after all how long will sexy last,enjoy it while u still got it,if u don’t like it change ur channell..
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Bringing – sexy back -YEA!!!
Oh i so do accept my sexuality, i love been sexy
I knw i knw! Wel i m super super sexy baby! Agent 009 n 1/2!
This is so true. My ex.fiancee is a prime example. Before she owned it, she didnt dress sexy often. But, them t.shirts, sweaters, and jeans…damn, damn, damn! Doods were eyeballin nonstop! Now, though…shiiiit, its a wonder she aint cause no car accidents, lmao!!
Hmm I'm SEXY
Sexy even with the nappy hair…lhh but serious
Ya damn skippy!..its ok..2 b sexy!
Mmm I'm sex and appreciate maself.
I feel you on this one, Kissy. I used to feel really embarrassed and really awkward that no matter how much I tried to "dress it down", tig-ol-bitties, hips, and an invisible waistline still drew attention. I would feel ashamed, like I was doing something wrong. When I dated my business school boyfriend, he encouraged me to just embrace the fact that no matter what, I had a sensuality to me, whether I was trying or not. Things didn't work out with us, but he was able to teach me to love me and own that some of us have just got it.
Thanks for the positive and uplifting post. Gonna share it with some other ladies I know have a hard time accepting their femininity. I'm sorry that you had the experience that you shared with us…
Man! I use to HATE my big ole jiggly butt, lol I HATED when I felt men looking at my butt, but now, look look look ,<)
You are being nice again!
WOW… I Went Thru The Same Phase Dressing Down Cuz Some Man Had The Nerve To Tell Me "I Was Walking Sex"… You See My Profile Pix & I Took That Pix In Jamaica.
I know that's right Ms Kissy you always on the ball. Ms. Kissy if ur Sexy! Love it !
im one of those woman but ive been tryn to accept it plus every where i go men always compliment my beauty n my husband do to lol boosted confidence
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Yes ladies. The last thing u want to be is not sexy.. Love the fact that you turn heads!!
embrace your beauty ladies for its on borrowed time that you have it so enjoy it and share it with the fella's holla….
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